It's getting harder and harder to do my own house cleaning, I can't afford a maid and my daughter works full time and has a place of her own. My sons live in Alabama and have new babies, I don't know how to handle this. I'm not used to not being able to do these things, I can do the light cleaning but the vacuuming and dusting. I hate this about me, I'm not a not clean house person. Everything has a place and everything is in its place.
House cleaning has become an issue for me too. I try doing only one thing at a time, a day. And although I'm not supposed to sweep or vacuum, if I do either I only do one room at a time. But when I'm unable to do any of it, the housework site & sits. My hubby does cook and very well & he cleans the kitchen, but cleaning house is not his forte. We have separate bathrooms since our last child moved out, and I jewel mine clean, he keeps his as he pleases. Bugs me to no end, but it's his bathroom. I never do any housework over my shoulders where I have to reach up. As long as I can keep the house clean enough that my asthma doesn't flare up I don't make a fuss or try to overdo it myself. Sometimes it drives me nuts though because I have always been very organized. Like you... Everything has its place. Hugs!! 🙂💕🙏🌼
My Medicare company (Care 1st) did a phone survey to learn my needs and problems. I had always been strong enough until recently, but after a year bedridden, the house is a wreck. I could just keep up on the laundry, but anything else required standing and moving. I recently filed a new VA claim for my DDD, one thing they look at is if you can care for yourself and your hygiene. I realized that no, I can't. I can take a full shower only twice a week because it hurts to stand so long, and cleaning is incredibly painful even with meds. I can barely stand long enough to wash my bowl and spoon, and vacuum and dusting and scrubbing is not gonna happen. If I get the VA claim, I can get a service, and if I have the spine surgery I will ask for home health. Just... who will watch them to keep things from disappearing or getting broken if I'm stuck in bed recovering?
I use the VA as well and it wouldn't do me any good to ask for that, they wouldn't approve it since my disability isn't service connected. I've already asked, I do get Chiropractic care outside of the VA since they don't have one in the clinic and there isn't one at the Ann Arbor VA hospital either. I would have the same trust issues as well, not like I have anything really worth stealing but just having someone strange in my home with all my Meds would make me nervous.
It has gotten so hard to clean my house. I empathize with you. We moved into a larger house just before I had the stroke that pushed me off the pain cliff. I have been blessed to have an angel woman who comes once a month & does what I cannot. Most nights I am in so much pain I barely get the dinner made. I am finding I have to fix food that doesn't take too long to make or I will crawl to my chair & pant with the pain. Who knew?
I don't do this myself, but some people I know have set up a trade of sorts. My friend does up 'dump dinners' that people can throw in their slow cooker. In return for the meals, one woman does her housework, and another does her shopping. It works for the three of them. Maybe someone at your church or in your neighborhood would be interested in trading house cleaning for something you're able to do...cooking, knitting, accounting...whatever.
That's a great idea, to work sgare! Theee are also companies that will deliver ingredients for meals, quick and easy and healthy. Other companies will deliver the meal ready to eat, but it isn't pizza or Chinese, but a healthy real meal! Hellofresh and sunfare are 2 I know of. There are also local places.