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Feb 17, 2015 10:19 PM

I'm having such a hard time today. Getting sick makes everything hurt even more. I've been trying to exercise and eat healthier but it is so hard when you hurt all the time. Just very frustrated with the pain and not being able to do everything I want to do. 😦😳

Feb 18, 2015 3:44 AM

Sorry to hear you're having a crappy time today. With you on the frustration... I am now happy when I manage to walk to my local shop (used to be a 2min walk)!! Be kind to yourself, someone recently said that I am grieving for the person I used to be. That was the turning point for me because it exactly described how I felt. I'm far more kind to myself and put myself under a lot less pressure and I can say that emotionally it has really helped. Feeling naff is absolutely ok, and be kind to yourself when you feel like this. Look after yourself and do something gentle that makes you smile... You deserve it :)

Feb 18, 2015 3:46 AM

Lucky, hugs to you.

Feb 18, 2015 8:15 AM

Lucky13, Madbynature is truly right on target by saying (someone told him) he's grieving for his old self. We all are, and it's taken me nearly 5 yr to accept I will never be the same. I'm 53 now. I had returned to school & graduated in 2003 feeling the best I've ever felt. I had major illnesses from 1989-2000, even had 2 minor surgeries in 2003 before going to work. I worked 7 years and had big plans for my "late in life" career & traveling with my husband. All that crashed & burned following my 2010 paraovarian mass surgery. Although I've accepted where I am, I still struggle with it, daily. But I do not beat myself up about it. Its ok to cry, scream, seek solitude, but more importantly don't blame yourself. Do things to make your life enjoyable, albeit in alternate ways. Praying for you!

Feb 18, 2015 10:22 AM

Lucky so sorry to hear that you are struggling. I think it's safe to say that everyone on here (no matter what condition they have) has periods like that too. It means that even though we may not all rush to message you - as we may be fighting our own demons - we can all empathise with you entirely. Like Mad and Flappy has said, it's a struggle 'mourning' for your old self. I wasn't expecting a diagnosis that had no magic solution at the end, and although fibromyalgia is not life-threatening in itself it has posed a threat to my sanity and my emotional well-being at times, as I've often felt that I can't cope. Luckily these dark days pass, so hang in there, do what you need to do to be as comfortable as you can..... And remember there are others who understand how incredibly difficult this road is to travel. Hope that you are soon over the hump and feeling stronger. Hugs n stuff x

Feb 18, 2015 11:20 AM

Lucky13, sending you gentle hugs and sending healing prayers your way. I'm so sorry you're suffering so much. Feel better.

Feb 18, 2015 11:21 AM

Thanks for the support everyone. It helps knowing others have been there

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