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Jun 17, 2016 1:23 PM

Well day seemed normal,pain everywhere because of this monster heat wave, then I go on Facebook to find out that My Uncle I was very close to has passed! No one in the family calls our family to tell us! Then I find out our family has been disowned!? For what bring supportive and caring?! I don't get it! Please pray for my Aunt and Cousin's, they really need it. Losing thier spouse and father is not an easy thing to go through, I am broken hearted for them and that my Uncle is gone. I just went through this 6 month's ago, I don't know how much more I can take.

Jun 17, 2016 1:34 PM

Oh Moparmom, I'm so sorry! It's never easy losing a loved one, but to find out like that...wow! No matter how they felt, it was very insensitive not to be notified. Hugs & prayers for you all! 🙂💕🙏🌼

Jun 17, 2016 4:12 PM

Oh Moparmom I am so sorry this has happened you are one of the most compassionate people and to be disowned on top of losing your uncle?!?! Everyone will be in my prayers.. {{{Hugs}}}💕🙏🏻🌻😊

Jun 17, 2016 8:01 PM

Thank You Ladies, but I don't want prayer for me just for my Aunt and Cousin's who just lost thier soul mate and father. I'll be sticking to my music and screaming into my pillows for therapy, it helps.

Jun 17, 2016 8:03 PM

I'm so sorry! !! Stay strong

Jun 19, 2016 3:05 PM

I have decided that I am going to shutdown my Facebook account, I can't take anymore of my cousin's drama. I know that he just list his dad and it sucks that today is Father's day and his dad is gone, but I haven't stopped crying since my uncle passed away and I am still pretty raw from my Aunt's death 6 months ago, hell I haven't even had a chance to go to Florida to bury her ashes. I am sick of his childish behavior and remarks over something our other Aunt did and him clumping the rest of us with her when we had nothing to do with what she did. Heck I don't even live in the same State as she does! I know everyone has thier way of dealing with grief and if this is his way then I can't handle it. I am totally going off Facebook all together. As soon as I can find another way to save my photos off that account it's gone for good! Please continue to pray for them especially that one Cousin as he really needs the prayers, he gained a lot of hate and anger since his dad's passing, his other brother however is hiding his emotions, to be strong for my Aunt...At least he hasn't disowned me.

Jun 19, 2016 3:17 PM

Moparmom..that's even more of a reason to pray for you.. I'm glad u have a coping mechanism that helps. However don't underestimate your own deep self care. You have lost someone u love too and just like your aunt and cousin you need support also. So the prayers will be for all of you and your reward will be great for the selflessness you are showing.

Jun 19, 2016 5:44 PM

You don't have to shut down your account because of one person. You can block that person then you can't see any of their posts and they cant see yours.
I blocked my cousin after she told me that I was a waste of space and air and that I should kill myself on Facebook. Now I see nothing she posts, I dont see her comments on other peoples posts and she cant see mine.
I would suggest taking a break and not logging in for a while and let things calm down before deciding if you want to remove your account or not.

Jun 19, 2016 6:56 PM

I had to do that with my sister-in-law, too. It was a long time coming. All the high drama & tragic everyday tears & sarcasm was making me sick. I decided to just block her, then it was like a breath of heavenly peace. If you do block, he will not know it & that is even better. Good luck. We have to sometimes take extraordinary measures to stay on our pain path & keep our mental health from deteriorating.

Jun 20, 2016 4:13 PM

I'm so sorry to hear of this added stress by your cousin. I don't use FB but taking a break or at least blocking that cousin would alleviate some stress. Allow yourself to grieve your losses. Sending you hugs & prayers, for you, your family, & for your cousin who's pain seeks to hurt others unnecessarily. 🙂💕🙏🌼

Jun 20, 2016 8:31 PM

Moparmom, having just suffered the losses of my Aunt and my Godfather in a matter of days from one another, I understand how you feel. I just had back to back funerals and the stress of it all is dabilitating. Block your Cousin for a while so that you can't see or have to be subject to his drama. There's no reason for you to take on that additional stress. You are a good and kind hearted person and I can't imagine you closing your entire account just because of him. Take some deep cleansing breaths and try to relax a bit. He won't notice that you've blocked him and he won't see any of your posts either. It will be like a breath of fresh air. At a later date you'll be able to decide if you went to unblock him or leave well enough alone. Sending you much love, several gentle {{{Hugs}}} for support and prayers that you are able to find some peace so that you can grieve your losses in your own time without worrying about childish tantrums and drama.💕🙏🏻🌻😊

Jun 28, 2016 1:06 PM

Frustrating, I am so sick of dealing with death! Husband got a call yesterday and was told that the guy in the dinner that was shot and killed was HIS Uncle. Worst part of the whole thing his uncle was at the register paying to leave!😞 They caught 2 of the shooters and third turned himself in. Now maybe my husband and the rest of his family that knew his uncle well can heal knowing that they are behind bars.

Today I got my chest x-ray as the first step towards getting my surgery done and guess what it's ABNORMAL! Now I have to have a cat scan with contrast done to find out what is sitting in my right lung.
Sorry I just had to vent, I am just really really frustrated right now.

Jun 28, 2016 3:27 PM

Oh geez Moparmom! I'm so sorry about your hubby's uncle! We've had several r robberies with victims killed lately. It's becoming an ugly world with little to no respect for life. Try to stay positive on your lung. I worried about the nodule in mine for a year, but there second MRI showed absolutely no change. I'll be praying yours is nothing serious! (((Hugs))) & love friend! 🙂💕🙏

Jun 28, 2016 4:48 PM

Oh Moparmom I am so sorry to hear this!!! I just id another death myself. That makes 3 in 3 weeks. It sucks and it's debilitating. I'm praying whatever they saw is nothing bad. Sending you {{{Hugs}}}, keeping you in my prayers and sending positive vibes your way. 💕🙏🏻🌻😊

Jun 28, 2016 4:54 PM

AlwayZ, I'm sorry to hear of your third lots also. 😢 Here in GA we say death usually comes in 3's. And it's been true all my life, but never so close together. Hopefully you both will have no more losses! Hugs & love & prayers my girls! 🙂💕🙏🌼

Jun 28, 2016 5:03 PM

Thanks Flappsy. I've always been told it comes in threes as well. I've never had the misfortune of experiencing them one right after the next and hope I never do again. Thanks for your support and prayers. Lots of love and {{{Hugs}}} Flappsy. 💕🙏🏻🌻😊

Jun 28, 2016 7:01 PM

Thank You Flappys, it just seems like one thing after another. The Funeral is Thursday and my husband doesn't like going to those things and often has to talk himself into once he is in the parking lot.
As far as my lung is concerned, I am really worried about it. But I will have to wait and see what the cat scan say's, it just may hinder my surgery and I have been planning a trip to Florida for a year now and the only Time I can do is for me to leave on July 9th, but now the cat scan I have to have done may hinder the time and I have already paid for professional photographer to take a Hugh family photo of the whole family 30+ in the photo before anything happens to my parents, (both are in poor health! So everyone has that certain day off got the outfits bought, so frustrating from the get go from 6months ago to all events leading to today. I have harnessed some of that frustration into a clothing and blanket drive for the flooding victims in West Virginia, I know that my Aunt will be happy for clothes other than what she has on her back as well as many other's. So if you have clothes that don't fit,let me know, I'll give you my address and I will pay for shipping and I will ship them to West Virginia, alot of folks just are not getting the help they need. So I made it my project to help out even from another state.

Alwayz, I am so sorry to hear about a third death in your family as well, I pray don't have to deal with anymore. It's just to many to close together. I am sending you a lot of Love and prayer's and Sunshine my friend. If you need or want to talk I am hear for You! 😘💕🙏🌞🌹

Jun 28, 2016 7:55 PM

I'll definitely look and see if I have extra clothing. I've lost weight since my stomach surgery... everywhere but my stomach! Lol. But I may have some smaller clothes in a shed, unless my hubby has already donated them. What size would your Aunt need?

Jun 28, 2016 8:01 PM

Moparmom, thank you for your kind words. I appreciate you and all my pain family members that I have formed very strong and unbreakable bonds with. I consider you my "peeps", my family, my support and forever friends. Your an amazing person and I am happy you're part of my life. Yes, we have been through much together as a group a d each of us our hardships.. I'm just glad I have such awesome folks I can reach out to and support them AND be supported myself. Sending much love, gentle {{Hugs}} and a promise that we will all get through this together!!! 💕🙏🏻😍🌻

Jun 28, 2016 8:24 PM

My Aunt said she wears a large in pants and a XL in top's, much like all of us ladies in the family we are busty lol!😂 Thank you Flappys for everything! And what don't fit them they are passing it along to the next person in need. If you know of anyone whose has clothes that would fit a 10 year old child let me know, I believe its a 10 year old girl, her parents lost everything as well as she of course, not sure what size the parents wear but I am trying to figure that out, like I said I am putting a lot of my frustration into helping the flood victims. I can't think of a better way to spend my time and my kids are into helping me organize this.

Jun 29, 2016 12:25 AM

I think your pain gate may be wide open...my Friend. If you don't know much about your pain gate, look it up, it can be interesting. I'm new to the concept but it sure makes some sense.
JudyLynn

Jun 29, 2016 12:52 AM

Moparmom you are so kindhearted and I am privileged to be able to count you among my peeps here as my friend. What a wonderful thing you are doing. I have to clean out my things because I have years of brand new clothing that I wore when I worked and don't wear them any longer. All are in beautiful condition and Are tucked away in my bureaus. I will go through all of them and donate everything that I no longer wear so that someone else can have warm, nice clothing that they may not otherwise have access to. After what has transpired in our lives recently, I think it's a fantastic way to redirect sadness and despair into a positive project. Thanks for being the person that you are. You're a blessing to this community and to many others. (Flappsy is right there with you and I also hold her in very high regard). Sending much love, gentle {{{Hugs}}} and prayers for better days ahead. 💕🙏🏻🌻😊

Jun 29, 2016 3:05 AM

Moparmom, You are FABULOUS,STRONG,AMAZING,FAITHFUL,GENEROUS AND LOVING!!! You are doing a great job, I know our Heavenly Father smiles each time he thinks of you...you are an amazing child of God!!!!!😃 Much love , Terri

Jun 30, 2016 12:38 AM

Thank You Ladies, I sat here are read the responses and just cried, Thank You all for all the sweet and supportive comments. I am only trying to do what I would want done for my community if something like this ever happened. This pain community is the best, Thank You All! I did talk to my one Aunt today and my other family member that lost thier home to the flood, literally list it as the flood waters picked it up off it's foundation and took it away, simply heartbreaking. I see the photos and hear the stories of heroism and the people who lost thier life, I will never complain about anything ever again seeing how bad alot of my family and other's in West Virginia have it. I am blessed with a community with wonderful and amazing people in it! Love,hugs and prayer's to you all !🙏💕😘🌞

Jun 30, 2016 12:49 PM

Moparmom! You deserve all the warm fuzziest and hugs and love...Terri

Jun 30, 2016 10:14 PM

Flappys, I am awaiting a call from my Aunt to find out.

Jul 02, 2016 4:43 PM

Omg the 3s theory happened to me last year but I hadn't heard of that before. This can be a very terrible world!

Jul 02, 2016 5:22 PM

Flappys I sent you a pm with information.

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