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Mar 04, 2017 9:21 PM

I can't believe I'm actually saying this. But I'm having the emotion of wanting to hide away. I'm still working on getting my footing as far as this next phase of my recovery. I'm really want and need this weight to come off. However, eveytime I seem to get a handle on my activities I get knocked five paces behind where instated from.
I've got a family event tomorrow and I do the even want to go. Yes, all my family knows what's happening and they seem to be supporting. But I just don't want to be seen like this anymore.

Mar 04, 2017 9:45 PM

(((( gentle hugs ))))
Its so hard when we got junctures like this. Looking in mirrors and seeing the you that you don't want to be.

We tend to focus on the weight, or clothing size etc. and in doing that we forget that we are so much more than the numbers associated with weight and age etc. We get so focused on that magical number (whether it's a weight or age etc.) that we lose sight of the amazingly beautiful person we are.

Slow and steady hun. Keep your focus on forward so that "yesterday" doesn't weigh you down. You can do this. I believe in you.

Mar 05, 2017 1:03 AM

New, I know that feeling! I am so very tired all of the time and I want to get this weight off but have a hard time doing it because I'm in pain for day's afterwards. It doesn't help that my Rheumatologist wants me get the weight off. I know that I am overweight but it's not like I haven't tried and it's not easy when you have hypothyroidism and Sjogrens Syndrome, Osteoarthritis and neuropathy!

I have a bad self image problem when it comes to my smile, I know it sounds wierd but I don't have any teeth anymore, I have Dentures but the bottoms don't fit comfortably and about an hour after I put them in, I have to take them right back out.

Mar 05, 2017 10:06 AM

Well does anyone want to try to go keto with me?
Apparently it's really great for weightloss and is geared towards those with metabolic and health issues (us)
I was told you will kind of feel crappy for the first week or 2 as your body adjusts to burning fat instead of carbs but that after the transition you'll feel way better in general. No calorie counting (except to make sure you are eating enough and not staving), just carb counting. And eating lots of fat and protein. Backward from what the general North American guidelines are but the results are undeniable.
I'm not doing it for weightloss, I'm doing it because the naturopath thinks it'll help my health overall.
If i loose weight that just a bonus.
I start Monday

Mar 05, 2017 1:03 PM

Sounds like something that could help me and my kids.....I already carbon count for my daughter as she's type 1 diabetic so it should help us choose the healthier carbs rather than the easy bad carbs!

Mar 05, 2017 2:40 PM

Thanks guys I appreciate your support. I'll consider this new diet. Right now I'm so depressed I can't even think of adding anything else to list of things that might not work.

Mar 05, 2017 3:14 PM

Body image issues come in all shapes and sizes. I grew up the skinny little kid that everyone picked on in school, all i ever wanted was to put some weight on so i wasn't the target of all three bullies. Now I'm older, weight is OK, but now it's my health and ED issues that have killed my self confidence. Guess what I'm trying to say is no matter, size, weight, or looks, we all find something wrong with ourselves instead of looking at the good.

Mar 05, 2017 7:31 PM

Try not to think of diets as diets. Lifestyle change is what i like to call it.
If i feel better after the initial crash that's going to happen I'll probably continue. Will i have the odd high carb treat? Yeah. But that's what it'll be, a once in a while treat and it'll probably be fruit not cake or ice-cream or some rice with supper.
I think you are putting to much pressure on yourself. Surgery takes a long time to heal from.
And just to stir the pot... what happens if you don't lose weight? What happens if the weight you are at is what you are ment to be?
In my opinion anything that can help overall health wouldn't hurt to much to try.

Mar 05, 2017 7:36 PM

Newfibrogirl girl I agree with Gotobef but if I was you I wouldn't start with the carbs below 20g as you've just had major surgery, you should start with a higher amount of reduced carbs like 50gs of carbs

Mar 05, 2017 7:43 PM

If you're worried about your weightloss and not sure which way would be best for you then you need to speak to your Dr

Mar 05, 2017 7:48 PM

I appreciate your thoughts and I actually agree with you. As far as the current weight. I've thought of this my self. I've been this weight before I'd lost 208 lbs about 10 yrs ago. And kept it off for 8 or so yes. And even though I'm considered very obese. Thank GOD I've still not ever been a diabetic not even pre diabetes. Metabolic wish I'm healthier then the drs think I should be. As most of us know movement is our biggest hurdle. If I could just move more effeinctly, things would be somewhat better.
Right now I'm in such a funk.

Mar 05, 2017 8:08 PM

Hell i don't think anyone should jump right in at 20 carbs max. I won't be. I'll probably be around 50 carbs as well.
And you really need to throw out your scale. Don't go by numbers. Muscle weighs more than fat so you could be gaining muscle while losing fat and the scale would never move, or it could go up. Go by clothing fit and how healthy you feel.
The 3 keys to health are sleep, exercise and proper nutrition. All 3 are important. Do what is best for your body.

Mar 05, 2017 9:05 PM

I echo everyone else! Also remember to not eat below your BMR (basel metabolic rate) This is how many calories they would be feeding you if you were in a coma. You're not in coma, you need more calories than as if you were, unless you want your metabolism to slow down so that you have to eat even less to lose any fat. I was to the point of 800 calories a day and weighed 305 pounds. I got to the point I didn't have the energy to leave my couch, and I was still steadily gaining.

After decades of eating as few calories as I could and still survive, I wasn't living, I am proud to say I'm now eating 2300 calories a day and I am slowly losing fat! I have dropped over six inches from my waist alone in the last year. And the energy I have now is amazing, not so much the injuries that come with the added exercise though.

Mar 05, 2017 9:28 PM

Great job ScaryAnn!
Myfitnesspal tells me too do close to the 1200 calorie mark if i want to lose weight.
My naturopath said to aim for 2000 calories a day 55-65% fat, no more than 15% carbs and the rest protein.
You can change your calorie and macro goals manually to better reflect what your body needs.
And it seems to me that you want to 'run the marathon' right away. End goals are great but you need to make smaller more attainable ones to get to the big one. Let's pretend that a marathon was the end goal and health wasn't an issue... no one can just get off the couch and run a marathon. It takes training, usually years, for healthy person to get there. In this analogy it seems to me that you are mad you can't run the marathon yet when you are only just starting out.
What are your goals? If you don't mind sharing. Remember they need to be realistic, have a specific time line, and you must be at least 70% sure you can accomplish it.

Mar 05, 2017 10:57 PM

Gotobef is correct. You need to have smaller more obtainable goals starting out. Such as a lite exercise plan, proper nutrition plan and the goal of losing say 5 pounds this month. Slowly work yourself up. Starting out with the smaller goals makes the end goal more obtainable.

Mar 06, 2017 1:28 AM

I echo what everyone else is saying plus when you make small changes and when you lose weight in a steady and slow manner, the weight is more likely to come off and stay off.
You change your eating habits slowly and make one change at a time you're more likely to stick to those eating habits AND the weight is more likely to stay off as well.

Mar 06, 2017 9:32 AM

Gotobev on MFP check out the group eat more 2 weigh less. My struggles for the past year are there in the forums. There are calculators there for BMR and some other awesome information. It discuses why we should never eat below BMR and how to maximize what we eat and still loose fat. It's changed my life.

Mar 06, 2017 12:24 PM

This image might be helpful

Mar 06, 2017 1:05 PM

Just as an update I had another infusion today and got on the scale. And I've lost five lbs since last week. I'm so excited. And hope I can capitalize on this loss and keep going.

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