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Heartbroken and pissed

Sep 15, 2016 4:57 PM

My sister said she did not want my gift i planned for her birthday. which was a fire and ice buffet at a spa. so I told mom I was gonna just go anyway And mom said oh so u can drive yourself to a party but not to therapy. Keep in mind she offers to take me to therapy because she is going the same area. so my sister just spit on my gift and mom pulled rank..yeah..I'm pissed..my sister talking biut it's because I had therapy this morning. Yeah so what. I was trying to do a nice thing for her birthday. But thst ok I won't ever make that mistake again.

Sep 15, 2016 7:48 PM

Oh no! I'm so sorry! Try not to stress over either one of them. I'm not surprised by your mom's attitude from what you're shared, but I am surprised by your sister's. Enjoy it yourself and give her a card. Hugs love & prayers you have an enjoyable relaxing time! 🙂💕🙏🌸

Sep 15, 2016 7:59 PM

Family members are sometimes our biggest hurdles!

Sep 15, 2016 10:42 PM

Remember that when they pull crap like that its not because of you is because they are broken and feel the need to try to break you.
I'm sorry your dealing with more crap from your family

Sep 15, 2016 11:44 PM

So sorry to hear this hun we are all here for you xx

Sep 16, 2016 12:38 AM

I can totally understand why you would feel the way you do. I think it makes things harder when your family don't understand your condition and your pain.

Just remember that you don't need their approval to be yourself. They won't ever really understand how you feel physically, emotionally and mentally every day. How could they?

My advice is to take a step back, try and remove emotion out of the situation and spend some time doing something for YOU!

Hope things work out🌸

Sep 16, 2016 10:36 AM

Hun just take one day for you and let them worry about them! You have a right enjoy yourself once in awhile, you work hard to take care of them even though you are in pain yourself. So go enjoy and don't give them a second thought! Praying for you luv. 😘🙏💖🌹💐🌞

Sep 16, 2016 11:43 AM

Thank you all you guys are awesome and I appreciate all the kind words.
This whole situation is a mess and I'm so frustrated with how my life is stacking up. I'm having a really hard time processing my illness and my families reaction to my illness all the financial issues and all the bull.. I hate conflict and I've always had a hard time putting myself first and fighting for myself. It's hard to have multiple stages going on at the same time. And even though this issus is relatively small in the grand scheme of things it's kind f if like the straw the broke the camel. Regardless of anything else im glad I have you guys to vent to.

Sep 16, 2016 1:52 PM

Sigh, I have been reading all your struggles with your family. I hope you take to heart all these great comments here .. breathe, rest and I'm glad you saved some spoons for yourself... I thought your gift was thoughtful and the response was hurtful ... Hoping for better days for you!!! You are awesome!!! Gentle ((hugs))

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