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Dec 28, 2015 8:27 AM

how do you stop getting emotional and sick from your mom being sick just so scared will everything work out be alright. my mom is in kidney failure has a crack skull from falling. does that affect her mind. I appreciate and help me thru this pleaae.

Dec 28, 2015 8:51 AM

I'm sorry you have to deal with this. I live with two parents who are I'll. One with double cancer my dad. And mom who just had heart stent surgery. And I can tell u that for me my parents have turned into the biggest kids. They are scared because they are now faced with mortality. There health is now being challenged .
It could be hard for her to bounce back. I don't know all the medical ins and outs but I will say to try and be more patient with her but don't enable her. Let her do the things she can do once she has healed properly.

Dec 28, 2015 8:59 AM

why do i feel emotional and sick newfibrogirl

Dec 28, 2015 9:00 AM

its best to let her sleep be on her end we stay on our end as well let her go do on her own

Dec 28, 2015 9:07 AM

You feel emotional because its your mother. And u probably feel helpless. Your are syteeed out because byou are sick and now u ate needed more by her. I know that's how I felt. Or still feel. I have my limits but I have to push last them tontry to help her.

Dec 28, 2015 9:07 AM

Once u find a balance with caring for her and csreing for yourself too.

Dec 28, 2015 9:12 AM

ok thank you any more info to help me

Dec 28, 2015 9:15 AM

Your welcome. ..the only thing I could say is that you may want to find your mental escape. I'm not sure how far into this your mom is as far as if she is in therapy bfor her injuy or if you have nursing care. But one thing for sure is that it's gonna affect you and u have make sure u can get away. So u don't absorb all the fall out . accept and acknowledge your feelings and make sure your mom remember that u also need care and help.

Dec 28, 2015 9:20 AM

me hubby run around together alot

Dec 28, 2015 9:49 AM

Fluffmeister, it is normal to have the feelings that you are having. You're watching your Mom in a crisis and there isn't anything you can do to make it better. It's never easy watching your parents being injured, sick or declining in health.
I am sorry that your Mom was so severely injured in a fall. Newfibrogirl gave you very good advice (she is going through this with BOTH parents and trying to take care of herself as well). Know that you can come here and talk when you need to, we are here for you and will do what we can to help you through. Sending gentle {{{Hugs}}} and prayers for a speedy and complete recovery for your Mom. Hang in there.🌻🙏🏻

Dec 28, 2015 2:59 PM

thank you. My heart was broken my guts hit bottom floor. Im glad i join this so nobody can see here what im going thru. I had to make a decision do we stay here with her or do we move out. It took me two days to figure out what to do. I know my dad come back bite me in the ass for not helping taking care of her as we did for him. His was a big shock for me. I had breakdown. I decided t go back to work after few years of his death. I need to get out about. Its made me a different person except my mom failing in her health. We talked on the phone last night that helped but you all have help me today not scared worried and my heart not broken as much. I went to work today that helped me too.

Dec 28, 2015 3:02 PM

Im cleaning her room letting her decorate her way. Only thing we are doing is bring her furniture setting it up for her. If she needs help she will ask us to do that for her

Dec 28, 2015 5:02 PM

I feel better this evening than what I did last night. I was in terrible shape. I hope my mom is happy with everything we are doing for her and to the house too

Dec 28, 2015 5:44 PM

Fluffmeister, I'm glad you're starting to feel better. My thoughts about you feeling emotional is because it is your mom, and you don't to see her go through this. She always took care of you while you were younger and now the roles are reverse. Having worked in geriatric practice, I have seen how the parents turn into a childlike manner and how their children either don't know how to handle it or they go overboard. Know you're doing all you can, and your mom will and does appreciate everything.

Dec 28, 2015 6:49 PM

yes known that my parents adopted me at 13 i am 41. They found me at a children shelter at age of 12. They saved my life heading down wrong road. Yes I believe its very hard to watch see how she going thru her illness of kidney failure. She is in stage 3 and there 5 stages. I dont want to be without her but I also know let her be until she wants me she will tell. She wants piece quiet in her last yrs of her old yrs she has left. She is almost 64 years old

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