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Oct 10, 2015 2:10 PM

I need help in dealing with a hypochondriac, every time someone even mentions a problem with health or symthoms they have them and all the sudden they want surgery for this or that and if they don't get it they throw a fit! I need help!

Oct 10, 2015 5:50 PM

WOW!!! Perhaps you can pull together a small group of people closest to this person and have an intervention. Gently explain that you are all wanted to point out this very dangerous situation. If this person need attention and affection, this is sure not the way to go. Let them know that they are loved and fit in with y'all without having to be ill or in pain. Let them know that they may or may not recognize that they have a problem. If they were able to find a doctor and believe within themselves that they have these issues and wants surgery, that's extreme. They have to know the dangers and risks of anesthesia and what they are doing to their body is dangerous!!! I had 28 surgical procedures in 22yrs and was terrified with each and every one!! I can say, I tried (before each surgery) everything that the doctor advised hoping to AVOID) the surgery. I hope that this person is receptive to the love and honesty that you bestow upon them. You'll all be in my prayers and I wish you the very best of luck in this endeavor if you should choose to go in this direction. 🌻🙏🏻

Oct 10, 2015 10:32 PM

Moparmom, I couldn't say it any better than AlwayZ. This person needs professional help. I hope you can get a group to help you reach this person. I be praying for you and whoever this person is. (((Hugs))) for strength and patience. 🙏🌼

Oct 11, 2015 7:57 AM

Ugh, I know ppl like this. It could be just hypochondria or it could be narcissistic hypochondria. If they are genuinely scared of every medical problem that comes up then I agree they need help in the form of therapy.

My grandmother, bless her heart, is a narcissistic hypochondriac. She has to be the center of attention always and if she isn't she'll sulk. She's pretty balsy about it sometimes too.

The thing is, if this person is in the second category, there isn't really anything you can do for them. What you do is for yourself, to save your sanity, and not take on extra stress that you definitely don't need.

You can call them out if you want, but years of dealing with my grandmother has taught me that it is useless to fight them - you cannot reason with an unreasonable person. I liken what I try to do as being like a duck; Ducks have special feathers that allow water to just stream right off of them. They never really get wet. With my gramma, I try to let her ridiculousness roll right off of me. I change the subject of the conversation. I let her talk about how she feels but if she asks about me I keep my answers simple like "I'm good today" or "I'm feeling a little rundown." I save my important topics for discussion with my mom.

These are just a few coping mechanisms my mom and I have figured out over the years. If this person is not family, I would also just advise you to avoid them whenever u can. It's not worth it.

Oct 11, 2015 11:30 AM

Amieleblanc, I've never thought about it the way you put it, hadn't even considered two kinds of hypochondriacs. Thanks for enlightening me. I'll try to grow some such feathers too! Quack-quack Lol! 🙏🌼

Oct 11, 2015 1:20 PM

Amieleblanc, they fall into your grandmother's category, it is family and they live with me. But the thing is my other half entertains the problem and takes them to the doctor and we end up spending massive amounts of $ and on specialist and if they don't treat them for what they want treated for they throw a fit at the office or on the phone with their nurses.

Oct 11, 2015 1:48 PM

Moparmom, in light of that the person taking them should alert the doctor ahead of time (or you could) by calling and talking with the nurse. My hubby had to do that with his mom, and I've done it with my dad. Hugs & hope luck! If you can't change it, try your best to ignore it. 🙏🌼

Oct 11, 2015 2:39 PM

Thank you Flappys, it gets pretty crazy around here for sure!

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