I have an extruded disc at c6-c7. And I'll be honest, the hardest thing for me right now is my 5 pound lifting limit. I work in a kitchen and am used to lifting 60 lbs at once. I can't even lift a gallon of milk!! At home I have three kids. Two want to be held and carried. My kids aren't heavy kids. But I lift them way more than I should! I feel like the lifting limit takes more of my dignity and independence than my cane does.
I just needed to whine this to someone who might understand.
I can relate also! I just had my fusion surgery in October. I am still having some symptoms but I am pretty sure they are fibro related! My neck is better than it was and was up walking around within 1 hour of waking up from surgery. I hope you both get some relief soon!
I worked in kitchens for 20 years and when my neck pain started I went off work then back to work with light duty then off again. Now I'm starting in a whole new profession and I'm a lot happier and that in itself had helped a lot with my pain
TherapistUnveiled, It is degenerative. I also have a herniation in my lumbar but it isn't as severe. My 3 kids are turning 7 and 2 this month and 4 next month. I saw an orthopedic surgeon last Wednesday who wants a second opinion from a neurosurgeon (in the same office) and a neurologist. So I go back and see those two in another week and half. He wasn't sure that surgery would take care of my symptoms (main problems are weakness and headaches among 20 others) so we might wait to see on surgery. He fully believes it could heal. But thinks something else is going on with my nervous system. He used the term "sick nerves".
Aliya, I had cervical fusios in '92 & '95, when my youngest was a toddler-preschool age. It was hard but she learned to climb into my lap and really adjusted well because even though I couldn't lift her, she could sit in my lap & be read or sung to. Kids are resilient and adjust well. I now have mid & low back issues and its all I can do to lift a gallon of milk, or push a business door open. I'm 53 now and in my own eyes my future looks worse every day. I actually admitted to my husband today that I think I'll die young; my mom died just before her 66 b'day. I have a lot of the same problems she did, but at a younger age. Surprisingly my husband said he fears the same thing. I was reading my 84 yo dads recent hospitalization records(he has afib & cancer & arteriovenous malformations in am intestines). I was shocked to see that even with afib & copd his ejection fraction rate (heart pumping ability) is 70%... Mine was 50-54% just last week, and at 49% they consider you congestive heart failure.
I tell you all this to say simply, no matter how bad I feel or worse I get, I refuse to give up and sit down waiting to die. If enjoying life for me means adjusting how & when I do things, then so be it. My 8 yo granddaughter is coming overnight tomorrow, looking forward to playing games and Barbie's with her granny. She knows I have limitations, and it amazes me when she suggests different ways to play things, or puts her hand on mine (on my cane) to steady me so I don't fall. Don't beat yourself up. When I first had surgery I thought that would be the rest of my life. But I recovered and had a fun-filled healthy working & traveling life for 15 yr. Determination is a key factor, so is faith in God & in yourself. 😉
Well the one thing we can all be certain of is our life timeline is in God's hands. We won't die any sooner or later than He plans, though the devil loves it when we doubt God. Praying for you & your sweet family!