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Oct 22, 2016 11:38 AM

So today is my daughters 23 birthday and my son is celebrating getting off probation (long story, he's 16). All 12 members of our family and my sons friends are going to be here at 5pm.
I have been working my ass off all morning so at noon I took a relaxing 😎 bath πŸ›€ and for now I'm resting. I get so nervous 😩 when my family comes over. My step mother is very opinionated about how well I keep 🏑 house. She has a way of hiding insults inside compliments and she judges how well we're doing by how clean our home is. This will be the second time she has ever been here (mind you that she lives five minutes away).
I want to make a good 😊 impression on my sons friends too because they have never been here before and he just started going to the school they are at two months ago.
Getting my son up and moving has been like pulling teeth even though it's his πŸŽ‰ party too.
Honestly my home 🏑 is always clean but I'm aiming for perfectπŸ‘Œ. I don't know πŸ€” why I care about what they think πŸ’­ so much. Mostly I want to show everyone how good we're doing and I want my sons friends to want to come back over and hang out again.
My pain is minimal although my energy is very low. I'm scared 😳 if I do too much I'm going to pay πŸ’° for it later today. And this party πŸŽ‰ isn't starting till 5. I Have hours of standing, sitting on hard chairs, walking 🚢 around, and lawn games. The thought of it exhausts me. I'm happy 😊 but dreading 😟 the rest of the day!!

So how would you do things? How would you handle things?

Oct 22, 2016 1:06 PM

Phew! Sounds like you have done an amazing job planning and pacing yourself. .. I'd keep resting and fingers crossed a cat nap. Shame about your stress around your step mother ... Unfortunately you can't do much about her attitude ... Kill her with kindness and ignore the insults best you can. I'm sure as long as there is food the teens will be happy!
I can understand your stress .. rest breathe rest breathe and enjoy the day.

Oct 22, 2016 1:07 PM

I absolutely understand . My house is under construction and we are remodeling a double wide we gutted and started from scratch . I can't do much of anything so my husband has working and this on his shoulders. Some men from church came today and helped him . I wanted to make a good impression although looking around its so hard. Do what you can . Perfection will persecute your body . Celebrate with your son . Let family jabs roll off your back . They don't live in your shoes . I have fibro and chronic fatigue .listen to your body or it will make you miserable ... hugs and prayers

Oct 23, 2016 9:38 AM

Thank you for all your support. The party πŸŽ‰ was great πŸ‘ and no insults all night long from anyone!! My dad and stepmom even stayed late to visit. And my daughter and I had some one on one ☝️ time to talk too!! My mother in law took care of the clean up and our house 🏑 was so clean to begin with it looks great πŸ‘ this morning. Other than being exhausted I don't hurt real bad today!!

Oct 23, 2016 3:05 PM

Ctsego, I give you credit for having the party and going through all you have to set it up. First I'd say fuck your step mother.... she's not in your shoes and the order your home is in has nothing to do with how well you're doing. I get you want things to go well for your son and for his friends to want to come back and I'm sure they will. Don't stress over what hasn't happened yet and enjoy the party yourself. If your step mom gives you any backhanded bullshit, take her inside and have a word with her. Sending you positive vibes, good karma and well wishes for an awesome party!!! Try to enjoy. {{{Hugs}}}πŸ’•

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