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Husband Troubles

Feb 03, 2017 11:30 PM

My husband and I have been together for 7 years and for the past 3 years I have dealt with severe chronic lower back pain in my S1 L4 and L5 he has now gotten to the point to where sympathy is no longer there and just recently told me that he felt like he was more of a roommate and a butler that he was my husband has anybody else have this problem? I feel like that my marriage is on the fritz and if I don't get better my marriage will get better.

Feb 04, 2017 3:25 PM

Yes Tilda I've had the same problem but in reverse. My wife and i have been together for 30 years but as my health has gotten worse, so has our relationship. If you ever need to talk just message me

Feb 04, 2017 7:22 PM

I have so many problems and my husband is absolutely great about them . One thing I make sure I do ,everyday, is tell him how much I appreciate him and all he does for me and our family. I tell him how I appreciate how he busts his rearend everyday to provide for us since I am no longer working,how much ai appreciate his being there for me on my bad days and I try to do what I can whether having a good dinner waiting or snuggling to watch a movie together. I buy food he enjoys ,listen to him even when I am bored as hell and make him feel needed,wanted and appreciated. I am not saying you donnot do those things as well but my husband has told me more than once how apprecaiting him makes him happy and willing to do more. I am blessed to be married to this man for 6 years now and I never let him forget it !!
I hope things get better for you.

Feb 05, 2017 9:33 AM

Yes, I've split with my partner.. it is hard on partners. To watch someone they love become unwell. Especially if they can't help. They begin to feel helpless to, good luck Gx

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