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Feb 07, 2017 1:06 PM

My month long vacation was great. I arranged to have several down days in between the fun ones so no huge fallout from the trip. No - the fallout came when I got home.

My siblings were supposed to be checking in on our parents while I was gone. (my whole trip I was getting texts, messages and calls from them and mom and church members wanting to know when I was coming home.. Master guilt trippers!) So imagine my surprise when I get home and find out my dad has had a migraine for 2 weeks. My dad never even gets headaches - much less migraines. So my welcome home was spending an evening in the ER. Ugh. My sister came by while we were there. She didn't know he had a migraine. Hmmm.. Maybe if she and my brother had actually stopped by she would have known. Then there's a lot of things going on at church - our new Youth Minister came in with a "My way or highway" attitude and has made decisions on projects I have been doing for 6 years. Never talked to about it so I started work on it only to be told he was changing everything.

Etc. Etc. So coming home is what caused my current health issues.

More later. Have to take mom shopping.

Sorry it's a long post.
Sorry for not being here.

I am just so tired.

Feb 07, 2017 1:31 PM

Glad to hear from you. Welcome back. Sounds like you need to take care of you. Rest, Relax. Do what you need to you.

Feb 07, 2017 5:39 PM

Do you ever have days when you just can't help but day I'm Tired even though you know that no one really understands what "I'm Tired" really means when I say it. (sigh)

Feb 07, 2017 6:14 PM

I understand your feeling. I'm even sick and tired of bronchitis! Every time I turn around I have it! I thought I was actually getting over it this time just for it to return! Round six here we go!

Feb 07, 2017 8:51 PM

Happy (and a bit jealous) you got a month long vacation! I enjoy seeing the pictures so far. Hope everything turns out for your dad. I always heard you need a vacation from a vacation and i never got that til i was older...sounds like you need one too!

Feb 08, 2017 12:58 AM

First of Mimikay you never need to apologise for anything here, especially not for a long post....you need to let it all out and I have a feeling this is only the tip of the iceberg!
We are here for you so your post should be as long as you need it to be and as for not being here....you've had a lot going on so you needed to be in your life helping yourself, you can't help or think of other people when you have soo much going on and need to be there for you.

Oh no Mimikay that's awful, I had hoped that things would have been ok when you returned home 😯 you should of messaged me, I know there's nothing I could of done being soo far away but I can be a very good listener and great sounding off board.

Maybe you need to take a little break from helping out at the church or at least not do as much, if the youth minister is changing everything then this could be the perfect time to take a step back and use the time to rest up and use that time for you.

I think you need to have a family meeting to discuss a few things like the responsibilities that your brother and sister need to be doing when you're away and if they don't want that responsibility the they hire a carer to come in when you're away because you need the time away to recover and you will need time to prepare for your daughters wedding. And you need more than one holiday a year and they either step up to the mark, you can't do everything all of the time.

I hope things start to settle down for you soon, I'm sending you positive vibes and warm healing and loving hugs xx

Feb 08, 2017 9:10 AM

Welcome back Mimikay. I'm sorry you returned to stressful situations. I've been offline since last week due to family stress. I am very familiar with "I'm so tired" as I'm feeling it today and several days recently. You rest and take care of you. Hugs love & prayers! 🙂💕🙏🌸

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