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Jan 30, 2016 5:35 PM

Okay so had a situation come up tonight that really pissed me off. Hoping I'm not making too big a deal about it. I was at my moms house, with my b-I-l and my nephew in the kitchen. He said to his son, "Wyatt, go give aunt Amanda a big hug." I wasn't expecting that the little one would run full force into my right side, and I didn't get him to stop in time. Needless to say, it most certainly triggered my pain to flare up again, while it has been under control. Am I making a big deal out of nothing, or do I have a right to be upset? The little one is 2, almost 3 and he doesn't know any better. I even walked out of the house without even speaking to him cause to me, that was totally disrespectful.

Jan 30, 2016 6:06 PM

Did the adult know of your health issues? If he does then you have the right to pull him to the side and explain that having his child run at u like a bull in Paloma is not appreciated. Explain why and leave it at that. If he is true family he'll understand. If not and u have to be in the full family presence again u will have to be more vigilant and control the little feet yourself. U can be loving since the kids r just kids but if u see them running u can put that wall up to block..lol

Jan 30, 2016 6:28 PM

Yes, he is aware of it and there was no reason for him to do that.

Jan 30, 2016 6:58 PM

It's possible he said it without thinking too. So a little explanation n forgiveness go a long way. Especially since small fry might not know or know the difference yet.

Jan 30, 2016 7:00 PM

3xs, yes small fry doesn't know the difference yet. He's only 2 1/2.

Jan 30, 2016 8:26 PM

I think people forget...? Ouch, ouch, ouch. I think even those closest don't really get it &/or don't want to think of us as compromised, in pain, different than we used to be. Could it have been that you seemed to need a hug, or a smile? Sorry for your pain. I completely understand, ouch. Even little ones can relate to having an owie. Maybe that'll be the case at some point.

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