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I guess we all ask 'why me?'

Mar 01, 2015 11:07 PM

Hey all, just thought I'd write a post to involve you all.. I ask this question all the time, anyone else agree?


Mar 02, 2015 12:18 AM

I do! It is so frustrating not to be able to live a normal life. And when you go to the Dr to try to get a handle on things they tell you it's all in your head! (my recent experience anyway) We are not crazy! We are just trying to live as normally as possible with the hand we were dealt. I know for myself I have been in tears off and on for the last two days due to increasing pain levels and other miserable symptoms. It doesn't matter what I do it just keeps getting worse. My boyfriend even feels completely helpless because he can't do anything to make me more comfortable, though he tries. Anyone in our situations is likely to ask "why me?" at some point.

Mar 02, 2015 6:12 AM

Harris I use to ask myself that every time something new came along. But now I am so use to it I dont really ask that anymore. I now go, "Really! What next?" Lol

It does get frustrating though. But I started comparing myself to those born with disabilities, after hearing a teenager who was born handicapped give an awesome, upbeat, & inspiring speech. Now I say, "why not me?". Instead of looking at the glass half empty I try to see it half full. Sometimes it's much harder than others though. ☺

Mar 02, 2015 6:33 AM

I can completely understand. I've been asking myself that very same question a lot lately. I just get myself into these "pity party" kind of moods as my mom calls them. I said to her, "Mom, you don't understand what this is like. Stop telling me not to have a pity party for myself if you've not been through it." It is damn hard to wake up and give my body 10 minutes to be awake and then the pain starts. Pain does suck.

Mar 02, 2015 9:32 AM

Hi every body ! I know what all y'all mean. Pain is the pitts,but AL least it let's us know we are still alive. Lol

Mar 02, 2015 10:12 AM

Weezie if that's the case I am WAY too alive!!!

Mar 02, 2015 1:16 PM

I used to ask that in the beginning... Now, like FlappsyLady, I say what now!! 😳 it IS very frustrating and it is tiresome but there has to be a reason. We are ALL entitled to our Pity Parties, Amanda. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. We're only human after all. Thank God we have this community to come and chat with others that understand and can help us through.

Mar 02, 2015 2:06 PM

I have my Pitty moments and have cried on my husband's shoulder, why me have I been that bad of a person I deserve this? Sometimes it is just better to give in have your moment. Seems like holding it in at least for me causes it to keep building. I try to joke when I can like as I am walking like a drunk I say I use to pay money for this and then have a hangover. Or when my body is shaking because i hurt so bad I ask if anyone else feels the earthquake. We all have coping skills but I think trying to handle it everyday without it getting to you is fantasy.

Mar 02, 2015 4:49 PM

Shammagren, none of us should hold it in. As positive as I try to stay, I do cry sometimes and even get angry that something else happens. We should all remember that if we hold it all in, its going to build up stress until we explode (like a pressure cooker), possibly an emotional explosion or physical pain, or both. It's ok to have a pity party to relieve the stress.

Mar 02, 2015 7:43 PM

I agree with all y'all sometimes it seems like its unrelenting and it seems like you can't take much more. I too have crying jags. It helps release some of the stress of hurting all time. Sometimes I kid around and that too seems to help to laugh

Mar 02, 2015 8:52 PM

I think that might be some of my problem. I try to act so brave during the day and deny that there's pain, thinking it will just go away. Then at night, the tears just come and I tend to wallow.

Mar 03, 2015 3:08 AM

Thank you all for putting in. It's so great but unfortunate we all go through this so we don't feel alone. It is ok to feel sad, it is ok to cry, it is ok to ask these questions and it's most certainly ok to add humour into it all! We all need a laugh at some point. I've heard "happiness is the best kind of medicine" ..at first I thought this was rediculous but after years with chronic pain I've seriously learnt that if someone's in a better mood they will feel less pain or maybe not less ..but focus on it less and not notice as much. I live with hope.. hope that one day I'll wake up and it will all be gone.

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