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I Hate Good Byes

Jul 21, 2015 7:40 PM

Today was so fun. Not. I went to my grandpa's house and he decided to blame the divorce on my sis and I. Our grandma didn't even know. I came to talk to him because he's gave my step mom a loan for an exercise machine. She let's people use it, it's her home business. Except that almost no one actually uses them. I want to keep the one we have because it doesn't trigger the earthquake flashbacks like the other one does. He doesn't care. I just don't understand. He was friendly when we saw him a few days ago. When I asked him what changed, he said "You know what changed!" but I don't. I'm still me. I still have chronic issues. My step mom still gives me panic attacks. He said my step mom would pick up the exercise machine. I said, "No, someone else can pick it up. She gives me panic attacks." He told me I needed to grow up. What the heck? I'm 14, this is the 2nd divorce, you're ignoring me, and you're telling me to grow up?!? My sister and I tried to keep talking. I was already sobbing but she was holding it together. I don't know how. Then he started using "I hear you." Dude, it's obvious you're just tuning me out. I wanted to punch something. Eventually, my sis and I were both sobbing while he just sat there. Arms crossed. Ignoring us. "I only want the best for you guys." Yeah, right. Seconds later, "You made a choice to separate. This is where we are." He implied that it was our fault. My sis and I were sobbing, finally leaving. His choice was clear. He'd rather ignore the facts of theft, cheating on my dad, talking to my sis and I about her fantasies with the other family before talking to my dad about it, the list goes on and on. We went to the store. Our grandma was there. She's one of the sweetest people I know. My sis walked out. She walked in, and paused. Grandma asked if my sis needed a ride home. She saw the tears. A red botched face. "Are you okay?" I believe she didn't know what was going on. Suddenly, everything seemed much worse. This sucks. Hostility sucks. I'm tired.

Jul 21, 2015 10:06 PM

Ferretbandit, I'm so sorry you had to go through that! There are many sides to every story, depending on who's doing the telling. And it sounds like Grandpa only wanted to listen to the Stepmother's version. It's hurtful I know, to be brushed aside, or to be held responsible when you're just a kid on the sidelines but yet caught in the middle. (((Hugs))) & prayers that things will calm down for everyone very soon! 🙏🌼

Jul 21, 2015 11:37 PM

I have to say that Flappsy pretty much summed it all up. I'm so sorry you had to endure that crap along along with your Sister. He's using you both as an excuse instead of facing the truth. Shame on him for doing that to you. Hang in there Hon.. You have plenty of people here who can and WILL be here there to listen. Love n prayers 💕🙏🏻🌻

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