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Jul 17, 2017 5:19 AM

Im tired of my husband complaining about how bad his back feels. Ive been in agony since april i have 2 herniated disc 2 black disc and spinal stenosis. I can sleep more than a few hours i cant sit on a couch. I can't rest. The only thing that helps is laying on the floor with my exercise ball under my legs. He sleeps through the night he has no visible problems and he is attention seeking and wanting sympathy from me without showing any real concern about how i feel

Jul 17, 2017 6:22 AM

I'm very sorry for your pain and what your husband puts you through. Welcome to this community. We are very supportive and understanding. You'll be in my prayers.

Jul 17, 2017 7:17 AM

I'm so sorry your in so much pain and your husband doesn't seem to understand, I really hope your pain eases. Sending hugs 🙂

Jul 17, 2017 11:28 AM

Hey @Mrch2oly. Welcome to our support group. I am sorry to hear that you are in a lot of pain . Physical and mental. I hope your husband will come around for you. Sending prayers your way

((Gentle hugs))

Jul 17, 2017 1:58 PM

Mrsh2oly it's very hard for people to understand what pain you're in as they don't feel it. Maybe if you sit down with your husband and explain to him the seriousness of your spinal issues and what that means in terms of what you feel and what limitations it puts on you and how the fact that it feels like he is belittling you and the pain you have. Tell him that yes you understand that he is in pain but it doesn't help that he doesn't take your pain seriously enough either.
Basically what I'm suggesting is that you both sit down at a table and talk to eachother, to have an open and Frank conversation with eachother about both your pains and how it makes each of you feel then come up with a plan on how to help eachother, how to work together.
If you don't communicate with eachother then the issues will only keep building until one of you reaches breaking point to which you will end up arguing and resenting eachother.

Sending you positive vibes and warm healing hugs xx

Jul 17, 2017 5:20 PM

Sezzy you always have wonderful advice 😊😊

Jul 17, 2017 10:55 PM

Thank you Westrengirl 😊 I only say it as I see it and if I can help anyone then I'm happy 💞

Jul 18, 2017 12:04 AM

Your welcome Sezzy 😊💕

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