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Jan 16, 2015 9:30 AM

I was rear-ended in a car accident a year and a half ago. My pain never went away, it got worse..turns out to be fibromyalgia. I can't settle my case until I'm better, but I can barely afford to see the doctors and can't meet deductibles to get treatment. I wish this had never happened to me, it slowed me down so much. No matter what I do, nothing helps this debilitating pain.

Jan 16, 2015 12:01 PM

I was in 5 car accidents from 1985-1996. The problems from any accident will always raise its head from time to time. My cousin got fibromyalgia after a car accident, 20 years ago.

My fibromyalgia came on after a major surgery 2010. Some type of trauma is a typical cause for fibromyalgia. I seriously doubt it will ever go away. Just last night I almost creamed a car in their side when they turned in front of me and couldn't clear the lane. I slammed on brakes and could smell the rubber & felt the rear tires fishtail. The whole time I'm praying, " No God, please no!". Then I called the other driver an idiot. They couldn't hear me but it made me feel better. My husband was following in a uhaul and he said he really thought I was going to eat their car. If I had I'd probably be in the hospital right now.

You never know when its going to happen, and the consequences are usually a lifetime problem if you're injured at all. Luckily my daughters weren't hurt in 1996.

Pace yourself and take one day at a time. Chiropractor was my best friend until my fusions. Heat & ice & gentle stretches, warm baths or showers and professional massages are base non- med helpful tx methods. Muscle relaxers and pain meds if needed, and a pain specialist. Good luck and praying you don't have any other longterm effects.

Jan 16, 2015 12:05 PM

I'm so sorry you're in this situation. I've been dealing with pain levels of 8/10 for 20 years and it just keeps increasing. I keep checking for naturopathic treatments and dietary treatment, as well as with standard medical practices and therapy. Be pro-active in your care. I hope all goes well for you... There are hundreds of us here to help if we can. Try contacting your local social services dept. for your state and see if you qualify for assistance with paying your medical. Best of luck and I'm here if you need me.

Jan 23, 2015 8:06 PM

@flappyslady81 I'm so sorry hear your experiences, I'm glad you and your family are ok though. I get so scared when I drive now too, I unknowingly didn't drive on the road I had my accident on for months..then I noticed that I hadn't taken that route in a while until one day I had to take it as a short cut to work. Thank you so much for the advice, I will keep doing that.

@alwayzinpain That's how I feel too :( do you guys experience extreme fatigue? I've gotten to the point when I talk but I'm half asleep..I fall asleep whilst talking or doing things sometimes and I get plenty of sleep. Thank you for your kind words. I hope you feel better.

I'll be praying for you both as well

Jan 26, 2015 6:04 PM

Please give me a answers I have gained 45 pounds since I was diagnosed with fibro did anyone discover that

Jan 26, 2015 6:09 PM

Shoulder, neck, arms, back, ankles, knees, fingers, wrists, lower back, hips, and thigh hurts very bad everyday all the medication I'm on nothing don't work.

Jan 26, 2015 6:26 PM

Shady, I'm 40+ pounds heavier than I was when I was healthy. A lot of it is the medicine and a lot is my inability to be active. I was exercising about 1 1/2 yr ago, 15-30 min 2x/day, just gentle aerobic movements and incumbent bike riding. I had lost about 14 lb when my health took another nosedive, and I weigh more than ever now. My asthma & whatever else is not allowing me to even walk through Kroger or Walmart anymore. Sadly, not being able to exercise has also worsened my fibromyalgia. It actually felt less painful with the gentle movements I was doing, probably because I was more limber.

Jan 27, 2015 5:58 AM

Thanks for the information but my doctor told me if I can get my weight loss down I want suffer so bad with my chonic pain I'm thinking about weight loss.

Jan 27, 2015 11:14 AM

I just lost 90 pounds in the last year's time... I hate to burst anyone's bubble, it didn't help me. I'm still way overweight but such a good chunk of weight gone, I was hoping that it would at least take the edge off.

Jan 27, 2015 12:18 PM

If they wanted us to lose weight to help, they'd make the medicine where we wouldn't gain as a side effect. And, lol, looking at family photos...all the females gained at my age and started losing in their 60s.

Jan 27, 2015 1:00 PM

Im in the healthy weight range and still have a lot of pain. Losing weight will help with the amount of stress on your joints

Nov 16, 2015 6:48 PM

@MilaC I have been through the same situation ,a year and half ago,and im suffering from migraines,headache to severe levels ,nothing helps with my headaches when its on ,i have seen many health care providers and honestly all what they can do is charge my insurance company for the useless treatments,my whole life changed since that accident ,i was doing masters in TIM program ,since the accident i couldnt go back to school,my memory is dumb i barely can remember faces,events,my stuff,i go back and forth to some places many time to remember why i went there .
to be honest if i broke my leg or arm or anything else i will know that will come to an end and within months i will recover,but with my headaches i have no time frame for the treatment ,the only thing has an end is the insurance benefits.

Nov 16, 2015 7:53 PM

Mila, that's how I feel about pain and fatigue. I know that I also have inattentive adhd with pain, but it might be caused by pain itself *sigh* For me, ADHD means I'm sleepy always, need caffeine, feel like I'm just waking up at 9 pm, not be able to track time or conversations, and oh! Doesn't this sound just like fibro fog 😂😣😴😳

I'm shy and anchors and all these things, but I don't know if it's just me or if I'd be different without pain...

Shady, your docs might be more judgemental. My entire family is skinny (same genes that cause pain, heart issues, tumors, hypothyroidism, etc) and we all have health issues. I actually am trying to gain weight, having gone from reasonably close to healthy to eating less than my great grandmother(whose a third my size).

However, my family has had some success (not cure, but a slight improvement) from exercise and dieting. We do paleo, mostly veggies and meat. It's pretty delicious, from the steak and ground beef, and stir fries. It is more bland than most people are used to, but if you're up for it, I'd try it vs vegetarian, see how your body responds to food.

I do a 7 min workout most days, I've done dance, yoga, and most things besides sports. It might not help with pain or weight loss, but it's possible to have fun.

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