So for the last several years I've bought flowers for my mom for mothers day. I knew that my grandma has some flower allergies and my brother too, but I didn't know my mom is allergic to flowers. She would always say they were pretty (I tried to always get her favorite colour) and gave me a hug. I don't recall her telling me she was allergic but maybe I just forgot.
This year my boyfriend and I were out of town for mothers day, and she just moved into her own house so we got a mixed basket and a pansy basket for mothers day and house warming a week ago. I got a text this evening saying that I had to come get the flowers because they are making her really sick. I'm at work and work evenings this week so I wouldn't make it until the weekend, so she was going to get her ex to bring them over to my place. That's a half hour drive for a couple flowers. Not worth it in my opinion. I hope I convinced her to give them to a friend or throw then out.
She said that when she lived with him she could put them farther from the house and he took care of them so that she wouldn't get sick.
I feel bad for making her ill. I feel bad for not knowing something I should have. I feel like an awful daughter, but that's probably because I am.
Apparently I'm using this forum as therapy. Sorry.