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I'm the only one helping mom

Oct 20, 2016 11:21 PM

I have 4 older siblings! Mona. I moved to FL 12 years ago and now I'm the only one helping mom. I don't have children nor am I married but the past 2 years have been hell for me. Being diagnosed with Lupus, Fibromyligia and various types of arthritis I can't heal as fast as I could've if I was not sick! No one cares or want to understand. My brother said I did this to myself because I am overweight. I'm getting overwhelmed here and at the end of my rapidly fraing rope! I need sleep, I need to start my Physical therapy and I need my pain pills to work!
Thank you for letting me rant!

Oct 20, 2016 11:22 PM

That should say mom and I not Mona lol

Oct 21, 2016 12:07 AM

Med's, I can understand your situation. I took care of my Aunt for 7+ year's before she ended up on Hospice care that required me to do more and have my full attention 24/7. I had to deal with my pain and lack of sleep and take care of my kid's as well. Remember to take time for yourself. If you can try and find someone to sit with your mom even if it's for 2 hour's just so you can get some relaxation time to reset your mind and body. When the CNA would come I'd take that 15 Min's and sit down and just close my eyes and rest a bit before she left. Praying for you and your Mom, it's not easy taking care of someone else when your in pain but, in the end you know that you did the right thing.

Oct 21, 2016 1:29 AM

Am so sorry Meds. I understand as I am my mom's care giver. Both of my parents are still here so I know gradually I will start taking care of dad too. My brother lives 15 minutes away, my sister is about 35 minutes away and I rent a room from my parents so I am here in case of emergency. My kids live way up north. For me - I have to find me time every day. I can go sit in the park and read. I can sit in my room and read or go upstairs and sew. If I really need peace and quiet I can go out to their motor home and rest. :) taking care of yourself, especially when you are a caregiver, is vitally important.

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