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In trouble at work again

Aug 31, 2016 5:50 PM

Apparently doing the best I can on any given day is no good. Fibromyalgia is highly inconsistent, one minute you can do something and the next not a chance and vice versa.
Well today I got completely shit on by my manager for being inconsistent. For saying one day that I needed help lifting something or opening doors and then another day not needing help. For saying I'm not ok to take that overtime and then picking up shifts when I'm able to so that I don't screw who ever wants leave over and I pull my weight. For asking them to upgrade the hvac system so that the stuff from the airport doesn't get in the in the building then needing to use mint oil topically to get through my shift so someone doesn't need to come in early.
Apparently asking for help over an email and explaining why you need the air intake for the building closed most of the way and why you would like the airport contacted to see if they could not do what ever is causing the smell (critical software load that shouldn't be cancelled because you got sick from the chemicals so looking for ways to prevent them entering the building) it's a threat.
I have been told that my options at this point are to quit or transfer to a different department (moving to a different city) because I "keep asking for help from the company yet refuse to do anything to try to help yourself. If you can't work by the airport then it's time you left'. It's going to be 5 to 10 years before they start the hvac upgrade.
The manager said that most of the group has made official complaints about me to him. (The one guy I talked to about this thinks the manager is exaggerating and that it might be one or two people out of 14, and he wonders if the boss is listening in on people making fun of me when I'm not around and talking that as complaints)
He says he needs hard evidence of my illnesses and he needs concrete limitations like can't lift more than 5 pounds or can't work more than 7 hours in a 24 hour period.
Both fibromyalgia and multiple chemical sensitivity are diagnosis of elimination, how am I supposed to have concrete proof? And fibro is so inconsistent, am i supposed to do nothing when i feel ok so that i come across as consistent instead of doing the best i can (what ever that happens to be) on that day?
I'm not to talk about chemicals or how someone someone is wearing is making me sick, I'm not to ask for my space when someone gets too close that is wearing something that'll make me ill.
I'm not to send any more emails asking for help like I did with the air intake.
I'm not to say poisoned or chemicals at work anymore, they are to be removed from my vocabulary.
I do all I can to try to get better. I spend a lot of money on my health. Do I need to record my appointments so that my manager can see that im trying?
I can't afford to quit, we moved into the right house for us less than a year ago and I don't want to move. No one will hire me because of my issues.
At least I managed to finish my shift before crying. Although driving and bawling is very scary, I don't recommend it.

Aug 31, 2016 6:03 PM

Oh darling...🌹 what a bloody nightmare u are in... 🤗i wish i had a magic wand... 🤔it wouldnt be strong enough to take ur pain away... 🐪but it would fit nicely inserted rectally into ur manager!🐫

Sideways! 🐴
...no wait thats a stick! Lol

(& no driving😭 and crying... ANY of u....😲 or i shall have to get out the📖 u know what book again🤗) be strong kitten... 🤔maybe its time to look for another job ?😚

Aug 31, 2016 6:15 PM

I've been looking but I wouldn't qualify for most jobs in my field of study. I can't consistently lift 50 pounds and I can't do midnight shifts. I cant do customer service because i can't be around people or go into their homes to fix whatever.
If I could get paid to stay at home and take care of myself that would be great. Unfortunately that doesn't exist.

Sep 02, 2016 3:28 PM

Oh no Gotobef, I'm so sorry you had to go through that! Maybe you could go to your doctor and get put on stress leave? At least it would give you some time to check for other work options, and you wouldn't have to be subjected to your boss. I'm sending you hugs & love, and praying a door of change will open for you! 🙂💕🙏🌸

Sep 02, 2016 3:40 PM

Can i ask what country you're in please? :)

Sep 02, 2016 4:39 PM

I'm in Canada

Sep 02, 2016 4:47 PM

Ah ok....im in the uk, and was going to explain my understanding about being protected by the equality act they have here, and how employers are obliged to make reasonable adjustments for employees who fall under the disability definition of the equality act. Not sure what laws canada have, but mayb worth a google or something? Fingers crossed you sort it as i know only too well what its like to be picked on/not supported because of a disability....its hell... :( but remember, you're worth more!! :) And don't underestimate yourself....the right company will value what you have to offer....remember that living with a health condition makes us a lot more resourceful than most, as we've had to learn to adapt... :)

Sep 02, 2016 5:27 PM

I'm so sorry you're going through that. I'm in the US and I don't think they can legally ask that of you. I think you should check into your rights as an employee who has a medical condition. I say that I don't think they can legally ask that of you because some companies or managers can use your medical history against you. Which isn't ethical. That's why HIPAA laws are so strict. The only way that they can get your medical records is if you approve it and a unbiased third party is involved in the US. Please check into your rights. And contact whoever you need to to make sure the manager is doing what they are supposed to. I wish you the best. And all the good days you can get.

Sep 03, 2016 3:48 AM

Hi gotobef!
I am in Canada as well I don't where you are but here in Ontario you can ask your doctor to for a note and take a sick leave it is for 12 weeks( if I remember correctly) and unemployment will pay you for the 12 weeks ..I don't remember the percentage of your wage they pay but honestly it seems like you need time away from work to figure things out! You might be able to find other work . Also maybe call a lawyer to see what your rights are at work . I wish i has more helpful advice but that's all I have.. good luck I hope you can figure this out! You really are a strong person for even being at work and you are trying so hard! I am proud of you I wish I could have your strength!

Sep 03, 2016 11:48 AM

in Germany myself. people diagnosed with a handicap here are protected in the workplace by law, official organisations, and law.
In fact, companies here have to employ at least 5% of their workforce with handicap / disabled / impaired persons, or pay a fine every month and for each position until they do.

Sep 03, 2016 2:10 PM

- 2nd law, + courts

Dec 11, 2016 11:47 PM

Hey I was in a similar situation with my work. They got some paperwork from their HR and I had my physio therapist fill it out (all about work limitations). Your work is obligated to help you as much as they can. My work could not. They also couldn't fire me. So I went on EI for 15 weeks. I went to service Canada with my doctors notes and they put me off work. After the 15 weeks were up I applied for employment income assistance. Which is awesome and helps so much. It's strongly a case by case basis for everything. But I don't and still do not have a diagnosis but they do understand the situation.

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