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Jan 24, 2016 9:41 AM

So I've got a friend who I knew years ago when I was working. And now we have reconnected. And I'm getting all the typical questions and statements. I'm not offended because I know she means well. So I'm taking this as an opportunity to educate. However I don't want to be preachy nor come off as pitiful. She will text me everyday asking if I'm feeling better. And I would be honest and tell her exactly how I feel that day. It's hard for to know and except I'm in such discomfort.
So any other ideas or tips ibmay could use? She knows how I use to be and to know my life now. Well you know..

Jan 24, 2016 11:12 AM

Newfibrogirl, usually what I do is say status quo or same stuff different day or no change. Sometimes if I'm lucky I'll say, not too bad. Immediately after a short response to that question, I immediately continue the conversation with something positive or funny. Ask what she's up to and if there's anything new and exciting happening in her life or day. I wish I could offer you more suggestions but I'm not one to say I feel good when I don't but I also don't elaborate. You'll get there.. You're still pretty new to being sick so your still processing yourself (and I have to say, you're incredibly positive and are doing really well. You're a pleasure to chat with). Anyway, perhaps others will have more suggestions. Sending {{{Hugs}}} and prayers that you're having a peaceful and lite pain SundayπŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»

Jan 24, 2016 11:52 AM

Thank u always.. I do try to be as positive as I can be . with so much on my plate with family I've got to push daily. As for my friend I do try to get her talking about her life since she just lost her mother. We go back and forth helping each other.

Jan 24, 2016 11:57 AM

As long as you're helpful to one another, that's all that matters. Just make sure that you try to keep the conversation upbeat as it's VERY easy to fall into that pit of misery, especially when the person you're speaking to is having a rough time as well. Chat about good music, good food, good/funny movies, tv shows, etc. This neither one of you don't get dragged down in sadness. {{{Hugs}}} πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»πŸ˜Š

Jan 25, 2016 8:07 AM

Newfibrogirl, you could suggest some of the websites to her, like the Spoonies story, etc. It's great you've reconnected with an old friend. And AlwayZ suggestions are exactly what I would have suggested. Lol. Hugs & prayers today is a good day for you! πŸ™‚πŸ™πŸŒΌπŸ’•

Jan 25, 2016 10:08 AM

Flappsy... Somehow I'm not surprised.. LOL!! πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»πŸ˜

Jan 25, 2016 8:16 PM

Great minds think alike! πŸ˜‰

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