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Is it just because I'm fat?

Aug 20, 2014 7:05 AM

I have had a weight problem since my teenage years. I am now 41. In the last two years I have been having increased pain over the whole body, generalized weakness, fatigue, mental confusion, and increased depression. I hate going to the Doctor because I am met with the, " you just need to lose weight" diagnosis. I feel like they think I am a hypochondriac. The last 3 months I have been dieting and faithfully going to gym and walking treadmill and doing strengthening exercises. I have lost 16lbs. However I have been met with a huge increase in all my symptoms, instead of improving, the pain, depression, and fatigue is much worse. I go to gym one day and I am incompacitated the next two days. I struggle to walk down hallway to go to bathroom, it's terrible. I try to do household chores and it takes me all day because I get so very tired. I am taking a multivitamin, antidepressant, and I take a vitamin D 2xs per week. I need to know what kind of specialist do I need to see to get help. Any advise would be appreciated. thank you.

Aug 20, 2014 4:55 PM

A rheumatologist

Aug 20, 2014 9:30 PM

I agree rheumatologist.

Aug 25, 2014 5:51 PM

has anyone meantioned Fibromyalsia? would agree Rheumatologist but might inquire about Fibromyalsia which is what I suffer from as well as other conditions but you are stating the same symptoms as all Fibro effected people. Wishing you all the best in finding the answers soon to find some relief from pain and suffering. x

Sep 02, 2014 9:08 PM

Sound similar to me.....and I've lost over 100lbs. Still nothing more that telling me to lose weight. How can I continue to lose weight if I can't move? Now left feeling hopeless, exhausted, frustrated and angry.

Sep 03, 2014 12:01 PM

Did you hav any precipitating event any time before? Like a fall or anything even up to a couple years before the issues started compounding? I had a lot of doc trouble in the beginning of my journey with them saying, well, your hip wouldn't hurt if you'd just lose weight. Nevermind that I'd lost 80lbs by the time I was to the end of my rope. It took nearly a year to find a physician that would actually even do imaging on my hip. She never mentioned my weight, she did a physical exam, and, whatever she witnessed via that exam made her immediately say 'you've got a BIG problem'. I finally got imaging and found out I had, per her, 'the worst labral tear she'd seen in all her years as an ortho'.
I went on to have several surgeries, and I'm still struggling. In the meantime, I developed fibromyalgia, which, as others have said, has the same or similar characteristics to what you've mentioned above. I see a rheumatologist, and she manages my fibromyalgia & osteoarthritis, and she's very good.
One of the things I learned in the journey to finding a doc who'd listen to me was just persistence. I had been to easily 45-50 different physicians that year before I found ONE who'd look past my size and realize I can be fat AND have a congenital malformation (Chiari & hip dysplasia). People often look at those of us who're 'invisibly sick' and think our lives are just full of rest an relaxation. IF ONLY. If you're ready to find a physician who can help you, you needa realize that this may very well turn into a full time job. I'd start with a rheumatologist first, though.

Sep 05, 2014 6:16 PM

on a positive note, I have lost 3 more lbs. however I am just getting worse it seems. one of the PAs in my Dr office saw me for an appointment and actually took my complaints seriously. I have my first appt with a Rheumatologist coming this Monday for my overall pain. I also was referred to a Nephrologist because of new symptom of brown tea looking urine everytime I exercise. ex: 20 min @ 2.5mph with no incline, so, you know I am not over doing it. I have been in such terrible pain head to toe and it just seems to be getting worse. I still keep getting told that "if you only lose weight you will feel better". I feel worse physically and exhausted mentally. I keep pushing to the gym but am down to two days a week because I sooooo want to lose weight. however I am suffering worse for it. thanks for the support and advise.

Sep 05, 2014 10:23 PM

I have pain all over but most my back, hips, and migraines. I have been overweight since about five years old. I am working on the process to have weight loss surgery. I have been told for years my weight is what causes all my pain. I have tried dieting and working out and it seems the more I work put and loose the more I hurt. I can understand what you are going through good luck.

Sep 08, 2014 3:54 PM

Hopefully you will find out what is going on with your health soon.

Sep 08, 2014 10:50 PM

I used to weigh 260 lbs I could not walk across the house. I started walking a little each day. Now I'm at 219 lbs. I still walk some everyday, I'm sore but not as bad as I used to be.

Sep 08, 2014 11:29 PM

Try water exercise and the whirlpool/spa it really helps with the pain. For a while I was unable to do the water exercise, the whirlpool/spa became my medication. It truly makes a difference with the pain.

Sep 11, 2014 10:38 PM

update: Rheumatologist Dx with Fibromyalgia. saw the Nephrologist this week due to brown urine when I exercise, he ran a lot of blood tests, also did an ultrasound on kidneys. I have blood, keytones, and calcium crystals in my urine. doing a 24 hr urine today, turn in tomorrow and wait for results. will keep updated. I swear I'm falling apart.

Sep 12, 2014 10:21 AM

I had suffered with RA, AS and osteoarthritis for at least 50 years and just for fun I have severe asthma, PTSD and am allergic to foods although I am not a Celiac. I have been a fall risk since I was 10 due to AS. The up side is I do water aerobics. When in pain I cannot get out of bed to prepare and feed myself so I have lost 60 and I am confident another 50 pounda will come off as I stay on the blood type diet. I can no longer work outside the home but I can use my information technology skills to work from home. The point is there is nowhere to go but up. every day is a gift. I take a huge number of drugs just to get out of bed so when a nutritionist asked me what I was doing to cleanse and protect my kidneys and liver I did not get what she meant. I have since used a product called Ultra Clear Plus by Metagenics and my tests are now normal. Everything is interconnected, diet, exercise, symptoms of depression and there is help.

Sep 13, 2014 12:26 PM

fibromyalgia, migraines,and nerve in my lower back pain bone on bone and A bulging disc and I believe I have RA at least arthritis in my joints are very swollen and hot. they are probably going to put you on a lot of medications, I would suggest that you go to pain management helps a lot. And now I have no insurance luckily all my meds are filled and my luck being what it is I know I have a UTI that has spread to my kidneys been over 10 days but I have no insurance so I don't know what to do.

Sep 17, 2014 11:43 PM

I have had back problems for 25years. I have 2 slipped discs in neck and a bulge and tear in lower disc and all over nerve pain. I have frequent migraines and severe muscle spasms. last month I was also diagnosed with fibro myalgia and raynards syndrome. over the years different doctors and consultants have tried a variety of treatments and medication. I'm still on a lot of medication including morphine and pregabalin. very high doses. I used to be quite slim, but since my hospital stay 4 years ago I have piled weight on. I had a severe muscle spasm in my back that lasted 6 weeks. during my stay my dosage of pregabalin was upped and upped. it knocked me out. I was sleeping round the clock. when I was allowed home, i could hardly move so I was still on a max dose of pregabalin. if took a good year for me to get back on my feet properly. doctors referred me for a fitness program, where I attended at least 3 times a week. swimming and the gym(treadmill mostly). my diet was sorted out so was eating healthily. but I found I was still putting weight on. for the six weeks where I was unable to move I never put an ounce on. I was told to keep at it so I did. but after all this time I'm still putting weight on. when I saw a consultant about my neck problems he told me I wouldn't have back problems if I lost some weight. why do they do this. I went downhill very quickly, I lost all interest in life. I couldn't really believe what he'd said. he wasn't the only one to have said this. why don't they think before they pull you down more. I was rather shocked. he finally told me he couldn't help me. this was when my anti depressant dose was upped. I used to be slim so I saw my gp who told me that it was the pregabalin that was putting the weight on me. I tried coming off it but my nerve pain got too much to cope with. I couldn't function at all. I also found out that the pregabalin was responsible for my detioreating eyesight. my doctor has told me there is no alternative for nerve pain. I desperately need to lose weight as its getting me really down. I'm already taking anti depressants. I have got to the point where I don't exercise nearly enough anymore. it's so disheartening when you're doing what you need to and going in the opposite direction. my choice is to have pain and maybe lose weight (no guarantee I'll be able to move) or relieve pain and continue to put weight on. what a choice. depressing.

Sep 17, 2014 11:59 PM

after years of waiting and disappointment I was sent to pain management. have mixed feelings about this department. I never got the feeling that they wanted to help. they got annoyed with me if I asked questions and if I couldn't make it to appointments because of my pain. after being with them for a few years a friend of mine mentioned fibro to me and told me to ask about it as my symptoms were similar to hers. I did and was met with a very negative response. I was glad to leave. I went back to my gp, who I must say has been fantastic. she's helped me the most, I asked her if she thought I may have this fibro. she said maybe and referred me to a rheumatologist there and then. I had an appointment within six weeks. last month I was diagnosed with fibro and raynards syndrome. at last an answer after 25 years. I know it doesn't solve my weight problem or my back problems. but it shows that these so called professionals need to stop and think before writing us overweight people off. they need to listen more and look past the weight. I was ideal weight and bmi before I started on stronger medication. I had back problems before the weight came on. but they don't hear or see that. does make me really angry. to anyone out there facing similar problems with so called health experts, just keep going you'll get an answer in the end hopefully.

Sep 26, 2014 2:39 AM

Have you ever heard of hypermobilty syndrome or Ehlers Danlos syndrome. I have hypermobilty syndrome and I am being evaluated for Ehlers Danlos syndrome in December. Are you flexible?. If you are ya might want to look into these. They have been around for years but the medical community is just starting to take them seriously. I have been told to loose weight to. I have put on weight because of my pain. When I exercise I hurt for days after too. It makes it so hard.

Sep 26, 2014 1:16 PM

my heart goes out to ALL of you. anyone suffering with pain is doing just that... suffering!!! with all of the medical breakthroughs in today's world it is sad that anyone should have to deal with chronic and unbearable pain. I've been goin to pain management for over 16 years and my pain level is always at an 8 and that is ON Morphine (100mg 3x a day) among other things. I just lost a hundred pounds and my pain levels have NOT changed from what they were. Medical professionals need to really stop and think about telling patients when they are already suffering they are too fat and that if they lose weight they'd feel better... it's BS and they say it because they don't have any better answer. best of luck to you all.

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