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Is my pain actually bad

Apr 20, 2018 4:30 PM

All my “friends” keep saying I’m exaggerating my pain and there is no need for me to cry over my pain.
So I had a go at them and asked them if they had any pain and they said no. And it’s getting on my flipping nerves because they don’t know what’s it’s like to be in excrutiang pain and being told that you can’t have any medication.i can nearly walk and I’m 12 and they have probably never experienced my pain.
Sorry to rant on, I understand that a lot of you are so much worse than me and this post is pretty much pointless to others.sorry.
Hope you all have had a wonderful day

Apr 26, 2018 8:36 AM

So very sorry for your ain 😢 hope today is just a little better for you 😘

Apr 27, 2018 8:17 AM

One thing I've.learnt is no one will trully understand till they've experienced.
Another is that only the ones that matter will stick around.
"those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter" -Dr Suess

Apr 27, 2018 11:40 AM

It's ok to cry. I am 43 and I cry like a 2yr old. I agree that no one can really understand unless they have pain theirselves.

May 19, 2018 1:42 AM

Regardless of what others think or say your pain is real. Friends, family and co-works don't get the grind that chronic pain is day in and out. They dont get that sometimes we gut it out, sometimes we cant. Just because we had a good day, doesnt mean tomorrow will be one (the opposite is most often the case). But after years of pain I sometimes question if my pain is all that bad. Then I spend an hour trying to do light gardening and am crippled up for days and realize that given up much to minimize my pain, so I can take care of the basic tasks of living. Crying is good. take care of yourself.

May 19, 2018 9:03 AM

Painat12, Each of us are different and each day is different. Don't let others verbally beat you up. You have nothing to feel guilty for. Smile at them if you can and say, "I'm glad you are having a good day yourself. And I truly hope you never develop any chronic pain issues that hurt you as bad as mine does me. But if you do just remember that I know what it's like & I tried to tell you so." Then hold your head up and look the other way. Hugs love and prayers today will be a good day for you! 😢❤🙏🌼

May 25, 2018 7:21 AM

You’re young so you’re probably not accustomed to navigating such hard conversations. They won’t get it! Not chronic pain. Don’t waste your energy cuz their opinion means 0 other than to validate you which you don’t need. Focus on people or drs. that want to help. Life is not about fairness and what’s “right”-that’s tough to absorb at 12. Focus on why their opinion is so important to you; what do u gain? (Attention, to be liked, for support, to be right etc.) cuz the real focus needs to be on taking care of yourself n not craving to be heard /understood by “friends.” You will learn that 1 or 2 good friends beats thinking you’ve got this big group of fakes.
Your age for chronic pain is young but that doesn’t mean you can’t find med help. Your story begs many questions: what was your upbringing, car accident, trauma, disease?? You’re pre-adolescent and when our bodies are changing (adolescence, puberty, aging, menopause etc) it can be a prelude to a serious disease on the horizon. Not to scare you, at all but any decent dr. should b following you. My brother’s adolescence brought on a very rare cancer n Drs kept saying it was allergies (he had grown a golf ball tumor behind his eye that started around 14?? Sorry if I’m off base but your young age means you’re extra vulnerable and if you take away anything... know that your friends can’t grasp it n it doesn’t matter at all

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