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Jan 01, 2016 8:17 PM

So..most of u already know the story of my family. All the issues a.d stressful situations. So tonight I'm useing this as a test. I'm gonna try to no lo get let my family hurty feeling g anymore. I know how they are and I'm tontired to try and change them. But I can work on me.
I asked my mom a question about something she would do in a flash for my dad. But if its for me nope no dice. It's medical related an all but still nope excuse after excuse. I may not have an income but I'm gonna have to find a way tend to myself. Clearly its not in my mom power to care for me. It hurts but I'm so tired of fighting this same fight. So I'm not not anymore..
Now keep in mind I'm sure I'll call.off at some.point so please bear with me as I try to learn how.to care for myself again.. Lol
I moved home to get help with my health but I'm not thinking this is the best place for me. So right now I've got to work o. Keeping myself calm so I can heal.

Jan 02, 2016 1:57 PM

I'll be praying for you to have strength, clear mind, and ideas, along with willpower. You can do this! 😷🙏

Jan 02, 2016 4:22 PM

Newfibrogirl, in support of your health and emotional well being I agree, please take care of you. How can we help? I have recently become estranged from my parents, my mom is extremely self centered and I have no more illusions anymore that they loved me as I loved them.. (Big difference) . It is extremely painful to realize this. During this holiday season it was the saddest and loneliest I have ever experienced. I am grieving, I do believe for me this was necessary for me ...I am no longer Daddy's girl. At my age I should have outgrown this along time ago. So I am trying to see the blessing of it and be grateful.. Because it really only hurts me.. They aren't suffering. So I am with ya in this journey. I know you are capable and strong enough to do anything that you decide to do. We are more than pain and disability. We are very strong women! Love and Blessings, Terri

Jan 02, 2016 4:42 PM

Thank you guys.. I appreciate it.. Terri I agree with on the out growing stage thing. I feel like I've been stunned.. I should have gotten my first clue that something was happening when my dad kicked me and my dog out the house on Thanksgiving day about six years ago. I actually did not come home for a year after that. Dad finally apologize but it still hurts. And now mom doing the things she is. I have to get a plan together don't know what right now but I'm keeping calm and praying a lot.
As for what you guys can do. Just continue doing g what u are now. Allow me.to vent and help me see things I may not be able to. I don't want things to get to a exstranged point for my family however over new years my sister and I had another chat about this. And she sort of brought up the idea. Of distancing myself from mom for a while.since mom is a very controlling person. I had forgotten this since I had been in my own for fifteen years before I got sick and had to move home.
So..thus is gonna be journey for sure thanks flappys and Terri. You guys and everyone here are awesome.

Jan 03, 2016 5:42 PM

We are here for you Newfibrogirl! And Terri, we are never too old to be "daddy's girl", but having watched my parents age (dad & stepmom) in the last 18 years, it must have something to do with the aging of their minds. Both treat all of us differently than 30 years ago versus 20 versus 10 versus the last 2. Suddenly my 85 year old Dad is very concerned when anything happens to any one of us, to the point he drives 3 hours to see us. But 5-10 years ago he was feeling like anytime anyone mentioned problems they had their hands out for money (not that it was true nor does he even have any "extra"). But the mind is a tricky thing on how everyone looks at things, in retrospect, to how we thought about it in the past. Am I making any sense? I can't seem to get it through the fog! But he's once again seeing I us as his little children. My mom did the same thing before she died, and she was only 65. I'm so sorry you had such a lonely & painful holiday. We are here for you too! (((Hugs))) & prayers for you both! 😷🙏🌼

Jan 03, 2016 5:49 PM

Ty Flappy, having a very bad day today. Maybe talk later.

Jan 04, 2016 10:00 AM

It's ok Terri. No apologies necessary. Praying for you! It's usually those we love most that break our hearts so badly! (((Hugs))) 😷🙏🌼

Jan 04, 2016 10:34 AM

Terri, I'm sending you great big {{{{Hugs}}}} and lots of love from my heart to yours!! 💕🙏🏻❤️

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