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It's Been Awhile ... Update & Rant & Praise

Apr 07, 2017 11:19 PM

I'm back for a short period only, trying to catch up just reading, but posting to a few (or liking posts ❀). Welcome to our community family to all you newcomers!! My dad who had a TKR in February is entering his 6th week post op, 5th week inpatient rehab. For those unaware, he's 85 with Alzheimer's, and the anesthesia for surgery cooked his brain. He's no longer loving and gentle, but mostly disoriented, paranoid, angry, forgetful to the max, etc...All negatively affect. πŸ˜– My sister's (mostly 1) and I are taking turns sitting with him 8 hr/day; we started out at 12 hr shifts but it was about to kill us all. We had to hire night sitters, and just changed to a third company because of bad care. One sister lives in MN and is unable to help sit, a brother refuses to sit even 2 hours, and the remaining 2 sibs are complaining of being tired and how much gas and food is costing them; I drive twice as far more days a week than any of them.

We are also trying to deal with my stepmom, living 90 miles away and in very early stages of alzheimers. She actually gave me​ their financial stuff last weekend because she can't keep up with it, as if I didn't already have enough on my plate. She fell weeks ago and had us scrambling to take care of her and get her to a follow-up because she had a "broken kneecap.". Not! A sister drove down , took her to appt, found out it's "osteoarthritis" and was going to drive stepmom up to visit dad. Stepmom jumped in her car and drove off leaving sister in her dust, the stayed in a hotel 6 nights before we forced her to go home; their finances can't afford that cost on top of the other medical expenses! She's trying to live it up while visiting dad. We first out him in a facility nearest to her, only to find out she got mad when he peed himself, told him she was going for lunch then didn't return for 2 days. We had him moved closer to most of his kids. When she offers to sit she's always late and always leaves early, not dependable. But with her own memory issues it's not something I have time to deal with right now. She's cancelled every doc appt any of us have made for her, so why bother.

Then on March 16th my hubby's mom passed away, four days after suffering another stroke and seizure. Shockingly she rallied within 2 days to sitting up and eating on her own. My hubby left to pick up some med for her when he was called back; she took her last breath as he entered the room and said, "mama I'm here." We've not even had time to grieve due to everything else going on in our lives right now. But she'd want us to live, not grieve. I choked up at the funeral service when they were singing "Amazing Grace," at the verse "I once was blind but now I see."... She had glaucoma for decades but her first stroke took her sight 3 years ago. Now in heaven she sees!

Our youngest daughter was the only grandchild who couldn't make it in for the funeral, being in an eight week training class. They would have allowed her to come but she'd have had to drop out and start over, and she was half way through. I told her, "you stay there and do what your Grandma would have loved to do and never got the chance, make her proud!". We've had to go to the airport 6 times over the 8 weeks to take her or pick her up on weekends, and that traffic was awful with the I-85 bridge fire and collapse affecting the whole Atlanta traffic...Omg! Two weeks ago her dog, which we are keeping until she moves to her new home in TX, he stressed due to her leaving him, having to suddenly board him and our dog overnight several nights with my hubby's moms stroke & death, and him picking up all our stress. He spent 48 hours on IVs at the vet and we almost lost him! Thank God we got him there in time. Btw...She graduated one of 13 grads out of 22 people! Awesome smart girl!!! PTL πŸ™

This week another sis was supposed​ to have her grandkids (she didn't get them at all and laid in bed 48 hours sleeping) so I was watching dad all week, every day, and he was in a RANK mood 95% of the time. I've not slept well for months, but lately been averaging 3-5 hours or less of sleep each night. Wednesday I felt so exhausted and knew my brain was not functioning but I pushed myself to get to the rehab facility and be there for my dad. I got up to put the trashcan back in the bathroom. As I pushed off with my toes my foot slipped (on wet, mopped floor...Duh!) sending me flying forward into the air. My left knee hit first then both thighs, pelvis, ribs, boobs and arms, right in front of my dad. At least my face hit my arm and not the floor! As I screamed out he cried out too, fearing the worst. I rolled over and managed to get up with assistance from a staff member who heard the trashcan hit the wall. At first I told my dad I was ok, but within 30 minutes I knew better. I filled out the facilities incident report and went to the ER. They​ scared the crap out of us saying they thought I fractured the acetabulum of my left hip, but came back later and said they thought it was fuzz on the film. I spent all day in bed yesterday, barely able to move; sprained upper Left arm and thigh, contusions all over (the worst on underside of left breast...Yeah those big babies saved my ribs...Boob-yah!) Lol I'm still sore in the arm, shoulder, groin & hip/thigh, all on the left side, but I'm not bed bound today. My hip socket keeps popping bad though & it hurts when it does. I may go see my Ortho for peace of mind, especially if they keep hurting. Wednesday night I slept all of 38 minutes, or my Fitbit tracking, but last night I finally slept nearly 9 hours...Ahhh!😴

My hubby and I visited a few assisted living facilities today; yeah sister had to come in yesterday and today, and she and Dad had good days instead of her crying over not getting grandkids... They surprised her & granddad today by showing up! Yay!! πŸ˜€πŸ˜† Dad was in a very good mood when we stopped by to let him know I'm going to be ok.

Yesterday my hubby checked the mail and my SSD was approved, all the way back to 2010 when I had to leave work! Praise God πŸ™ it came at the perfect time!! My back pay was already deposited and we had no idea until he went to get gas $$. Than You Lord!! πŸ™ We really needed a little light of sunshine now. Sending hugs love and prayers for all of you for a good weekend! I'll be back when I can. πŸ˜ŠπŸ’•πŸ™πŸŒΈ

Apr 07, 2017 11:41 PM

I make rare trips on here lately. I found myself feeling all for all, if that makes sense. And I want to drive to Ala. To see the son, but I am not doing the loops around Atlanta, so that trip will wait. But atleast 'good'new on the 'fuzz'

Apr 07, 2017 11:47 PM

Sending you hugs

Apr 08, 2017 4:50 AM

Thanks for the update Flappys. (((gentle hugs)))

Apr 08, 2017 1:50 PM

Bless you, I know how hard it is to sit in hospital rooms and nursing homes. I lost my dad last year around this time. You have a big heart and it shows. I'm sorry for your pain and I pray for you. Good luck. Gentle hugs

Apr 08, 2017 4:06 PM

Girl you did you good coping with all of that.
I know it's easier said than done but you must try to get some rest. Sending you hugs πŸ€—

Apr 08, 2017 5:21 PM

Oh wow Flappys you've had such a lot to deal with and so much stress I'm in awe of how you've copped with it all.
Well done to your daughter, I'm soo glade she passed, her Grandma would be soo proud of her.
It's amazing how our pets pick up on the stress and everything else that's going on, I'm just soo sad that he became soo ill. He sounds like he's a very sensitive dog, poor boy hopefully there's no lasting effects and that he'll be back to full health in no time.

Is sounds like you're taking the majority of the responsibility on yourself and trying to do everything which is causing even more problems with your sleep pattern which then affects your ability to function, please take some time for yourself to destress, spend time relaxing and regaining your strength. Go to see your Ortho to just give yourself some piece of mind, they may be able to give you some exercises to help reduce the popping and the pain.
I'm soo glad it's been approved and you've had the back pay, that will certainly be a weight off your mind now.

I hope you're able to take time for yourself to heal and that things start to become easier for you.
I'm sending you positive vibes and warm healing hugs xx

Apr 09, 2017 5:16 PM

Yea your plate is over flowing. Glad very very glad you won! I told you you were going to. Call me anytime you need to vent. I am glad your boos saved you! I would have been totally screwed, lol. I am the original founding member of the Itty Bitty Tittie Committee! At least gravity will never get me.

Apr 09, 2017 9:02 PM

You have been struggling so hard. Am so thankful your daughter completed her program and your disability was approved. Praying there are no lasting effects from your fall. :(

Apr 09, 2017 9:25 PM

Oh my goodness flappsy. My problems seem minor in comparison. My thoughts and prayers are with you an positive energy what little I have left. I've been listening to guided meditation to help me sleep. It works sometimes. At best I've had a full 5hrs.
Gentle hugs πŸ€—πŸŒΌ

Apr 09, 2017 11:53 PM

Hi Flappys, I'm not as active on here now and see there are so many newcomers...Welcome all, but still read posts. Great to catch up with things,but sorry to hear about all family related things. My progress has halted somewhat in trying to be more independent, my Powerchair and I had a little accident and ended with me thrown out of it.... resulting in a broken femur, lucky I can't feel the pain(quadriplegic bonus) but that was part of the problem as it caused me to have a serious Autonomic Dysreflexia bout and my BP shot right up. Currently been in hospital for 5 weeks, here until leg heals..😩
Keep well Flappys xx

Apr 11, 2017 8:38 PM

Thank you everyone for your thoughts, love & prayers & such. @ Ouchithurts2 & Jahmac, omg! I would send you extra energy if I had any left. I'm still struggling to get adequate sleep. Ouchithurts, it just sounds worse reading it. It's no better or worse than your issues or anyone else. That's what so great about this community, true empathy and understanding of what others are dealing with. I hope you start to feeling some better I soon! Jahmac, please keep me posted on how you're doing. I'm so sorry to hear of your accident with the power chair. I hope you'll be home from the hospital soon!

I'm going to follow up at the ortho on my knees and hip but thankfully the shoulder is already stopped hurting. Other than that only the ugly bruises tell. Having to deal with an inconsiderate sibling who upset dad by asking for their "share" of inheritance now...I'm staying cool, cause God's got this! Hugs love and prayers, for comfort, more sleep and less pain for all tomorrow! πŸ˜ŠπŸ’•πŸ™πŸŒΈ

Apr 11, 2017 8:48 PM

FlappysLady81 . Sending prayers your way. Fast recovery. Take care of yourself. ((Gentle hugs ))

Apr 11, 2017 11:43 PM

Oh Flappys! I am so sorry to hear this! I'll be praying for you and your family! Hope all goes well at the Orthopedic doctor. πŸ’–πŸ™πŸŒž Praying and sending you sunshine to brighten your day!

Apr 13, 2017 4:20 PM

Flappys, I will keep you posted, at least I'm in no different position, my legs don't work anyway so I'm no worse off.... well apart from the whole no sensation from spinal cord injury, that's why I have to stay in hospital, potential for further injury and not know about it . Hope the ortho appointment goes well

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