Miss Bella was 2 months yesterday, today she started her shots. My daughter hasn't done anything but sleep until 5:30 this afternoon. Bella has thrown some good fits, I told her that she should be glad that she's a baby and not running around. I would spank her little bottom. She looked at me and smiled her sweet little smile,and it melts your heart and makes me want to beat her moma at the way she does her. Y'all pray for me because I know that around 1 Am that She will wake me up to give her a bottle.
Well I knew it would be a rough night. Just as I was laying down my daughter handed me the baby and said that I don't know what to do she won't stay in her bed . So I put the baby in bed with me and I didn't get much sleep. I woke her up every time the baby woke me up and get and help me. I hope tonight isn't a repeat.
Weezie, You sure have more patience than I do... I'm glad that you got your daughter up every time the baby got up so she could help you. There is no reason with your health issues to have to get up and tend to this baby when you already did your job of raising your own. I understand helping your daughter with your grandchild but there is a line that needs to be drawn and limits need to be set. She needs to understand that you are not a built in babysitter and that you are not going to get up each and every time the baby cries or needs a bottle or diaper change while she sleeps. That's rediculous!!! I hope that you find a resolution to this situation and that it all works itself out. I don't mean to sound harsh because I am always willing to help but there is a difference between helping and being taken advantage of. You are in my prayers and I hope you get to rest tonight Weezie.
Weezie, I couldn't have said it better than AlwayZ. You need to take care of yourself to. Otherwise if there's a real emergency, you may be laid up & unavailable because you overdo it & collapse. I'm praying your daughter will step up and take her role as the mother, so you can be the grandmother. (((Hugs))) 🙏🌼
Thanks Alwayz and Flappsy I had a long talk with her during the night when she got me up to help with the baby. I told her she needs to change the way she is doing,because she doesn't act like a new mother acts. I told her she needed to go and see someone to talk to about her problems. I told her I don't mind helping during the day but at night I need my rest or I'm not going to be able to do anything during the day and I don't know how my health will hold out. She has stepped up at night now for the last 4 nights so we will see. Hopefully me telling her she is missing out on so much and that the baby is bonding to me and not her. She here's my voice and she starts looking for me and wants me to hold her. I told her you have to pick them up and talk to them and kiss on them and rock them just love them it's more than shoving a bottle in their mouths or changing a diaper. You just have to love them. I hope that she continues to do better.
Weezie, I am so glad that you had a talk with your daughter and that she is starting to step up. I agree that it may be helpful for her to speak to someone and ask for help with her problems and perhaps help her to understand that this time in particular is VERY important bonding time for a new Mother and her baby. You definitely need to protect your own health and your daughter needed to hear that you are willing to help but if she didn't let you rest at night that you wouldn't be of any assistance and that your health may not hold up. My prayers are with you all and I hope that this is all the beginning of walking the best path possible for her and her baby and that you, your daughter and Grandchild will have a wonderfully fulfilling and happy relationship.