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Just a bad day with pains

Jul 15, 2016 8:38 AM

Third day with little to no sleep and the Pain is just awful.
Tried my tens machine, breathing,meditation even tried watching a funny comedy but nope nothing works.

Told a friend about how I feel with my pains and also about my longing for a kid and what problems my pco/pcos effects me with and I totally cried my eyes out and the reply from the friend I thought would support me was: on pains well it's just freakin in ur head, get ur head out of your ass and you'll se it's nothing, and on the kid thing she said well ur getting up there in age so why not just take a loan and make one with ivf or just forget about having kids.
Hey look at it positiv you have two furry baby's they'll do just fine.

Do I have to say how much I cried and felt I wanted to punch her in the face :(((
And I never have that feeling about ppl and never ever fight at all.
I'm the nice girl that just wants to help everyone, listen to everyone and I keep out of fights or arguments but she really pushed the mega red button today :(

Sorry for whining people and I hope you all are having a better Friday than me.
Think I'll have a glas of whine with dinner even tho I know it will kick my ass tomorrow in painπŸ’–πŸ’–

Jul 15, 2016 8:45 AM

I get where you are coming from. Just remember no one will get it unless they really GET IT. I know you wouldn't want that. The community is here for you. Post away at least we can understand. Hang in there!

Jul 15, 2016 8:50 AM

Tigger2471: thank you and I am so happy I found this app and community.

Jul 17, 2016 12:15 PM

Foxypanda84, I am so very sorry that your friend did that to you. It's always a shock when someone you think is a supportive friend says something SO insensitive and unkind that it just adds to your pain. It's NOT all in your head and there's many women who yearn to have children. Ache so badly for the experience and can't have them and my heart goes out to you. I am 51, single, never married and have no children. I never was the Mom type and from the age of 13 I knew I didn't want to have any. That doesn't mean that I don't feel sad for women who are desperate to have children. I have 10 nieces and nephews and would wall through fire for each and every one of them. I hope that you can find forgiveness for your "friend's" ignorance and heal. I wish there was something I could tell you to make you feel better. However, I do wish you the best and sending you gentle {{{Hugs}}} and prayers for a better tomorrow.πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»πŸ˜Š

Jul 17, 2016 12:54 PM

Thank you so Much Alwayzinpain You made my day :)
As I calmed down I just figured mabye something in her own life isn't going as she wants it to so I will forgive her.
The pains are still bad on crutches today even tho my hands throooob with pain.
But going to the movies wit my hubby, sister and brother in law and my own brother to see the legend of Tarzan so I will put the pain aside to feel the love from my family :)

Big hugs (gentle I promise )

Jul 17, 2016 12:56 PM

I'm so very glad that I could help you. I hope that you enjoy your time with your family at the movies. Make sure you give us your review of the movie and let me know if it's worth seeing.. I wanna see it myself!!πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»πŸ˜Š

Jul 18, 2016 6:03 AM

The movie was a bit slow but had some parts that where both funny, sad, action filled and amusing.
I enjoyed it a lot.
And watching mr Alexander skarsgard wasn't to bad "yum yum"

Really had an amazing time got annoyed as 4 " may I say boys" cuz they did not act like men, was throwing stuff, talking all movie through and was pushing our chairs so for me pain was at an 11 due to that, but still we ate, saw the movie, laughed and talked before going home so it was a really good evening:)

Jul 19, 2016 12:58 PM

Wow, omg! I am so sorry your friends was so insensitive! (((Hugs))) My daughter isn't able to get pregnant either. It was hard for her to come to terms with. She has stepchildren and now her fur baby, but I can see a look in her eyes when she sees friends babies, that nothing replaces or substitutes the same. She's 27 now. I think letting your friends know how badly her comments felt is the right thing. Otherwise there will always be there between you when together. And depending on how close you are, it could permanently change your relationship. I've always felt honesty is best.

Let me share what my daughter sent me last night, and I hope it makes you laugh...

Daughter... Your nearly 80 lb grandpa just demanded to get all my attention. I s powering him with one hand and reading on my phone, holding it with my other hand. And he knocked phone out of my hand with his paw and then proceeded to crawl into my lap and last where both hands were on him and my phone was under him.
Me...Omg...funny! Just like a child!
Daughter...Worse! I would spank a child for intentionally knocking my phone out of my hand! But he looked up at me with his big brown doggy eyes & wagged his trail and I forgave him.
Me... Sucker!!! I know who's going to be bidding who! Lol

Hugs love & prayers you have a good day today! πŸ™‚πŸ’•πŸ™πŸŒΈ

Jul 19, 2016 1:00 PM

grandpa = grandpup
last = lay
trail = tail
bidding = bossing. Greer autocorrect

Jul 20, 2016 8:29 PM

I am so sorry to hear that your friend said that :( thats not being very supportive on her end. Youve found a friendly and supportive community here :) if you ever need to vent feel free to pm me

Aug 07, 2016 4:20 PM

Thanks all of you :),
That made me laugh so hard omg haha tho my dogs are the same way just like " hey mom can you like jussssst move that phone so I can lay here or what ever I'll just put my tummy on it" and the kisses omg my girl Hera has this amazing ability to kiss so she ends up in my nose (euuwwhh)
And the boy Apollon well he is a attention seeker for sure as soon as me or hubby wake up he's like a snake all over us like squiggly wiggly on top of us " hey mooom hey dad I seeeeee ur awake don't try meeeee" lol

And i actually just added two new members to the flock of dogs, fishes and two leggeds

Aug 07, 2016 4:23 PM

Ops posted before I was done lol,
Well we have to scalllliieee friends now two bearded dragons sky and jax and they are just gorgeous.
But some getting used too tho lol I used to have leopard geckos so this is a big step up from them lol but I love my new babies and can't take my eyes of them.
Hera looked at them and then on me like saying " uhmmm mom why does those dogs look so funny ?"
And I could see the beardies go like where are those lizards scales ? Lol πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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