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Just a bit of a rant

Mar 02, 2015 7:58 AM

I have a fairly large amount of friends, and well...they all like to compare their medical problems to mine. Some, like my friend who is in remission for cancer, are slightly better about it than others. For example, after I had just gotten my diagnoses...one of my friends told me she "understood" because she has a knee that clicks when she sits down. Another friend has blackouts (which we all think is because of her anorexia) and she claims that she understands because of that. The friend in remission for cancer is really rude about this, actually. Once after having to go up TWO flights of stairs I was panting and literally felt like I was going to pass out, and I jokingly said "Holy shit, I'm dying." He then whirled around and yelled, "Really? How much are you /actually/ dying?" I shut up for a moment before saying, "You do know that my body is attacking itself, right? My body is /literally/ trying to kill me." Now, to be frank, I'm pretty sure it's not actually trying to kill me, I just needed him to shit up. I'm just frustrated. Nobody understands living with pain like this, and as much as everyone claims they do...their pain goes away. They get a rest. I'm just angry and a little bit sad.

Mar 02, 2015 7:59 AM

*shut (sorry, small keyboard)

Mar 02, 2015 8:16 AM

M24601, I totally understand what you are saying. My mother-in-law is pretty healthy to be 78. She has glaucoma, high cholesterol and hyperthyroidism. She suffered a very mild stroke during the holidays that took most of her sight, and her ability to reason/remember. She complains all the time how bad her life is. She can walk, talk, feed & mostly groom herself still. She was ranting so bad about it in front of her doctor that her doctor scolded her saying, "You are healthier than most of my patients, and your own daughter in law. If you hadn't had the stroke you'd still be living at home.". When she gets to going I can't help but remind her what other patients (where she's at) has wrong. Sometimes I even remind her of my health, and every time she says, " I'd just die if I had all you've got! "

Then I have a sister who "one-ups" everyone else's issues. It's like only she is allowed to feel bad. Funny thing is, now that she's got her knee replacement, she goes and does anything she wants, but only complains if someone asks how she's feeling. Its bad enough we do suffer but for others to think & challenge us because our issues may not be visible, they're just selfish & wrong.

Mar 02, 2015 9:18 AM

M24601 and everyone this morning how are all of y'all doing? My husband is the world's worst any ache or pain he has is worse than any of us or anyone else. I know his knee hurts him,but but I get so agravated at him. My sister has Asthma too but to here him talk he say's yeah but mine can kill me, we tell him Asthma can kill anyone who has it.But he doesn't belive it. I told him I hoped he never had to live like I do in pain 24/7. That I would have to kill him .Lol if he did. He pulled a muscle in his back one time I know he was hurting he was moaning and groaning about how his back was killing him and he just couldn't stand it the pain was so bad. I told that how would he like to live with it for the rest of his life because that's just a little of what I live with everyday. He quit getting mad at me not wanting to go and do things all the time after that so much.

Mar 02, 2015 10:01 AM

I totally understand where all of you are coming from! I really don't have any friends anymore. They have disappeared over the years. My boyfriend and kids are pretty good most of the time, but my parents just don't get it. It is very frustrating.

Mar 02, 2015 10:26 AM

I only have one friend who loves to play the "who is the most sick/in the most pain" game. The only thing I can do is silently laugh and continue pushing through my day.

Mar 02, 2015 10:51 AM

M24601, I have friends who do the same thing. One even says if I have a better attitude, the pain will all go away. That I should lose more weight, go out more (even if I don't want to), and then things will turn around. It's very frustrating indeed. She's 10 years my senior and says what will you do at MY age.. My knees crackle, I'm tired, my stomach is out of whack, etc... I just say, I'll let you know when I get there!!

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