I'm sorry I've been offline all week and unable to read, let alone respond to posts. I don't have time to right now either but hopefully tomorrow.
Anyway my dad had TKR on Tuesday and the doctors opted to use general anesthesia. Unfortunately this has caused his memories to relapse into multiple decades of past memories and lots of confusion with easy anger outbursts and urinary incontinence. He doesn't understand much of anything that's said or who the staff is that comes in, and he's getting all of our names mixed up (calling stepmom by deceased wife's name or her sister's). He thinks "all these people coming into the the room are here to write a story about what I did in my lifetime & then print it in the newspaper!" I think I forgot to mention my dad has always had a "super ego & pride" issue. Lol at times and really sad and disturbing at others. Where his mom was so gentle and sweet with Alzheimer's, his bad tendencies seem to be coming forward. Ugh! Not to mention embarrassing at times. If things went well overnight he's being DC to a rehab center today, inpatient, which he doesn't comprehend (thinks he's going home).
I located a healthcare and rehab facility very close to his home where my stepmom can travel easier.Not only can they address his PTOT needs, but they're a complex care facility that can address memory care, behavioral care, his incontinence and pain management. I'm sort of perturbed with her because me and my siblings have had to go get her dinner or lunch every day because she didn't want to leave our dad alone (fall risk). The errands weren't the issue. We told her to go get a hotel room, and I even drive her around on PreOp day so she could find them easily, but she chose to stay in his room with him. She didn't want any of us to stay with him. Then 2 days ago my siblings got there to find her asleep in the car, my dad alone for who knows how long in the room. Then last night she didn't get the urinal in time (it was hidden from view under the bed!) and he had an accident, which upset him with his wife (my sister hung the urinal in the bed side rails). Stepmom said nursing staff got angry at my dad for his accident. But she has no patience and takes everything he says personally or tries to constantly correct his errors, which only agitates him, and we're wondering if the staff witnessed her behavior and was really upset with her. So just as my sister and I were getting ready to leave last night or stepmom says, "I think I'll drive on home tonight.". They live nearly 2 hr away, and it was dark!! I looked at her and said, "What!? Why? He'll be discharged in the morning and do you think it's safe to leave him alone, especially if you think the staff is upset with him?". Then she goes, "Well, no I better stay.". What logic was in that?! I've had to ask questions and offer any info to the staff from PreOp on...Rediculous! She must be getting alzheimers herself???
I've been at the hospital every day from sunrise to sunset and running food & shopping errands in between. I actually had to go shop for some pj's and lounge sets for my dad yesterday; my stepmom packed for herself but forgot to get dad any clothes other than what he wore up on Tuesday. I also had to loan them both a sweater and coat for discharge, because the cold front. From sheer exhaustion I'm running on adrenaline and auto pilot this morning.
I have to close now. But I hope and pray everyone finds a little sunshine, a few blessings in your lives today! The pic above have me a smile & peace. Oh, my daughter passed her first (of many) tests to her promotion position!!! PTL 🙏 Hugs love & prayers to all! 🙂💕🙏🌸