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Just need to chat. Trying to figure some things out

Oct 31, 2016 6:16 PM

Things are moving along nicely for the surgery. Had a half day at the hospital doing ore surgical testing and what not. And I've been give some real thought as to if or who I want to be my proxy. As of now all I have is an advanced directive. Which I suppose is good enough. It covers most of the high points. Life saving measures and wishes and who is allowed to make decisions as to my end of life choices. Before being a pain suffer I've alwsys said I'd want to have all done to save my life. But now I'm thinking seriously about maybe not doing that. I hope I'm not over stepping and I know it's a very personal choice. But how do u make it? Really confused

Oct 31, 2016 7:32 PM

I can't tell you how to make that decision. It's a hard one. But there are several people I know that have do not recesitate (sp?) orders in their living will.
Don't let anyone bully you either way on this choice. It's yours and yours alone

Oct 31, 2016 10:15 PM

What you need to think about is - is the advanced directive the same as a living will or can your next of kin override it?
If you don't trust anyone to be your proxy then maybe to make sure your wishes are in place you need to do a living will.
I agree with gotobef, it is your choice and yours alone, I know that's not helpful when you've got everything going around but what you need to do is for 5 minutes is to just STOP...sit down...empty your head of all thoughts...take a deep breath then let it out...this time count to 5 as you breathe in, hold in in for a minute then breath out for for 7 do this a couple of times or more if you need to....then you can think about what you want but try not to overthink it and make it more complicated than it really is.

Sending you { { { BIG GENTLE LOVING HUGS } } }
You're in my prayers and sending positive vibes your way xx

Nov 01, 2016 12:00 AM

Newfibrogirl what they said โคด๏ธ it is such a personal choice and only YOU can decide at what point you would think you wouldn't want to have heroic measures taken to save your life. Sending gentle {{{Hugs}}} and positive thoughts your way!!๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ’•

Nov 01, 2016 10:18 PM

Thank you guys...i appricate your in out in this I've never had to deal eigh things like this and it's all confusing. I think I'm gonna sit down this weekend and have a conversation with my mom and sister. Ugh

Nov 02, 2016 12:51 AM

Newfibrogirl now that the weekend had passed, did you have your conversation with your Mom and Sister? how it go?? Update us all and let us know

Nov 02, 2016 10:03 AM

I've not done it yet. I was talking about this coming weekend. I've not had time to deal with that yet. I'm preparing for my three procedure and treatment tomorrow, Thursday. I'm having a stress test ( cardio lit) plus my chemo and iron Infusion all tomorrow.

Nov 02, 2016 12:08 PM

Newfibrogirl I'm sending you healing vibes and prayers that all goes well tomorrow for you and that it doesn't take all of your energy {{{{ BIG GENTLE HEALING LOVING HUGS }}}}

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