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Dec 15, 2015 8:38 AM

So I'm not sure how many of you have seen my last post about my moms having heart surgery and my dad being sick and everything being placed upon me and my sister offering to move in and help and I'm still getting help from my uncle is the best they can do however this morning at 8 o'clock in the morning my sister comes in take my dad my mom to the doctors appointments the so-called give me a day off in a break she comes in with a huge attitude causing issues make everybody feel like crap and pretty much tells me that I better get enough rest today because she's tapping out ,she is done.
she has not been seeing and been living in the home with my mother and father. so she'll come for a few hours and leave. even with her coming by the help and staying the whole day she still leave that night, leaving me with it and she's only been doing that for one week and now she's already.
Tired and done yes my mom and dad both can be very very irritating that can push your buttons but for whatever reason my sister just has no patience and she's just not a caregiver so now she's all irritated that everybody feeling on edge and stressed out including me so so much for restful relaxing day off for me cuz my parents have two appointments today and she's the saying she'll do the next one but she doesn't want to she had to nobody has time for that crap.
so apparently I can only assume that her moving in is not going to happen. which is probably fine because I really don't need those kind of attitude around me . I'm already feeling bad and tired and irritated and being put on medications to slow my heart rate because I have my heart rate is too fast . being stressed just doesn't help that needless to say I'm a little upset right now.

kinda disappointed in myself for the attitude it's not like this is not her mom like her biological parents someone they raise her whole life but yes she's going to take an attitude like this very irritated very frustrated thank you for letting me vent

Dec 15, 2015 9:20 AM

Oh Newfibrogirl, I am so sorry that this is happening!! I'm sorry, I have to say that your Sister is a selfish person. I had hopes and was so happy for you that she offered to come and assist you with your parents and take them to appointments so you could catch a break. Look on the bright side (there always is one, even when we think there isn't!!). She is still going to come by and even though she's not moving in or staying the day, there is some help there (I guess a little is better than none, right?) I don't understand her attitude. She's been doing this for a week and she's already tapping out saying she has no time for this crap. Well, your parents didn't say that to her when they raised her. They put a roof over her head, clothes on her back and food in her belly. I would say that it's her turn to give back. I do whatever I can for my folks. I've had to take my Mom to the stores while running a fever and being in a flare, taking my Dad to the VA Hospital for his check up (30 miles each way). And I have to skip my meds each time so I can drive safely. I wish there was something that I could do for you. If I was nearby, I'd come and help you myself!!
Keep your chin up, it's all going to work out. You'll see. I'm sending you lots of love, gentle {{Hugs}} and prayers to help you through.💕🌻🙏🏻

Dec 15, 2015 9:32 AM

Thanks always...and to add to the disappointment.. My sister is a breast cancer survivor. And my mom. Was right three for her. And yes at this time we all should pull up our boot straps.. Yes..we are all tired. And we will have stresses.but to start snapping at each other is unproductive. Not to mention unfair. I can understand she is tired too. She has health stuff and things she needs to care for. But the older she gets the more ...yes... Selfish she becomes...your right..its gonna be OK...GOD got it. ..it's just right now I've got wait more to see what he does. And I'm trying to be cool because I can feel its sending me into a flare. Things are firing up.. So I'll just. Breathe.. Thanks ks for your kind words and thank you for your prayers

Dec 15, 2015 9:42 AM

You keep deep breathing and try to relax. Perhaps the flare won't come (or at least won't be as bad as you anticipate). You would think being a survivor, that you would have more empathy and compassion for people who are going through a rough time. We here in our wonderful pain family are ALL survivors of one kind or another. Just to get through a day of level 8 pain is enough!! God will see you through. We will also be by your side to see you through. you're in my daily prayers and you never have to thank me. It's very important for me to know my peeps are looked after.🙏🏻🌻

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