A few months ago I was up late with a lot of pain and - to be honest - I was feeling sorry for myself. I was thinking of all of the things I can’t do and getting increasingly upset. Finally I just stopped myself and said, “OK. You’ve lost a lot. What CAN you do?”
I decided that I can be kind.
I ordered a box of 48 blank notecards and have started sending notes of encouragement, gratitude, and congratulations. I voice my kind thoughts and pay people compliments. I have sent a few small gifts to people who have been on my mind. I tell my husband every day how much I love and admire him. I tell my children the strengths I see in them and the things I admire about them. I send kind text messages.
My pain levels are about the same, but it’s a lot easier to tolerate when I am not focused on myself.
I am happier. My family is happier.
If you’re having a difficult time, try kindness therapy. It definitely won’t hurt.