Turns out malnutrition can wreak some havok on your joints. I was sick for half a year about 3 years ago, and while some symptoms have disappeared, I'm left with sensitivity to cold and also still joint pain/weak joints. I'm doing a pain journal to try and ensure that there isn't another reason for this condition, as well as to try and find triggers so I can avoid the pain. My poor fiancé takes the brunt of my bad mood when my pain flares up :( Any words of wisdom from the community?
Sounds like you are on the right path now. Yes, our loved ones are in a very hard spot. It is impariative that our loved ones understand it is not directed at them. Frustrations come out and can be very ugly and hurtful. I found that a good psychiatrist trained in dealing with chronic pain issues he helped us both in dealing with my meltdowns. It also gave me validation that I really was not crazy and sometimes just had to work out how I was feeling. Journaling helped me get it all out. I once thought journaling was stupid, not anymore. I am extremely thankful that we went together as a couple with the same goals to be together forever. My psychiatrist explained that when I am in a bad pain cycle I really do not have control of anything and I cannot help it. That being said it does not excuse lashing out at the ones you love. For me I had to learn to ask for help (that was very hard for me) and remember that even though when we hurt and want to scream, we are on the same team. My fiance is not the enemy he just loves me and wants to help. Also ALWAYS say you are sorry, even though you know that he knows that. Go to couples therapy. You have to have really good tools to deal with chronic pain or it will suck out your soul. There will always be bumps in the road. The last thing that you want is to hurt, lose or cause bitterness to the one that loves you. Together you can make it! Best of luck it sounds like you have a good man now keep him. :)