So I am getting married in September. He is 23 with raging hormones, and I feel like an old woman in a 22yr old body. I have 0 sex drive. None. Sometimes I don't even want to be touched or kissed because it's painful... Sometimes, I'm just too tired. Sometimes we try and I end up in tears frustrated because no matter what we do I'm in too much pain to even get aroused or even get past forplay...I know my hypo thyroid and fibro are both contributing but I am doing everything I can... I feel like a awful fiance and I know he understands, but that doesn't make it easier for either of us... what do I do... am I doomed to have a low libido before we are even married? Please help! I need advice!
First I would suggest setting your gyn to have your hormone levels checked. Hormone imbalance can affect you definitely. Being relaxed is important, because being tense in anticipation of pain is a killer to the mod, both mentally & physically. Be romantic and set the mood in your surroundings. Read the other suggestions in Jahmac's thread. Hugs & prayers things get much better with the gyn doc help! 🙂💕🙏🌼
Sull, I would encourage you to do as flappy suggested...also you might want to consider some form of counseling. Not because you are crazy but,because you are needing to learn how to re-doing all of your life..you are trying to come into acceptance, and uet there still is so much grief we have to learn how to deal with..ie... depression, lethargy, anxiety etc..all this can interfere with a low sex drive ,and hormone imbalance. I hope you can find some special support..for this should be the happiest of times for you... and I am so sorry it hurts to be touched and held. Maybe you can find different medications too that will help, although narcotics actually can depress everything too. Keep talking , sharing, and breathing in and out. You are loved. Terri