Neither option is good but which is better? This is coming out of a situation this morning in which I guess I should have lied to keep everyone else happy.
I was the first one in at work today, very rare as I'm usually late. A few guys came in and started coffee and said hi, none got close to me, their desks are not near mine. The other girl came in and her desk is right beside mine. When she got close my nose, throat and lungs started burning so something irritated my respiratory system. I finished checking my email and quietly went to the computer room and waited in front of the equipment for the time to start the scheduled maintenance. One of the guys came in and started some work on a different system, hellos exchanged.
Then the other girl comes in and asked how I'm feeling today so I said not good, truth. She asked why so i said oh peoples personal products are bothering me, i was trying to shrug it off. She pressed for details, who was it, what did it smell like, was it her. So i told her that i didn't know the cause but when she came in my lungs started burning. She got all offended and jumped on the other guy asking if she stunk to him (i never said she stunk) and that she hadn't put anything on today. So i tried to explain that things people don't think about like laundry detergent, soap, shampoo, conditioner, deodorant, lotion and so on cause problems... digging myself a deeper hole since she thought that my general information was directed only at her and that i was demanding she change her whole life. So then i tried to explain that i didn't know if it was something she was using our if she'd walked past someone and brought something into the room when she came in. And she started telling me that i can't control peoples lives and that they shouldn't have to change because I'm super sensitive. So i told her that i know that, and that's why i have that appointment with occupational medicine today. I have to see if they said i need to quit my job, so she brought up the fact that everywhere is going to be the same because people won't stop their lives for me. I was a little pissed by this point so i said a little loudly that i am aware of that and i am aware that i might end up homeless and that i can't even go to the damn grocery store without getting sick. She got really quiet and said she was going to request not to be on the same shift as me ever and did some work on another system and left and told me not to come back to the office because she was going to spend the day at her desk.
I should have just lied.
There is no work from home option for my job. I need the money and with my sensitivities won't be able to get a job elsewhere. Hopefully they can come up with some solutions at this appointment this afternoon.