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Sep 27, 2015 7:18 PM

Most of u by now know my situation... So I'm sure there are parents here in this group ..I need to hear how a spouse and parent would deal with having a sick spouse and child at the same time. My mom is dealing with this. So I need to know how to understand her better....so the question. Is how does a person deal physical a d emotionally with have a seriously I'll spouse and child at the same time.....

Sep 27, 2015 9:44 PM

I am new here but I can tell you if it were not my understanding husband I think a 357 magnum would have been my next purchase!! Seriously!! I have THE most wonderful husband in the world. I have not been to the gro store but a couple of times since my journey began in 2008. I have tried to vacuum and shampoo the carpet but was down for 2 or 3 days afterward so I'm not allowed to even try it anymore. So very thankful for this man o mine. Don't know what I would do-seriously!!

Sep 27, 2015 10:54 PM

So sorry to hear about so much stress in your life. I really recommend that you take everything day by day. Live in the moment and don't let your thoughts wander to the past or the future. Lots of good friends/family with friendly and compassionate support. If you believe in God then lean on him and pass it onto him to lessen the load. Most importantly, take care of you!! You can't take care of others if you are exhausted either physically or mentally. Believe that you will get through it because you will and so will they. :)

Sep 27, 2015 11:24 PM

Up until recently i would have said the same as lady but yesterday i got a shock of my life. My son almost fell off the couch and onto his head but i managed to stop him in time but at the detriment of my body. I had been pushing hard yesterday trying to get things done. My husband didn't see my son fall all he saw was me being sore and the next words out of his mouth were " great now i will have to take another day off " at that point i wanted to go into my room and die. My worst fear is being a burden on my family. Anyone who cares for someone in pain is to constantly remind them they are not a burden and how important they are. Being in pain makes you fall apart a lot easier than others so keep letting them know they matter.

Sep 28, 2015 12:05 AM

Dear, most moms are generals. Just let her know you love her, leave her little treasures around the home. Call a friend and pay for her to be taken to the movies out to eat. Sometimes we have to let the caregiver a reassurance that we know they are giving up their life for us. What mom doesn't love a home made card from her baby no matter old the baby is. By bringing her friends in theyncan be a blessing to her also.

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