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Feb 28, 2016 6:21 PM

So I'm writing since I made a promise to do so instead of falling back into my hole. But I'll be honest the hole looks nice right now. I had a cry fuss session with mom today . I just couldn't handle it anymore she keeps asking me the same question every morning all day. Do you hurt ? Are u still hurting? Then she says ur in the bed all day? How the hell can this b.... Say some mess like that. After I cook dinner and lunch every day for her and my dad and then my dad won't eat then I go out and buy him food. I go shopping I oick things up. I take out trash . hell I'm out of the house most of the time. If I do stay home I'm up doing stuff. There's a lot going on here most of u all know . to the rest I'll spare you. But she asks me today what's wrong with me and I just burst. I'm in pain spasms fatique is off the charts and yes I still cooked dinner with spasms and brain fog out this world. I'm to the point I don't want to check into my days anymore. I'm so done so over it. So very over it....

Feb 28, 2016 7:38 PM

I'm sorry everything's pretty hectic for you right now! I hope you have a space where you can just spend time with yourself and try to calm your mind. Stress can really make pain 10x worse if you don't let yourself relax! I suggest some essential oils too like peppermint and lavender to help you! I hope things calm down for you soon!

Feb 28, 2016 7:53 PM

Newfibrogirl, is it possible for you to stay with your sister a few days to a few weeks? I think you need some space away from your mom right now. I personally don't think she will ever understand or comprehend what you are going through. And I think it's going to be better for you to get to a point where what she says goes in one ear and out the other. I know many people like that and that's been my best way of coping with them. It may not work as well for you, but do you think you could try it that way? I'm so sorry she pushed your buttons again. Hugs!!! πŸ™‚πŸ’•πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Feb 28, 2016 9:26 PM

Flappys.. Staying with my sister is not an option right now. My sister has lumped us all ( me mom and dad) all into one package. She does not even speak to my dad when she comes over. So I wish it were an option. I feel so stuff and shuffled. The pressure right now is off the charts. I don't know how much more I can take. And now my boyfriend is mad at me. I'm seriously considering asking for a therapist. I also agree that she will never be the mom I thought she was. Me living on my own for since after highschool its easy to look away she gets out of hand. But now I'm in the thick of it.and the way mom treats and speaks to my dad. Is hurtful. But then again they have been married for like
Over 30 years I think.

Feb 28, 2016 9:37 PM

Meagan..thank for your encouragement. I will try the oils at this point I'll try just about anything. And yes at the moment I'm having tremors. And that is something new that I noticed when I get overly stressed or fatiqued. Thank ks again

Feb 28, 2016 10:35 PM

Newfibrogirl, I know that you can't stay with your Sister and I know she hasn't been of any help to you, your Mom or Dad.. Always found it pathetic that she'd not help but come every day for a home cooked meal (courtesy of a wonderful Sister who does it despite being in horrible pain). It's sad that the Sister with a good job and brand new cars feels entitled to the point of coming over whenever and having a meal (and one that SHE chooses) and then just leaves!! It is hard with your Mom being one way and your Dad being another. The stress of taking care of elderly parents is very real. So hard to cope with. I mean, you can cook for your Mom and she eats and then Dad just won't eat and then you have to go get in the car and get him what he wants so he will eat. You have been selfless and wonderful and know that you are a very special and loving daughter, Sister and friend. Always remember that your CMP family is here for you at all times. You're loved and you have people here (me for sure) that will never turn our backs on you. You have several hands to hold, several sets of arms to hold you and many ears to listen whenever you need to be heard. You're always in my thoughts and prayers, Sweetie Sending you great big {{{Hugs}}} and I love you bunches.πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»

Mar 02, 2016 7:46 AM

I'm coming then too, Terri! 😊

Mar 02, 2016 8:09 AM

YAY!!!! 😝😜❀️❀️❀️❀️

Mar 02, 2016 8:30 AM

You guys r sweet. Thank you..but I'm one of those women who do best just by herself. The next move I make is to my own place. if GOD says the same

Mar 02, 2016 9:03 AM

Let's all take a trip to Terri's house, we can be in pain together but I bet it will be a lot of laughing cause I think we would have a good time. LOL!

Mar 02, 2016 9:11 AM

EXACTLY!!! Nobody would have time to feel bad because we'd all be laughing so hard that we wouldn't think of it.. LOL!! We can all get RV's and start our very own trailer park and call it Laughter's Paradise!! πŸ’•πŸ˜

Mar 02, 2016 10:56 AM

Beans on toast for 2 weeks I reckon. Hey it's food...

You're doing amazingly - I'm so lucky because my husband cooks. I can't stand in the kitchen for more than about 2 minutes without wanting to collapse, and he's just starting to understand why, now that I'm getting worse and worse. Respect to you. Cx

Mar 02, 2016 11:10 AM

Did you say beans on toast??? OMG, you're going to have to keep the windows open!! LOL!! We'd be walking around the place that with had GHI evjnΓ±fhiop

Mar 02, 2016 11:21 AM

RachAche, no one to cook for me and I can not stand in the kitchen long either...I have seen a lot of peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, ice cream and sweet potato pie for dinner, and the occasional hot dog. All things I normally would not eat for a meal. I am going to add beans on toast... I like toast, I like beans, but never thought of them together. It is just me and the dog right now...and she does her share of changing the smell of the room all by herself. 😷

Mar 02, 2016 12:26 PM

Ugh - I can relate to that. Baked beans on toast is like a default meal in the uk - I didn't know it wasn't a thing in the states :-) x

Mar 02, 2016 12:27 PM

Hugs for having to do it all yourself though - I'm very lucky I know xx

Mar 02, 2016 2:49 PM

Rachel I do all the cooking in my house for my parents and sister. And I'm constantly in pain. And lately the pains been worse. I wish I had someone to cook for me. I miss days with my boyfriend he catered to me on our last trip it was nice. But at any rate. I suppose if I were not cooking I'd be in a really bad spot . I don't know.

Mar 02, 2016 6:11 PM

If everybody else is going, make room for me please! Need to get away from winter already!!!!

Mar 02, 2016 7:01 PM

Hey hey hey, what did I miss?/who is coming to my house? When? And no beans for Alwayz , she has gas problems... Uh huh...

Mar 02, 2016 7:02 PM

Terri.. They will be pulling into your drve way in 15

Mar 02, 2016 9:13 PM

Beans and southern baked corn bread (no sugar)!! And AlwayZ, remember the saying, "Beans, beans, good for the heart, beans, beans, they make you...!". Being a southern, gentle lady, if never say the least word! ROFL

Mar 03, 2016 10:10 AM

LMAO!!! I love it, Flappsy.. You be as proper as you like. I love you anyhow!! {{{{Hugs}}}} πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»πŸ˜Š

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