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My attempt to destress

Mar 07, 2016 5:41 PM

So I'm supposed to be resting and I am in a way. I'm laying down. But I'm going over my day and my last few weeks. And it's all been super stressful not to mention my daily life.
I had a Dr appointment today to see about my jaw. It is TMJ and I've got to see a dentist. Also my blood pressure is high and I've got poor blood flow on one side of body. It just so happens it's the side where most of my pain is. The doctor also states I am showing signs of stress, duhhh..lol..most you guys s already knew that. Ha... Plus my rheumatologist said a similar thing last week. So it appears I've got to really start using my mindfulness meditation and relaxation.
On top of that my truck has been down sincey vacation with my boyfriend. That time was rough afterwards ,since mom ended up in the hospital the next morning.
My uncle calls today and ask me a lot of questions about my truck and long story short he feels he may be able to fix my truck . for less then what I was quoted . it is an experiment he is gonna try but at this point my truck is not moving at all so if he can get it moving again I'm all in. But my dad does not want to try it he just wants his.guy to do the work. But his guy wants 1,500 I dont have that . and my parents don't have it as far as I know. My uncle has been very good to me and my parents and he has give us a lot. But I dont expect him to pay 1,500 for a new engine. But he is willing to use his guy to some work on the truck. At this point I'm trying to stay chill on things since I'm over stressed. But if my uncle wants to help me fix my truck I'm willing to let him do what he needs to do.
So all this is on my mind and I'm kind of tied down. But right now I'm gonna work on just distressing my life. Thanks for listening and feel free to comment

Mar 07, 2016 7:10 PM

Maybe if there is someone close to u that u trust for the time being let them deal with it. Maybe when someone starts talking about it just say "wait, can u please discuss this with .....". I do this with some topics and direct the questions or conversation to my partner...
We are also trying to work on a strategy to calm me down while at breaking point which is when I snap and get all flustered.. I will let u know when I find this strategy ... It's hiding somewhere

Mar 07, 2016 7:16 PM

Yes.please do..my situation is difficult since my boyfriend lives three hours away and my parents are just now starting to believe I have something wrong g with me. Also I'm living with my dad who has double cancers and my mom who has possible mental issues. My sister who is on her own island. So I'm having to discover my own zin and happy place...ha..lol

Mar 07, 2016 7:19 PM

Wow.... Ur situation is obviously amplified by where u live... Is it possible to maybe go stay with someone where it's a little less hectic?

Mar 07, 2016 7:22 PM

I've been thinking about ,right now I don't know for sure. I know my mom woudl have twelve ducks if I moved out .ha..since I so all the cooking and shopping for the house hold. But I'm at a point where I'm gont have to start doing more for my own healtha sake. But.until then I just wait

Mar 07, 2016 7:24 PM

I feel ur pain... I can no longer do the shopping and can only cook once in a while... The washing is a no no as I can't reach the clothes line. I've been told to sit down and write all the things I cannot do... I'm procrastinating this task as I know how bad I'm going to feel while doing it.

Mar 07, 2016 7:25 PM

Twelve ducks?? Lol

Mar 07, 2016 7:25 PM

Sometimes I just have to put ur pain first and family second!

Mar 07, 2016 7:27 PM

Silvrrry..yes.twelve large ducks.. Lol ..I tend to use odd misplaced words in lue of cursing. Lol

Mar 07, 2016 7:33 PM

Kickpainsbutt yes your right.. I've always been the bright light the one who did for others fisrt and me somewhere down the line. But since I've been sick I've seen the need for tending to me first. By not doing so I end up in a worse place. I started out cooking to help the family and because I love to cook but lately it's caused me so much pain to cook and if I tell my mom I do t know how she will take it. I've been working to get help in the house for my dad so mom and I both can have a break. Thankfully that worked out and dad now has therapy coming to home. So now it's time for me. Got find my xhi zone.

Mar 07, 2016 7:37 PM

I know what u mean... For example I hate shopping unless it's to buys something for others, now I hate shopping cause I can't walk far enough to get around the shopping centre! I always put others first and myself last and u know what ... I'm giving u the advice of putting urself first which is what YOU REALLY NEED TO DO... But while typing I'm saying to myself take ur own advice Jessica!!! Lol

Mar 07, 2016 7:40 PM

I do that all the time.i give all this wondet life changing advice but yet I'm drowning in the same type of situation.. How about we help each other...we help each other put ourst first. We are awesome women and we deserve to be cared for just as much as the people we help..deal?
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