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Oct 05, 2015 12:05 AM

I was a fit healthy(ish) Compliance & Facilities manager and things were looking good, my son was just about to leave for his first year at uni, my job role would have almost certainly have quickly led to promotion, my wife is a teacher so a half decent wage coming in from her. We where set to do the midlife thing of planning for our future and life looked promising after so many years of hard graft.
Then one bright sunny May morning in 2013 a 7.5T rigid delivery vehicle decided that neither the speed limit, the buildings 1 way system (that has a plethora of large signs warning of such) or entering a ģateway meant for cars and clearly signed not for delivery vehicles applied to him, if I sound bitter it's because I am...

The upshot of his actions is I ended up with the truck running over my pelvis and basically shattering it into several pieces (for those that are unaware of just how serious even a minor pelvic injury is then just think how much stuff is in and around it) I remained concious untill the paramedic pumped me full of morphine & ketamin, I believe he was with me within 5 mins of the incident. I was already in the capable hands of my Fisrt Aid team who assisted until the ambulance arrived.
The next thing I was truely aware of was waking up in a hospital bed (about 3 days later) with a lung drain attaching me to the building and more tubes and machines beeping than I could comprehend, then seeing my wife and I realised something major had happened.

I had undergone reconstructive surgery on my pelvis consisting of numerous plates, pins and screws, including what look like 3" corse coach bolts via keyhole surgery, it was performed by possibly the best consultant/surgeon in the country who just happend to be on duty when I was bought in, if not for Mr.Ben Davis I would have almost certainly had an external cage. The fact he managed to get all the mettlework inside me, into position and secured whilst having to put the bones back into position (yep, I was properly squashed) to do so without damaging any number of blood vessels, guts, pipework for kidneys, bowels..... the list goes on, is testiment to his skill.

I also had a fractured L5 vertabre, closed degloving to the lower right leg including knee and foot and a fractured left ankle, but having beat the odds of surviving the incident, surviving surgery and after months of hospital and residential rehab coupled with the most amazing wife, family & friends I can get around the house on sticks with lots of convient resting spots every cpl of meters if I need them, anything further than the car requires either using my wheelchair or scooter.
I have been left with chronic pain in my back, pelvis, right hip from right knee down and to a lesser extent my left hip lower pelvis and knee.

That was 2.5 years ago and its been a rollercoaster both emotionaly and medication wise. I am now on 160mg mst, 325 Pregablin, 50mg Dosulepin, 7.5mg Zopiclone, Oramorph when required and a few others. I have just swapped Gabapentin for the Pregablin and its the best thing I've done as unbeknown to us all my digestive issues were partially down to me being intollerant to Gabapentin and with the 3600mg daily dose it was crippling me, this coupled with my newly emerged intollereance to nuts and legumes. This means that I know I will be in less pain in a week or 2 when I stabalise my pregablin dose, but also the brain fog is hitting me, it feels like Hermione Granger has just hit me withe Stupify spell, but I know that the best I can hope for is to live a severly restricted life of managing my activities, my wife now only works 2 days a week so she can (and I hate that this is the case) 'take care of me'.

Anyhow, all my medical team where eager for me to keep a pain journal and this looked like the best one so hello everyone thats made it this far down.

Don't know if I've included too much info or irrelavent stuff, but here I am, I'm not looking for sympathy, just seeing if this tool can help me and maybe I'll have the answer to a forum question...who knows, but here goes 😲

Oct 05, 2015 12:32 AM

Welcome Safety! I'm sorry that our meeting is under these circumstances, any of us. Your story made me want to cry, because I can imagine the drastic change to your life all in a moment of time. My issues have developed and culminated over the last 32 years of my life, so it's been easier to adjust with each new issue.

But we all share chronic pain and understand better than anyone healthy. You can rant and not apologize. There's no kidding here. We are free to speak out minds. Each of us deals the best we can. It's wonderful you have a good support system in your wife, family & friends. Many do not. My hubby is my biggest support, with my girls and 9 yr old granddaughter. Bitterness is part of the road we travel I think. I remember being bitter and angry after my 2010 surgery (5 in 1), that has left me unable to work, topped with all my new diagnosed problems.

But my faith has kept me going. I know many people are worse than me, and some a are not as bad. But it takes reach of us supporting each other to help us through. What's one person's strength may be another's weakness, but together we are stronger. I oppose you'll be able to find strength, compassion, and even new friends via the community. (((Hugs))) for you and your wife, for the courage you both have. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers. 🙏🌼

Oct 05, 2015 12:39 AM

Welcome to the group. Thank you for sharing. There are some very caring eyes reading the posts here. I am newer on the forums myself. But very glad I have found it and take comfort that however many issues we all have on our plates - We are in unity through pain and working through it.

Oct 05, 2015 11:35 AM

Welcome Safety!! Sounds like you sure were a lucky man to have survived such a tragic accident. Thank God the special surgeon was on when you went in and that the ambulance attendants got you out of pain as quickly as they could. I am sorry that you suffer so. I know it draining on everyone. You, family, friends, etc. I've been suffering for 22 years and it keeps getting worse. Sounds like your wife is a Godsend and truly loves you deeply. I am glad you have her to care for you. Don't be upset about that part because no man is an island unto himself and we ALL need help and understanding from time to time. You have a great outlook and I know that if you stick with our zany, wonderful, caring and understanding community family, you can endure whatever comes. I will keep you in my prayers and welcome aboard!!🌻🙏🏻

Oct 05, 2015 2:11 PM

Thanks for the warm welcome, I have spent time reading some posts and there are a lot of amazing people out there :-)

Oct 05, 2015 2:30 PM

Just wanted to add my welcome safety. I will never say I feel like I've been run over by a truck again! I cant imagine how that must be, one day in good health, providing for your family and the next waking up in a hospital room to the scene you describe. You sound like a most amazing man yourself. I hope you find some more here, along with the great support you have. Also. OUCH😳. Welcome.✨

Oct 05, 2015 2:36 PM

Thanks marsemouse

Oct 05, 2015 9:08 PM

Welcome to the group.

Oct 06, 2015 6:44 PM

God bless you n soft hugs

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