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Oct 29, 2015 11:14 AM

Yes I know we all feel like it sometimes ,but when my daughter and husband have had time a way , by their self , but I'am need a break , by myself , and I'am in need for one soon as I feel I'am going to pop ,and it's not gone to pretty , I ve had it , no more. , HELP !
I feel. Like a bottle.of pop that has been shook up ,

Oct 29, 2015 11:43 AM

Hi Honeybee,

I can relate to what you're saying. I am a single mom. I try to find ways to center myself. I get so frazzled always bein on the spot for everything. I want to scream sometimes and feel like I'm being emotionally drawn and quarted. Fortunately I have a grown daughter and when it gets really bad I tell her I am going to explode lol she knows that is when she needs to take the wheel and let me go have a nap or go for a drive by myself. Crank up my car stereo with music that inspires me. Reminds me that though I may be physically disabled and in mental pain, I AM the master of my life and my destiny. We are all fighters and much stronger than we realize.

I'm not sure what will work for you, can you talk to your husband and tell him how you feel and really need a break? Any friends or family that will help?

You will be in my thoughts, I'm praying that you are able to get what you need. Blessings ✌️💜

Oct 29, 2015 3:09 PM

When I was a younger Mom I would just put the kids down for a nap and walk as far as the portable house phone would allow and talk to my best friend about anything and everything. Now, believe it or not, I go to my parents house because it's so quiet and they have comfortable furniture. Get in your car and go where you can, even if it's a McDonald's. .. have a Coke! Call a friend and meet them there. Any distraction is a welcome one!☺

Oct 29, 2015 3:46 PM

When my daughter was small I could depend on Grandma for a overnight sleep over. Now I am Grand maw and she lives with us. God love her she has the most irresponsible parents. My daughter is 30 and her fiancé is 29 and all ready been a sorry of an excuse for a parent that walked this earth, his Dad has custody of her since she was 2 yrs old ,she is now 5. My Granddaughter just turned 6 mos old. She is a little sweetheart.

Oct 29, 2015 4:57 PM

I know the feeling! I am NEVER alone, except when I go to bed at night. I have a 7 yr old that still needs to ask questions when I'm in the bathroom or taking a shower. I can't drive much and my doctors are an hour n a half away so my oldest son takes me to those twice a week. His driving makes me a nervous wreck!!! So not relaxing! It's hard sometimes I just keep on keeping on. All I can do I guess.

Oct 29, 2015 10:14 PM

Honeybee, I am gonna tell you straight, as being a man, when it comes to doing what we want, I think we are selfish. I do believe that as a man, I do pretty well for my wife because I was cursed with this overwhelming sense of guilt. So if she is unhappy, I am sad. I want to change her situation and make her happy. I cannot handle my wife being sad. Back to being a selfish gender. We tend to do what we want with our time. Husband and Fathers still fulfill their responsibilities for the most part but the time left over, they do what they want. Unless you are disabled of course, then you order what you want and do things online. ha ha.

With that in mind, spouses know that about themselves and just need to be pointed out what is going on, they need to know you are going crazy, why you are going crazy. That you need time to yourself. They might suggest a mother daughter day. But you need to know you need to be alone outside of the house treating yourself to a latte, maybe with a friend if you want without the four walls you usually see all the time. Explain to them it is so important to do this. It will cost less in the long run because if they don't do it, They will have to install padded wall throughout the house and buy you special jackets. ha ha. I just think a little communication here can get you what you need. Just a suggestion.

Oct 30, 2015 8:48 AM

Honeybee, have you thought of a way to get by yourself? Like Profiler said, let your hubby know you must have a break. Go to a local park and just sit to read, or watch & listen to the animals and birds. Go for a pedicure or massage or hairdo. If you can, spend the night at a friend's or family, or a hotel. Tell hubby, "if I don't get some me time I'm going to explode and have a meltdown!". Hugs & prayers he will help you with a little getaway.

All men aren't like you described. My hubby is like you, but the mold must have broken after our generation! Lol. 😱 I've commented before that many of the young adults in our children's age bracket have a self centered lifestyle, instant gratification, no concern for anything but fun, and no idea of responsibility. But I realize not all of them fall into that category either. Wishing you a good day for yourself! 🙏🌼

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