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Need advice on travel

Dec 29, 2015 8:42 PM

So short story cmy boyfriend calls tonight after I tell him the latest with my dad falling and my health. He basically wants to buy me a bus ticket to come back and be with him if only for few days. He's been hinting at it for a while but tonight he was more forceful. Since I can't drive long distance and he works two jobs he wants me to take the 4 hour bus ride to him. I have fibromayalgia possible Lupus and invasive abdominal tumors.
How would you deal with that ride? Can u walk around on a bus? Would u go at all?

Dec 29, 2015 10:13 PM

Newfibrogirl, I wish I could give advice, but other than in school I've never ridden a bus. I recently had to drive 5-6 hours one way to Mayo in FL, there trips. I made my hubby stop every 90 minutes to get out and stretch & walk around. I couldn't have done it otherwise. I'll keep you in my prayers & wish you a safe trip! πŸ™‚πŸŒΌπŸ™πŸ˜·

Dec 29, 2015 11:30 PM

Long bus rides seem pretty hard to me, I'd take a bunch of pillows and find out as much info as possible ahead of time. Also, bring snacks. Is there a train option? I just remember one being switched from train to bus, and what should've been a 2 or 3 hour drive turned into six! Not the most fun, we managed to hit rush hour.

For me, rating travel from best to worst,
1Car, someone else driving. You can take breaks as needed, spread out if nerve pain numbs anything, steak pillows, and have more control of your surroundings (heat, windows open vs closed etc.) Main problem would be having a driver and possible cost/break down

2 Train, driven by some one else, potentially less bumpy, might miss certain traffic sections. I've usually been able to walk around easily, and not hit my head on the ceiling or get super car sick. Problems have been getting too hot/cold, being crowded, and not really being able to get off until you arrive

3 Bus, driven by some one else. Short term is fine, but busses seem to bounce more on potholes, have been very crowded, it's often hard to move through the isles (hopefully someone else has had better experiences) and definitely bring food in case you hit unexpected traffic. I had maybe one stop on our trip, and it was so short I just felt antsy when we started driving again.

Good luck, maybe figure out all the options and talk with him about your concerns.

Dec 30, 2015 8:59 AM

I've only been on one bus a greyhound from that area before and it was before ingot sick. It was five hours and the bus only stopped once for like 5 mins. No one got off. I'm thinking of maybe trying to drive myself. Since I can still take those breaks if I need to. And I'll have a car when I get to him. So when he goes to work I won't just be stuck. Ha.. But I think he wants me stuck...he wants me to rest and relax some ..what u think about me driving myself?

Dec 30, 2015 9:07 AM

If you drive youreself you are going to be hurting so bad fibrogirl! Youre gonna need tostop alot! I did nc trip as passenger i couldnt move next day!:( train would be so good for you if possible!

Dec 30, 2015 9:10 AM

I'm not sure if there is a train that comes here. But I'll look into it. I certainly don't want to be in a flare for this trip. I'm gonna have to figure a way to get there with as little pain as possible.

Dec 30, 2015 9:27 AM

If you drive youreself i know this sounds silly once you get the slightest bit of a flare breathe andvtalk youreself down! Sleep as much as you can before hand ! I hope you have a good trip and i hope youre body can let you have no pain!

Dec 30, 2015 9:30 AM

Thanks michellled.. I'm still thinking. I would sound funny asking someone to drivr e.three hours to go see my boyfriend... Lol.. That sounds awful but I just may do it. Lol.

Dec 30, 2015 9:33 AM

I dont blame you one bit !love is good attention and hugs is calming and feels so good in youre heart!

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