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Jan 04, 2019 9:04 AM

I'm asking for support in prayers & positivity. Most who know me know the history of my parents and all I've been through with them over the past 2 years+, including the loss of my Dad last May, & my stepmom deteriorating after a hip fracture to be placed in a nursing home in a 4 week period. And then all my own issues, including the 2 pseudoarthrosis cervical surgeries (didn't heal/fuse).

The week before Christmas my hubby needed an ultrasound and then a prostate biopsy; due to a need to urinate more frequently and sudden loss of bladder if he bent over. They ran labs and not only was his PSA (prostate specific antigen) increased, they told us he's a diabetic. So he's been on a strict diabetic diet since December 12th and I'm trying to eat the same way to make it easier (I can no longer cook so he prepares all our meals). It's very hard on me because I crave sweets, and stress worsens my cravings.

Dec 27th the doc called to say he has prostate cancer. Now I'm really stressed. He's being referred to an endocrinologist for his diabetes, which must be under control before they will even consider doing surgery to remove the prostate. Not removing it isn't an option for either of us. His dad suffered symptoms for 6+ months before he let on that he was even sick. By the time he was seen his cancer had spread all throughout his abdomen; prostate, bladder, intestines. They couldn't treat his at all and he died 5 weeks after being diagnosed. So I'm really trying not to spaz out. Losing my Dad & then mentally & physically losing my stepmom (progressive Alzheimers & hip fx)...I'm not ready to lose my hubby, my best friend, so I am stressed! Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers! As always I'm sending love hugs and prayers for all of you too. πŸ™‚β€πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Jan 04, 2019 3:58 PM

I'm so sorry to hear. You all will be in my prayers of course.

Jan 04, 2019 10:58 PM

Oh Flappys, my heart is breaking for you! You’ll be in my prayers sweetie! Much Love and Prayers as always hunnyβ™₯️😘

Jan 08, 2019 8:52 AM

Thank you AnimalLover2 & Moparmom! Your support means so much to me! I pray you both have a good week!πŸ™‚β€πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Jan 08, 2019 7:13 PM

FlappysLady81 I’m so very sorry to hear your bad news. My thoughts and prayers go out to you. You’ve been through so much these last couple of years. I pray the doctors can help your husband. Take care and know we are all there for you if you need someone to talk to vent to or cry to. Sending you lots of {{{πŸ€—}}}!

Jan 09, 2019 7:48 AM

Sending good vibes and hugs!

Jan 10, 2019 9:05 AM

Thank you Painwarrior & Kade. I think out of everything, even facing that surgery for my abdominal mass of unknown origin in 2010, this is the hardest I've ever faced. Hugs love & prayers you all have a good week!πŸ™‚β€πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Jan 11, 2019 9:09 AM

We saw my hubby's urologist this week and have decided to go through traditional treatment, surgery to remove the prostate. There are several reasons for this choice, over radioactive seed implant & radiation zap treatments to the prostate.

1) radiation treatments would take shooting the beams at the prostate 5 days a week for 8 weeks. And most are familiar to the awful side effects that go along with that method.

2) radiation seed implant had its own risks, with need for limited exposure to others for 6 weeks (not feasible for us or others). Also, if this is done to the prostate & hubby were to develop cancer anywhere else in the lower abdomen later, they wouldn't be able to use this method again.

3) Traditional surgery seems most logical because my hubby is younger than 67 (doc said there's a good chance he could get cancer elsewhere due to his family history). (His dad had cancer all through his lower & middle abdomen; his uncle had prostate cancer; his aunt has breast & bladder cancer & now leukemia.). The doc said this will allow him to look at all the abdominal area and make sure it hasn't spread anywhere else, but if it has they can address it immediately.

The good news is that the cancer was caught in the early stages: it's a 3 out of 5, they don't count 1 & 2, meaning 3 is early stage. Also the multiple tissue samples only involved up to 10% as cancer (adenocarcinoma), but lots of inflamed tissue that concerns the doctor, which is why he wants to go traditional surgery to get a "look-see" at other organs.

So far he has lost 18 lbs, and his blood sugar seems to be staying level (on metformin). I'm not eating the same diabetic lifestyle change diet, and I've lost 5 lbs. It's been hard with my sweet cravings, but I'm getting better at saying no to cheating & eating them. πŸ˜‰

Thank you for your support! Hugs love & prayers everyone has a good weekend!πŸ™‚β€πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Jan 11, 2019 9:50 AM

Praying for the surgery, everything turns out well and cancer isn't anywhere else. Peace and love.

Jan 11, 2019 8:27 PM

I think you made a good choice. I pray that the outcome is good and that you indeed caught it in it’s early stage. My hubby was in the hospital this year for his diabetes. Now insulin dependant. I to have to watch my diet . Hard to give up the sweets. I used tonbake weekly. Oh well the change is good for the both of us. Love and best wishes being sent to you bothπŸ’•

Jan 13, 2019 8:17 AM

Painwarrior, I'm sorry your hubby head to be hospitalized for his diabetes. That has to be hard and scary. Like you we did a lot of baking over the years and too many sweets all the time, so I guess it caught up to us. I can't believe how many diabetics who are on insulin have told us to eat whatever he wants and then take his meds and flush his system with lots of water! It might work to flush out the sugar but it's still damaging the pancreas more. Curiously I read something about diabetics who had normal cholesterol, being put on insulin suddenly they develop high cholesterol. I know my insulin dependent cousin had to wait a whole year for her diabetes to stay controlled in order to have knee replacement, and now her knee isn't healing well. I'm just glad my hubby doesn't need insulin. He actually said he might come off the metformin until he sees the endocrine! I told him if he did his bloodworm may show his blood sugar as unstable and they'd delay his cancer surgery, so then he hung his head (like a little boy) and said, "Oh." 😞. Lol

We've been buying lots of fresh fruit this season, and there are some really good apples and oranges this year. It's helping me get over the cravings for candy & cake.

I'm trying to stay positive that everything will be ok in the end. Knowing you all are support for me, for him too, it really helps. Thanks to all for being here for me! Hugs love & prayers this coming week is a good one for all! πŸ™‚β€πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Apr 10, 2019 6:55 PM

Hi Flappys my parents both past also My Dad about 4 years ago My Mom about 5 years ago , it was really a shock for me about Mon though then my Dad shortly after that . I’m now on my own. and I’m getting Married September 6,2020. To a wonderful Nguyen I abb Lovr my Soul Mate .
All the pain that I am I think πŸ€” is caused by my parents and that I’m not seeing much of my Sisters πŸ‘―. I have two . Well,my therapy and Pastir think πŸ€” that I think another way. Ugh though but I am dealing with everything . Btw my guy that I have now only had one leg 🦡 , that don’t bother me .... We care for each other for our pain bc,he’s lost his parents to... I just had to tell you something about me since I’m new here ...have a nice day plus I go to church regularly and sing in the choir . Hugs to all ))) I know I’m Weddibg you may call me Shore to he he. Hug later ..oh it was my guy now who asked me to marry him August 9 this last year))) .πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

Apr 10, 2019 6:56 PM

Hi I meant guy in the beginning lol πŸ™πŸ™

Apr 11, 2019 1:27 PM

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. And I'm sorry for your losses. No matter our age when it happens, losing our loved ones are very hard to cope through. I try to grasp memories of enjoyable times on the farm with my Dad and all I can see is the last year of his life in the care home, where he was miserable because he wanted to go home. The 1 yr anniversary of his death will be next month. Other than the day of his funeral I've not allowed myself to cry. It scared my grandkids to see me break down at his funeral because they've always seen me so strong. I just take it one day at a time.

Apr 11, 2019 2:45 PM

Hi ty for saying that I am getting to where I can be out and about and doing things and throwing things away. I hope that you are have a good day today to are you ? Have a nice one ☝️ )) 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌷🌷🌷🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈hug to you

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