I just needed to share, and hopefully gain some insight & ideas. My hubby stopped by the home this morning to check on his mom. He found she'd been crying and wasn't very vocal. The head nurse informed him that State Gov't reps came late yesterday, stayed until 9 PM, to review and update their facility, as well as many others on the list. They were told that there are new federal govt mandated guidelines for all nursing homes, assisted living, & personal care homes. As an assisted living facility all the clients/patients must be able to take their own medications, bathe themselves, & feed themselves.
My hubby's mom went totally blind following her stroke in November 2014. We were very lucky to find an assisted living facility who would take someone blind, and even luckier that it's small enough for her to learn her way around. What we did not count on is how rapidly her health declined, both mentally & physically. This home says they'll keep her as long as possible, because they don't want to see her sedated in a nursing home bed or chair because she can't do for herself like others. And yet the representatives that came last night were insistent she should feed, bathe, & medicate herself. She has 3 eye drops she must use, but can't see to know if the dropper is above her eye out not. She eats everything with her hands so she can feel her food and mouth, but she now wears huge bibs. She can't bathe herself or even get to the bathroom without help. Sometimes last summer she lost most control of her bowel & bladder function & wears diapers.
My hubbys mom was crying last night and again this morning because she can't do these things. And last night she had a very bad incontinent accident trying to find her toilet while those people were there. They stressed that she needs to be placed in a full care home, and it upset her. My hubby doesn't want to put her in one, not yet. I've told him several times that she's not going to be able to stay there much longer, and certainly not forever until she dies. Other than the stroke, her blindness & mental deficit, she's as healthy as can be. But she's barely able to remember how to pick her feet up to walk, and has fallen 3x, uninjured thankfully. Herr mental and physical deficits, weakness due to the strokes damage, are requiring more help than most of the others there.
Isn't assisted living suppose to help with medications, baths, and such? I mean, if they're not to help her, wouldn't it be just like renting a hotel room? Mind you, they do have to guide her to & from her room, to her seat in the dining hall, and out to the gazebo for outdoor time, as well as bathe her, dress her, change her breeding, etc. But they do the same with all others that need it. This facility's start goes the extra mile.
There are only 2 buildings, and only 15 patients in each building. That way they are able to give time to reach one. Are they giving her too much of their time? Are they really concerned about her, or is it just because they want her money? She has enough money to pay full price each month, not Medicare mandated fees. I'm just not sure of the answers.
Oh, the reps also said the staff was too skilled for their jobs. Really? What am I missing or not seeing here? 🙂💕🙏🌼