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New Assisted Living Gov't Regulations

Apr 22, 2016 4:12 PM

I just needed to share, and hopefully gain some insight & ideas. My hubby stopped by the home this morning to check on his mom. He found she'd been crying and wasn't very vocal. The head nurse informed him that State Gov't reps came late yesterday, stayed until 9 PM, to review and update their facility, as well as many others on the list. They were told that there are new federal govt mandated guidelines for all nursing homes, assisted living, & personal care homes. As an assisted living facility all the clients/patients must be able to take their own medications, bathe themselves, & feed themselves.

My hubby's mom went totally blind following her stroke in November 2014. We were very lucky to find an assisted living facility who would take someone blind, and even luckier that it's small enough for her to learn her way around. What we did not count on is how rapidly her health declined, both mentally & physically. This home says they'll keep her as long as possible, because they don't want to see her sedated in a nursing home bed or chair because she can't do for herself like others. And yet the representatives that came last night were insistent she should feed, bathe, & medicate herself. She has 3 eye drops she must use, but can't see to know if the dropper is above her eye out not. She eats everything with her hands so she can feel her food and mouth, but she now wears huge bibs. She can't bathe herself or even get to the bathroom without help. Sometimes last summer she lost most control of her bowel & bladder function & wears diapers.

My hubbys mom was crying last night and again this morning because she can't do these things. And last night she had a very bad incontinent accident trying to find her toilet while those people were there. They stressed that she needs to be placed in a full care home, and it upset her. My hubby doesn't want to put her in one, not yet. I've told him several times that she's not going to be able to stay there much longer, and certainly not forever until she dies. Other than the stroke, her blindness & mental deficit, she's as healthy as can be. But she's barely able to remember how to pick her feet up to walk, and has fallen 3x, uninjured thankfully. Herr mental and physical deficits, weakness due to the strokes damage, are requiring more help than most of the others there.

Isn't assisted living suppose to help with medications, baths, and such? I mean, if they're not to help her, wouldn't it be just like renting a hotel room? Mind you, they do have to guide her to & from her room, to her seat in the dining hall, and out to the gazebo for outdoor time, as well as bathe her, dress her, change her breeding, etc. But they do the same with all others that need it. This facility's start goes the extra mile.

There are only 2 buildings, and only 15 patients in each building. That way they are able to give time to reach one. Are they giving her too much of their time? Are they really concerned about her, or is it just because they want her money? She has enough money to pay full price each month, not Medicare mandated fees. I'm just not sure of the answers.

Oh, the reps also said the staff was too skilled for their jobs. Really? What am I missing or not seeing here? 🙂💕🙏🌼

Apr 22, 2016 5:09 PM

Wow, I don't even know what to say here other then this whole story makes me sad for you, your husband and mother in law. Plus super mad about the state of our choices for the care of the elderly and the disabled. It is so hard to even know who to be mad at.
Keeping you in my thoughts.

Apr 22, 2016 6:45 PM

That makes my heart sad. I am so sorry. You would think ASSISTED would mean assisted. I do not understand. I think I am becoming my grandparents. This country does not value our elderly. I do not even know what to say except it is very wrong. How can you fault staff for being to competent? I would call that a blessing. Scratching and shaking my head.....

Apr 22, 2016 7:10 PM

It is very sad for your mother in law and my heart goes out to her.

I am not sure of the laws and such they are talking about but what it sounded like to me is this facility does not have the right certifications or what every they need to continue at the level they had been.

Getting information 2nd hand never seems to work well for me. Did they give you a name and number of who had been there or what agency you can call with questions.

Completely different but my grandma was in a facility and when her alzhiemers got to a certain point she had to be moved to another facility because the first one could not keep her probably because of regulations. Obviously the alzheimers unit gave her her meds because she couldn't remember to take them.

I hope you find answers and a place that she can be comfortable in.

Apr 22, 2016 9:04 PM

Thanks LMB. I'm with your grandparents too. It is very sad.

Shammagren, this company/facility has been in the same business for over 30 years. And it's owned by an attorney who went straight to the local judge. He's making calls. It wasn't just my hubby's mom who was targeted. They're trying to figure out who the woman & her crew was that came in last night, and on who's authority. Their facility not staff has ever come into question before.

It just makes me afraid of what my dad's going to go through if we have to place him. As sad as it sounds I pray he does at home first. Goodnight all. 🙂💕🙏🌼

Apr 24, 2016 9:12 AM

Update: hubby is going to sign proxy documents for the staff to do his mom's meds for her. Yes! 🙂💕🙏🌼

Apr 24, 2016 1:38 PM

I work in a assisted living. We do all that. What state do you live in? Assisted living is to help people be independent but to help in things they can no longer do.

Apr 24, 2016 7:48 PM

GA. That's exactly what I told my hubby, that assistance is why she is there. The full care nursing home sent us there at the start. The lawyer that owns the facility is checking into things.

Apr 25, 2016 4:19 AM

Georgia is not a good place for the elderly to live. I am elderly and moved from Ohio. I was given Medicaid to supplement my medicare. That is not true in Georgia and now I have to pay $222 for a Medigap policy. My small monthly income is stretched to the max.

Apr 25, 2016 3:32 PM

My sister is in the same boat Donamel. It's very hard here.

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