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Aug 18, 2016 5:41 PM

Hey guys,

Sorry if this post is a little scatter brained but I'm really emotional and stressed today. So I've had chronic pain for awhile. I suffer from migraines and back pain due to chronic back problems.i also suffer from chronic depression and panic disorder. For those who don't know whar panic disorder is it basically means that my anxiety fluctuates and I get frequent panic attacks and then I have panic attacks about having more panic attacks so it ends up being a vicious cycle. Im 25 and i just moved out on my own today for the first time today. Ive been living at home for so long because I'm scared but now that I am in graduate school and had to move for it I have no choice but to live on my own. At times I feel like I can cope but other times when the pain is bad I feel like I can't. If anyone has any advice or words of encouragement or even just wants to share there own experiences I would really appreciate it.

Aug 18, 2016 8:54 PM

Good luck with grad school! I am also in grad school (round 2). Honestly this time is harder (I didn't have pain issues before). Pain or no pain- a support group is key. And even with my pain issues I found a super group of supportive friends! They were understanding when I needed rest and even made lunches on super busy days that were extra tough for me! Find those people who will be there for you! They won't be the most popular and they may be a bit quirky but that is where I fit in anyway!
Living alone is tough. Living with my spouse and roommate was tough when I went back to school too. I was the primary dinner maker - and then I wasn't. This caused many problems. So I had to go back to what worked when I was single and in grad school- simple basics that I enjoy but are super easy to prep- not sexy but nutritional and quick. Salads with canned tuna or chicken, pasta with veggies that can cook w the liquid, even frozen veggies that need no prep. Some nice cheese on top and the lack of meat is not missing. Frozen peas, romano cheese, pasta, with lemon pepper is still a favorite of mine. Pasta carbonara takes a little more prep but can be one pot. Refried bean burritos are super easy! Not stressing about food but getting enough nutrition helps me a lot. Oatmeal is always good!
And good or not, caffeine is my friend. I had cut it almost out but grad school is a beast! I found caffeine mints so I could have the caffeine without the calories.
Naps are also my friend. A little body relaxation and 5-10minutes can be amazing!! (30-60 is better but not always possible). I commuted so I took A LOT of cat naps in my car!!
Last but not least, there are supportive people here!!
Oh- do you have Disability accommodations? If not- GET THEM!! They saved my bacon!

Aug 18, 2016 9:58 PM

Thank you so much Gardener! And good luck to you too! Your friends sound amazing. I'm a little worried that I don't know anyone in the city and my family is a 2 hour drive away. But hopefully when school starts I can make some great friends. Thanks for the tips on cooking, I can cook some basic things but not much. I have an appt with disability services at my school next week so hopefully I get them

Aug 18, 2016 9:58 PM

Accommodations that is

Aug 19, 2016 2:13 PM

Congratulations on grad school Missmoomoo! I have anxiety and at times do panic. But mostly I've learned to recognize the signs and zone out, doing deep slow breathing with my eyes closed, only focusing on my breath. I keep anxiety meds on me. Good luck settling in your home and finding other to have a support system on campus. Hugs love & prayers! πŸ™‚πŸ’•πŸ™πŸŒΈ

Aug 19, 2016 2:14 PM

PS: Cutting back on my caffeine intake has helped with my anxiety.

Aug 24, 2016 3:12 AM

I found energy drinksπŸͺ to be a no-no 🐫for my anxiety! I felt so much better πŸ€—...once i realised caffine/taurine/or similar β˜” to actually make my fatigue and anxiety much worse! 😐

'REDBULL' definitely does NOT give me wings! πŸ‘…

Aug 24, 2016 1:11 PM

"Where's my flippin wings???" 🐫
Never a truer word spoken 🐴

Aug 24, 2016 2:16 PM

I know where your wings are Lulabel.. LOL!!! πŸ˜ŠπŸ˜‚πŸ«πŸ™ŒπŸΌ

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