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Mar 25, 2017 2:51 PM

I would like to ask if anyone had any friends who don't believe in your pain and what you do to convince them. I mean my friends saw me in pain and dizzy at school and they were like, "Get over with it, you don't do PE." What should I do to convince them that I'm not faking it to get their pity.

Mar 25, 2017 5:37 PM

Show them your daily pain chart. That was a big slap in the face for my husband. Granted, he already believed me, but I don't think he ever really understood until then.

Mar 25, 2017 6:45 PM

Some friends... You learn are not really your friends. If they cared they would at least try to learn. Is there a info sheet you can print out to hand them? I know for fibro there are two pages I share. One is letter to normals. This can be used for any chronic pain condition. The other is called The Spoon Theory. It also can be used to describe any chronic pain.

Mar 25, 2017 6:52 PM

JazzHallinan, thank you for the suggestion.

Mar 25, 2017 9:36 PM

LifeOnPaws you have unfortunately seen the side of pain that we all go thro at one point or another 😞
There are some people who won't or can't understand no matter what we say or what we show them but there are others who will try to and you will find these are rare people indeed and they will be true friends 🙂
The things I can suggest are Google "The Letter To Normals" and "The Spoon Theory" (as Mimikay said) as these can start helping some of your​ peers to understand what you go thro but also sit with them to better explain what you go thro and if they have any questions try your best to answer them and you can also show them your pain log (as JazzHallinan said).....The longer you've been doing the log the better they can see how the pain affects you 🌹

Unfortunately there will still be some who can't understand and some who don't want to understand and this will be true for the rest of the time you suffer with a chronic condition which is invisible but you'll always have us here to help you when you need us 😊

I'm sending you positive vibes and warm healing hugs xx

Mar 26, 2017 5:20 AM

When I mention it to my friends they never respond back so I really don't have much support. Also my mom will go silent when I'm talking to her also. :(

Mar 26, 2017 5:51 AM

Hi life on p, thats horrid but you dont have to prove anything to anybody. Friends? Would be supportive wouldnt they? Pity from others won't help or change anything. Good luck Gx

Mar 26, 2017 5:57 AM

don't care. I've seen people just take care about theyself and their pain.

Mar 26, 2017 9:40 AM

Letter to normals:

http://www.fms-help.com/open.htm

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