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Parking lot bully Again

Jul 02, 2016 4:01 PM

Another parking lot bully accosted me today. She blocked my car and said she was going to report me to the police because I don't look disabled. She parked in a disabled spot and waited there for a long time until I left. In the meantime, I called police to report her. The police drove around. "Didn't see any activity", and left. I didn't break down crying this time so that's an improvement. But next time I will work harder to not call her a b*tch, even when they deserve it. I ignored her at first but she kept harassing me. What else can I do? I don't have the energy to "educate" anyone about my illness, particularly while in a parking lot on a hot day. I told her that I don't have to tell her anything and tried to get her to leave me alone. And also with my 3 year old. Some people are terrible!

Jul 03, 2016 7:32 AM

This is a terrible thing to go through. It sounds like you and I have similarities with our illnesses. I have Fibro and Ost. Arthritis along with another handful of chronic pain issues. I know what you are talking about when you park in the handicap. Being that we have an invisible illness people don't get it unless they're in the same boat as us. I have to admit before I became ill I would junge people to that parked in handicap that looked okay. I think this comes from all the offenders out there that scam the system. I sure know that I don't judge anyone anymore. I just wish others would do the same for us. I tend to get the looks from older people as to why I'm in that spot since I don't look physically sick. I guess you have to be in a wheelchair or have your body in a cast to show you need the spot. I just can't believe this lady would actually park and wait for you. I think I would of called her a lot worse than a bitch. That's just being in pain and not being able to handle ignorance so you shouldn't apologize for anything, you did nothing wrong. Next time that happens do the crazy thing on whomever doubts you and tell them your not just disabled your crazy disabled...lol
Don't let anyone pass judgement on you, you know why you parked where you did.
Take care! Gentle hugs to you.

Jul 03, 2016 8:31 AM

I get abuse from that too... i dont look like i should be there either...till i sand up and try to walk... i have a 50's style and im covered in tattoos... so people judge...i just wave my blue badge and a fiinger! And go about my day! I kinda think to myself... they/ or someone they know has been wronged by a real jerk at some point... and thats why they are SO angry when they see me... IT DOESNT MAKE IT RIGHT... but at least they are willing to stand up to the real jerks whom park there illegally! They have no right to act the way they do... its frightening to me... & i look hard (im not tho lol)... try to understand they dont understand... but perhaps it comes from a good place :) best wishes for a better day x

Hugs 🤗

Jul 03, 2016 8:34 AM

I meant to say... i use the crazy card if im pushed... they soon back off! Nice call WTB X

Jul 03, 2016 10:25 AM

I'm covered in tattoos and I have also had people stare at me when I get out of my truck in a handicapped parking spot. I only park there if I am really feeling badly. Otherwise, if I can park close enough, I don't bother. I live in an area where there are a lot of elderly folks that really need the spaces (even though I can rightfully park there and feel like I'm 103). I've had people make horrible remarks like "I didn't know they gave handicapped plates to elephants" and other really rude remarks. I'm sorry that happened to you. Sending you gentle {{{Hugs}}} and prayers that this does not happen to you again. 💕🙏🏻🌻😊

Jul 03, 2016 11:44 AM

People can be so cruel... that is ignorance and uncalled for... sometimes im really ashamed of the human race x

Gentle hugs Always
& be proud of ur ink ⚘

Jul 03, 2016 7:23 PM

I have seen people who put a sign up in their vehicle whenever they park in the handicapped spots stating that while they don't appear to be disabled, they have a legitimate issue and that they are legally parking in space. I dont know what to suggest to you... i dont have a parking permit myself and this is one of the reasons why.

Jul 03, 2016 9:25 PM

Thank you for all the support! It's awful to feel hypervigilent and even more self-conscious, after all the effort of getting out. Maybe the fight against invisible illnesses will lessen some day.

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