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People don't take me seriously

Mar 27, 2017 10:06 AM

I find it really hard to be so young because adults usually don't take me seriously. They think that because I'm just a teen that I'm not smart or intelligent enough to join in their conversations. I prefer hanging out with adults when they come over because they just sit and talk. But so many people don't think I'm intelligent. Or at least not as intelligent as them. They don't take me seriously. And being sick makes them think that I am just lazy. I'm not lazy or dumb (skipped 4 grades, finished the middle school summer reading program in two days when I was 7, ect). How do I get adults to treat me with respect? Not the respect that a parent or a leader should get of course, but the respect that any human deserves. I feel unwanted and a burden all the time. I need help. Any advice?

Mar 27, 2017 10:21 AM

I am so sorry. I wish I had an answer for you. Living with a chronic condition is hard enough.. But trying to deal with it as a teen is even harder.

Have you discussed these feelings with your parents and are they supportive in what you say?

I imagine it can be hard for adults as they only see the years that separate you. They may believe that since they have had more "hands on" experience in life that they couldn't possibly learn from someone just starting out in "life". Truth is - you all could learn a lot from each other. My best advice would be to continue to treat them with respect. Maybe let them know you enjoy being with them and that they often give you new insight on issues. For me - all.my life I have been treated as you mentioned - so often I will pose something I want to talk about as a question. As it's being discussed I continue to ask questions that pertain to.my thoughts on the issue. Usually it gets them to at least think about what I was wanting to say without them feeling like I was pushing my views. I hope that made some sense. :)

Mar 27, 2017 10:23 AM

Thanks so much Mimikay! That helped me feel a lot better. :)

Mar 27, 2017 10:38 AM

Am.so glad. Have a good week Sydney.

Mar 27, 2017 11:10 AM

Honey, I'm almost 40, and sometimes I swear that if I hear "You're too young to have so many health issues..." that I'm just going to scream! Mimikay gave you some great words of wisdom, and all I can add is keep your chin up!

Mar 27, 2017 11:21 AM

Your not alone, young old reguadless people treat others with less and less respect and if your hurt or sick then it can get worse. I'm sorry for your pain lil lady. I have teens in the same boat. It's a crappy world until we/ you make it smile

Mar 27, 2017 2:00 PM

I share your frustration. I was the same way when I was a teen, and now that I'm older it hasn't changed. I travel internationally a lot for work, have to network with big-leagues, or just try to spend time with other older adults, and the entire time I'm hoping they don't find out I'm 23 or have haf chronic pain for a decade. Because as soon as they do, they start treating you differently. It's incredibly frustrating.


Best I can offer is to not let yourself be pushed aside. Don't let your own worries about your age make you afraid to put yourself into the conversation. You know you have valid questions/comments, so let them be heard. And, in time, the adults will look to include you. Once you hit 21 people tend to stop asking your age and it becomes easier.

Best of luck!

Apr 05, 2017 3:21 PM

I understand. I'm 23. It's frustrating.

Apr 05, 2017 3:22 PM

I try to use humor. Just know you're not alone!

Apr 05, 2017 6:41 PM

SydneyInvisible,

I have been in the same boat and I found that when I write in a blog site I can get my voice heard. I have fought with my challenges all my life. My writing helps a lot

Apr 05, 2017 10:27 PM

Everyone deserves to be treated as a human . My daughter is 13 years old and I never send her away when other adults comes over . When I was a kid I was always sent to my room . So I understand how you feel. . I learn a lot from my daughter because we let eachother in . Communication is always a great thing . That way it will build trust between you and your parents . And honesty has to be there on both ends.

Hang in there. I am sorry for what you are going through.

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