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Jun 12, 2016 12:49 PM

I'm originally from Florida and when my friend called me this morning and asked if I saw the news I knew it couldn't be good. Last night Orlando had the worst mass shooting in the US history, 50 dead and 53 injured and someone that is close to my friend was thier and has underwent 2 surgeries I don't know the outcome of the second surgery yet, but if you could please pray for this person and all affected. Only one officer was injured, thanks to his helmet it saved his life! It breaks my heart that my hometown community was attacked like that, I didn't sleep a wink last night, maybe that's why. They are also calling for blood donations, they have so many wounded that they need blood, so if your from Orlando and are capable of giving blood please do so. My friend is in line right now giving blood and it's a long wait but they desperately need the blood. If you read this far thank You! Orlando needs all the prayers they can get and I'm headed back there to visit family and friends next Month. Hope everyone is safe!

Jun 12, 2016 1:47 PM

Anytime, I care for all my pain family and all my friend's. I just want to make sure all is safe.

Jun 12, 2016 6:39 PM

I heard about this today, early morning news. But late this afternoon my daughter updated the stats and I was even more shocked and saddened. It just goes to show that we all need to be vigilant everywhere and at all times. I'm praying for all those involved or affected by this! 🙂💕🙏🌼

Jun 12, 2016 10:50 PM

Flappys, yes it sure does! What Scare's me is both my babies will be driving soon and with what happened today just makes me even more scared for the world they are growing up in.

Jun 13, 2016 7:18 AM

I understand, having 6 grandkids. Where has the safe world we grew up in gone?

Jun 13, 2016 10:24 AM

We are living in perilous time's, and I'm afraid nowhere is safe anymore. I remember being able to go anywhere with my friends but as soon as the street lights came on I had to be home or that wooden spoon was going to make contact with my bottom. I more afraid of that wooden spoon then anything, so I had total respect for my parents. Most kids now a days just don't get it the punishment we got when we were kids, because they threaten to call child protection services.

Jun 13, 2016 10:40 AM

My youngest threatened to do that once. I told go ahead, but she should pack her suitcase and plan to go with them to live elsewhere. She never threatened it again, and I think she was 1-3 grade them. Lol. I stopped spanking and went to grounding as each hit 5th grade, and spankings were only 3 swats appropriately on their bottom. I got beat occasionally so I promised never to do that to mine. Actions without consequences creates little monsters, selfish & greedy, all about "me, myself, & I-tis!" Look at the young man whose mom snuck him out of the country, and the one who got 6 mos for rape! Really, that's consequences & responsibility? And I've got family who lets their kids control everyone& everything around.

Jun 13, 2016 8:50 PM

I hear ya! Wheny kids get out of line or don't do thier chores, I take away thier Xbox and and ground them, works BC every time! I don't even have to remind them to them to do thier chores anymore, if I do it's a rare occasion and the Xbox is mine again and no friends over for a week.

Jun 13, 2016 10:22 PM

Thankfully the injured are recovering and the dead have all been identified. Thank god the police were able to get remaining hostages out and took the shooter down in the process. Prayers for the families and friends.

Jun 14, 2016 12:18 AM

Okay, as a teen, I may not have the same experience as my elders. Fine. However, I would like to say that horrible things have always happened, and are nothing new.
Orlando is a horrible tragedy, and I found myself feeling numb, especially with my community and the thought of being targeted as a school. I fear that a tragedy may one day be the end of my school, because we're known for being accepting and "weird, gay, cuddly, whatever".

Yes, parenting effects the future. But the past is not as glorious as we like to imagine. We have taken over country after country, and become basically the youngest world empire. Fun!
Our communities, NOT JUST OUR PARENTS affect us. We are born with personalities, only some of which can be tamed through treatment. In my "community" aka school, we are not perfect, but we rely on each other. I have watched incredible narcissists become people who don't make me want to hide.
Yes, there is peer pressure. It sucks at times, but holds us accountable during group work.
Peer pressure is part of why I go to school no matter how hard I have to fight to be there. Some people will be happy that I came to share this burden. WE WILL GET THROUGH.

Children are individuals, too. They/we have needs, and punishment is not always logical. My old frond got thrown around, merely for being the oldest sibling. She was just expected to clean up all the messes, and take the abuse. I'm sure I didn't see as much as was happening behind closed doors, but I invited her to my house as much as possible. To escape.
Another girl needs to eat. She literally will become depressed and get mood swings, just because of food. It's not her fault, is just how her body reacts. The funny thing is she's very thin.
I have four cousins, siblings, all boys. They are allowed to fight each other, but it's boredom. Hand one a guitar, one a baseball, one anew suit, and one a lollipop, and boom. Peace, for a minute at least.

We are individuals growing up in a different society. Instead of parents watching their kids, you see them being babysat by technology. Here, take my tablet, it'll keep you quiet. Then patents don't watch the kids at the playground. So you get bands on cooperative play. See saws and merry-go-rounds , banned. But those were the things I grew up in. Where age didn't matter. Parents were watching, the kids knew it. Babies and teens could get along. We didn't fall of, we jumped or crashed or way into the sand. Sure we had bruises but at last we were given a chance to fall.

Besides, in a different time, the idea wasn't "cellphone equals safe." We didn't have e-news shoved into our face every time we turned on anything worth seeing. There was news, but it was more local, so tragedies hit close to home.
Now we are distant, like with history. Or horror. The high school shooting led teachers to create my school, where community would come before facelessness. That was local, and if you hear his name you get chills. Yet some people have forgotten. Our teachers were there, or parents were there. How are we already joking about a school shooting within the last decades?

My sister and many love American Horror Story, but there's distance. I'm alive, you're dead, time to celebrate. Like with history. The country we stole that's been stolen forever. Now we have a base there while mainland must watch with weary eyes. We threaten a nation, not one but many. So where are we now? We don't like to mention the native masses we've murdered, but why do we not count them in "biggest massacre in history"?
Why can my dad drive his taxi and meet two men who are happy we don't literally run away and glare at them.

Hmmm...rant done. I don't know if you'll get my point. The point is, history is the past, our community is present. Now let's see what we can do to limit the damage and learn from it

Jun 14, 2016 12:42 AM

@ferretbandit you said it all so well. For those of you who haven't met me, I will be open and say that in 24 and bisexual. Being a young disabled queer woman means that I will always be an easy target for anyone who may want to manipulate or hurt me. But the thing is that as you all have experienced with your chronic pain, the world is not always accomidading and accessible. I was not always disabled and I didn't really notice how few public places had accessible ramps, elevators or even an electric button for the door. I get that there is a huge generational gap between a lot of us here, but This isn't about raising your kids to be home on time or you take their Xbox away. This is about people being MURDERED for loving who they love. It's nothing new and we've had a lot of people in the LGBTQIA community murdered least this year before this massacre. But imagine this, imaging a safe place, an accessible place with an elevator and a ramp, in a world of death and horror and suddenly it's taken from you. The elevator turns into a useless box, the stairs become a rock climbing wall and the ramp is now so steep, you could use it as a short walk. That's how it feels. It feels like our only safe place is being ripped from our hands so fast that our fingers are left bleeding. I understand some of you aren't pro-gay marriage or anti-gender neutral bathrooms, but please do yourself and everyone around you a favour and please read up on LGBTQIA history. Please learn about what's okay and not okay to say and do. Please honour those who were murdered in cold blood by educating yourself on the 50+ people who will never again be able to smile, to hold the hand of their loved one, to come home to mom over Christmas. Imagine if you will if one of your kids were gay or trans and you wouldn't know until they were murdered in a gay club just trying to have a good time. Please don't talk down on the grief the community is feeling rn. Please let us mourn. Thanks.

Jun 14, 2016 10:54 AM

I was in Chattanooga last year when 5 men died just because they were at a military recruiting office and training center. On 9-11 thousands of people died because they were on a plane or had gone to work that day. Now 50+ people were killed just because they were enjoying the nightlife. I am sure some of the victims were employees just trying to do their jobs, one was a singer just trying to perform his gig. These were all people that had their lives ended because of terrorist attacks. All the deaths are senseless except the shooter, he deserved to be shot to stop him from hurting more.

Jun 15, 2016 10:31 AM

Mixerholly & Ferretbandit, I apologize if something I said was offensive. I'm simply commenting on how the world has changed since my generation was growing up as children; how many of the children (10 & under) of today are not being cared for, interacted with, or taught decent moral kindness and respect for all. We didn't have to worry about ourselves or friends going out in public places, only to be gunned down by someone. Ferret mentioned gadgets being the babysitters, and she's absolutely right. My own grandchildren are given gadgets rather than being played with, or taught how to respect each other, or others property, and others in public. My generation that has watched these changes, over the past 2 decades, are very concerned for both your generations and those growing up behind you. What will this world be like when you are our age? That's all we were commenting about.

There's no disrespect for the LGBTQIA community here. I cried as I watched the news unfold, and every night they tell more personal stories by those who lived it I cry again. I hurt for each and every life lost and those affected by that terrorists actions. It's not just the LGBTQIA community that is hurting and grieving over this. Anyone who has compassion and respect for all people are also hurting. My nephew is gay and I love him dearly. I knew he had friends in the Orlando area. One of my first reactions was to contact him to check on his friends, many who I know. Thankfully his friends are safe. But it does not lessen the pain I felt over the lives lost and those injured. I'm sorry if you misunderstood what was being said among us older generations. I'm continuing to pray for healing of all. 🙂💕🙏🌼

Jun 15, 2016 1:04 PM

All I wanted to do was to check and make sure all my pain family from Orlando was safe.

If you knew me then you would know I didn't mean any disrespect. I am from Orlando that is where my heart call's home. My brother is gay and is married to a wonderful man. I pray nightly for my community down in Florida and for those affected.

I just believe that we have to be vigilant about our surroundings and what's going on because you never know what can happen. For instance the same night as the shooting the Walmart my sister worked at a guy came in thier with a backpack with unknown bombs and because someone was paying attention the guy was arrested and couldn't carry out his deed. My sister was working when that happened! Could you imagine the deviation if someone wasn't paying attention?

Again no disrespect intended.

Jun 15, 2016 3:41 PM

Moparmom, I'm so glad they were vigilant, and your sister and everyone else is safe! Hugs!! 🙂💕🙏🌼

Jun 15, 2016 6:29 PM

Yeah me too! Her co workers are so sweet and they spoil my kids rotten when we are down lol! They are like my Family. But, I'm sure they are going to want to stay off the sidewalks when we come down this time, my oldest has his PERMIT! 😱😂

Jun 16, 2016 1:48 AM

Sorry for my rant. I was feeling emotional and scared. I just feel like every human looks back on the past as "the good old days" even if it felt like hell in the moment. Sorry again

Jun 16, 2016 9:33 AM

Ferretbandit, there is nothing to be sorry for. I understand where you're coming from. This is a scary world we are living in and I for one am glad that I'm not bringing up and children in this mess. Everyone has opinions and we are all entitled to them. The wonderful thing about this community family is that we can express them safely and not have anyone screaming at us for how we feel. The tragedy in Orlando is terrifying and disheartening. People gunned down just for who they love. These days the news keeps spewing story after story of people being shot, stabbed, raped, kidnapped, etc. You're right, Ferretbandit that these things are nothing new. Just know that back in the day, it wasn't so highly publicized. We went out all day with our friends and all of the parents in the neighborhood knee one another and looked out for each other's children. It felt safe and we didn't really have a care in the world other than getting grief if we were late!! I had my share of the wooden spoon and the belt. Not good memories but taught me that for every action there is a consequence. If I did wrong, it wasn't going to be a happy ending. It didn't take long for me to learn what was acceptable and what wasn't. My heart goes out to all the victims and their families and friends that were needlessly targeted and killed. I pray that all that were injured heal quickly and completely and that the families and friends of those killed can find some peace in their hearts and souls. We are all people and out stay on this earth is temporary. We don't know how long we have here. We should all be helping one another get through the hard times, celebrate the good ones and treat one another as we want to be treated. 💕🙏🏻🌻😊

Jun 16, 2016 10:28 AM

Ferretbandit, no apology necessary. I just wanted to clarify my comments. It's somewhat funny, the comment "back in the day," because for each generation, their growing up years do seem better than their adult years, especially when you reach your 50's. 😉 My 30 yo daughter just made a similar comment a few days ago, comparing their activities outdoors to her children/stepchildren's activities. She put in one of those blow up pools just to get her kids outdoors. I remember my first introduction to computers in high school, 2 decades before desk tops were made available for personal use. Like that grand monstrous machine that took up a whole room, compared to our computerized tablets & phones of today... Who would have thought then what we have now could even be possible? Everything changes. It saddens me to see the bad changes, and I worry about the younger generations, will you all be able to enjoy safety and fun as you grow up to raise your families. And just this morning my hubby said someone's public chat was hacked and used to threaten 2 clubs in Atlanta. It's a sad world that any of us should even have to worry about gathering in public places. Hugs & prayers that you have a better day today with less stress and fear. I know you've been struggling since the earthquake. I'm just very glad you have your dog to help calm you! 🙂💕🙏🌼

Jun 16, 2016 9:43 PM

Flappys and Alwayz couldn't have said it any better.

Ferretbandit, you don't have anything to apologize for. This community is here for one another no matter who you are, or what's happened. We love you.

Jun 17, 2016 1:41 AM

I'm glad you guys get it. I'm also hearing people say "the good old days" just at the end, of anything really. Seniors (high school) moving on, talking about how the school was so much better when they arrived. Or just my own experience. Looking back, I'd say elementary school was fun and simple. But in the moment, I came home sobbing every day because of bullies, my parents were splitting up, my only friend was in a clique, and I was haunted by eyeballs when I tried to sleep. Not a good time, but still "the good old days" of my micro lifetime.

Jun 17, 2016 12:07 PM

Hopefully you can have better times to replace those memories. Hugs & prayers you have a good weekend with your Dad for Father's day! 🙂💕🙏🌼

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