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Nov 17, 2015 8:54 AM

On my way as fast as we can get to the hospital with my aunt, all ambulance's are out and she can't walk 5 feet without being totally out of breath and I am worried that the aortic stenosis is gotten worse and her heart is racing out of her chest and I know this is not a panic attack because she is confused and don't even know what time or day it is. Please pray if your the praying type! We are stuck between a rock and a hard spot with her heart and getting the surgery done until a cancer doctor says she can. Feeling stressed and not to mention in a flair up!

Nov 17, 2015 11:43 AM

Looks like I will be sleeping atva hospital for the next several weeks, they are admitting my aunt at a heart hospital for a fib now! Add that to her aortic stenosis and CHF and cancer and we have a deadly combination. Waiting on an ambulance to transport to take her and I have to go home and grab her hospital bag I forgot and grab mine as well as take out dogs and pack food for the next several weeks for me! Thanksgiving in a hospital, not what I had in mind.

Nov 17, 2015 12:58 PM

Thank You Gotogef, we have all been moved to the halls we are under a tornado warning now and it's serious!

Nov 17, 2015 1:14 PM

Oh wow. You just can't catch a break. Im so sorry that you and your aunt are going through this. I hope the storm blows over soon and everything works out.

Nov 17, 2015 2:27 PM

Moparmom, please take it easy. You don't need to be in an accident. I'm praying for you all right now. Faith...fully aim in trusting Him. He knows what's needed. May the Lord keep you safe traveling, and help the doctors to help your aunt, His will be done in Jesus's' name, Amen! (((Hugs))) πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Nov 17, 2015 5:26 PM

Thank You Flappys, well they put her in ICU so I won't be able to stay with her and when she comes home it maybe on hospice. I was told tonight she was not a candidate for the tabur surgery to replace the valve, so I maybe looking at planning a funeral soon. They cannot get her heart rate down so not sure if medical comma is in the works but a possibility. Please pray for her she means so much to me and my kids!

Nov 17, 2015 6:45 PM

Wow you are in the wars. I hope like crazy your Aunty pulls through and is as tough as you. It seems like she and you have a lot on your plate and much to consider in the coming weeks. It sucks that you are spending anytime in hospital but at least you will have lots of company. I hope you feel better and i order you to rest up. Sending gentle hugs xxxx

Nov 17, 2015 6:57 PM

Bless you b y the powers above

Nov 17, 2015 7:07 PM

Thank You all, got off the phone with her doctor not to long ago and hospice has been called in for home as the doctor says that's the only way she can be treated at home, she is really weak and can't undergo any anethisia ever again. So her heart disease is killing her "sooner than later" as the doctor says and she don't have long to live.

Nov 17, 2015 8:20 PM

So sorry to hear Moparmom! Spend what time she has left loving her. I watched my Mom fight with everything she had for 45 days at this very time of year. She left us December 10, 1994. One day after my youngest nephew was born. But, as hard as it was, and still is, I know she is no longer hurting. And miracles happen every day so while you are loving her don't give up hope either. Keeping you in my thoughts and sending you cyber hugs.

Nov 17, 2015 8:50 PM

Moparmom, I pray you'll have her long enough to have some special time for her, you, and your kids. Letting go of someone is the very hardest thing to do. My mom was strapped down suffering with tubes, and could only move her eyes. The moment I told her we loved her but wanted her to let go and be at peace, her eyes locked with mine and within seconds she was gone. My hubby's dead passed away at home five weeks after learning he had terminal cancer. Treasure the memories and know she loves you and your kids, as much as y'all love her. I hope and pray you will have at least a little more time with her! (((Hugs))) πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Nov 17, 2015 8:59 PM

Sorry for everything you and your aunt are having too deal with. You both will be in my prayers. Sending hugs your way.

Nov 17, 2015 9:21 PM

Moparmom, I meant to tell you, I wish I were there to help you through and stay beside you. I'd hug you and let you lean on my shoulders. πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Nov 17, 2015 10:28 PM

Thank You all reading these made me cry, you have no idea how these prayer's and hugs and word's of love and your experience have touched me! I pray everyone has a restful and painfree as possible night! God Bless and I love you all! πŸ˜˜πŸ’•πŸŒΌ

Nov 17, 2015 11:57 PM

I send support your way as well as hugs. I know what its like to have a loved one die. Sometimes its for the better so they wont suffer anymore. Cherish the time you have left and know she will be pain free. Im here if u want to talk.

Nov 18, 2015 12:27 PM

Moparmom, sending prayers and {{{Hugs}}} to you all and hope that the doctors have made your Aunt comfortable and are able to make her better. Will be standing my for updates and will keep sending you positive vibes and prayers.πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»

Nov 18, 2015 1:31 PM

Thank You Alwayz, right now I am faced with the hard decision of putting her in a hospice in a hospital or doing the hospice at home. There are so many things in the mix with her heart and the cancer but yet I don't want her to be alone when she gets to that point. They still can't get her heart rate under control and they have her on oxygen right now because she can't breath well. Don't know if they would have her go home on it if that is what is decided

Nov 18, 2015 1:47 PM

Moparmom, my uncle went to hospital and had cancer and heart issues and came home on oxygen. He also had a visiting nurse. I can't imagine having to make that kind of decision. My heart is with you. {{{Hugs}}}πŸŒ»πŸ™πŸ»

Nov 18, 2015 3:36 PM

Well the hospice Rep. Came up and talked with us and we are taking her home on hospice and when I was signing the hospice paper work it felt like I was signing away her life, so for now I think I'll bury myself in my music, have a good cry until she comes home tomorrow.

Nov 18, 2015 4:25 PM

Amanda, I am going to have to write that down on a sticky note and put it on my bedside so I'll see it every morning. Thank You for the reminder, my emotions are all over the place!

Nov 18, 2015 4:31 PM

Mopar, I actually have, "when your eyes are on the storm, you'll wonder if I love you still. But if your eyes are on the cross, you know I always have and I always will." That's what I'm listening to right now because for me, it just has a soothing quality. Be blessed,

Nov 18, 2015 4:33 PM

Mom, I was a hospice nurse until the pain and memory loss got too bad. It was an honor to be a part of someone's end of life here on Earth. I can't tell you how much I loved that job. Hospice will have nurses, aides, counsellors and pastoral services available to your Aunt and you/family. They will handle her meds, any equipment she needs and will work to keep her pain and shortness of breath managed. Please don't hesitate to use them even in the middle of the night. It may have felt like you were signing her life away but what you really were doing was giving her the best care she can receive at this time in her life. I will be praying for you and your Aunt. God bless and keep you both.

Nov 19, 2015 5:38 AM

Moparmom, through hospice you are helping your aunt & bringing her home for whatever time she has left. Whether she can express her feelings or not, I'm sure she is very grateful to come home, rather than stay in the hospital. As Iann said, use the assistance hospice can provide, especially to help your children cope. You are always in my thoughts and prayers! (((Hugs))) πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Nov 19, 2015 8:16 AM

Moparmom, you didn't sign her life away. It's ok. The good thing is that she is coming home where she can feel safe and familiar and then they will send hospice in to check on her and keep watch on her health. I am sending you some supportive {{{Hugs}}} and prayers that things will go along smoothly. Know that we are all here for you and when you feel like things are getting tough, lean on us.πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»

Nov 19, 2015 11:33 PM

*Hugs* And I will pray for your Aunt! I will also pray for you and your whole family.

Nov 20, 2015 12:08 AM

MoparMom like Flappsy and Alwayz said you did not sign her life away. You gave her the gift of being at home surrounded by her loved ones, when the time comes for her to go home to Heaven to be with our Heavenly Father. They will keep her as comfortable and pain free as they can.My Mother fell and broke her hip during surgery to repair it she had a heart attack and a stoke all that was functioning was her brain stem.She lived for 7 days, the hardest thing I ever did was have my sister and brother and myself sign a DNR form they kept her comfortable as much as possible and it was coming to the point of putting in a feeding tube. All the grand children called on the phone and I held the phone where she could here them talk to her then I told her it was ok to let go and go be with our Dad and my baby boy. SHE waited until the 6th night when my husband and my brother stayed with her the next morning after my sister and I got there and they had left to go home it wasn't 20 min when she let go and went home to our Heavenly Father.

Nov 20, 2015 12:34 AM

I will keep you and your Aunt in my prayers sending y'all love and hugs. Psalm 23 The Lord is my shepard; I shall not want.He make the me to lie down in green pastures; He lead the me beside the still waters. He restore the my soul; he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake. Yea though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for though art with me; thy rod and though staff they comfort me. Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies : thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life; and I will dwelling the house of the Lord for ever. Amen. I pray that this my bring you and your Aunt comfort. I will be praying for y'all, sending love and hugs to both of y'all.

Nov 20, 2015 12:49 AM

@ moparmom, as you have heard from many you are doing all the right things, I was a nurse and no matter what decisions you have to make they are always going to be hard and you will be second guessing yourself. But trust me when I say that she knows that you love her and has her very best interest at heart. I agree with others when they said use the services of the hospice nurses and hospice team. That's what they are there for, that is their specialty. You just spend time loving her and letting her know and feel that love from you. It's soo hard to let someone go!!!! make some cherished memories and hold on to those. Let her know that everything is ok and that if she's ready to go then go ahead and go that you will miss her but you understand and will be ok. I'm so sorry that you and your Aunt and your family are going through all of this, pray without ceasing. Pray that if it be God's will to heal her then he please heal her, but that if it be God's will to take her home then please take her home and pray that she goes peacefully without any pain. You have my loving thoughts and prayers sent your way along with lots of gentle hugs, I have ears to listen if you need someone to talk to and I have shoulders that you can cry on. We are all here for you. Try to rest when you can and keep your body hydrated and nourished because you need your strength to be able to take care of her and yourself. May God bless you and keep watch over you throughout this storm. I also pray that all will cease with the floods and rain and storms outside so everyone can remain safe. philippians 4:13, sais...... I can do all things through Christ, who strengthens me. And psalms 46:1 my favorite verse. God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in times of trouble. Prayers said and sent to you my friend.

Nov 20, 2015 2:35 AM

So sorry to read this sad news you've gotten although if they have had a full happy and loving life their ready? Plz keep us posted and I will include you in my daily meditations.
So often anymore I'm sad I've woken to a body of pain and how can I do 24hrs. We have no choice it seems. Blessings to you and your family. Yes stress will bite you. Try 5 deep slow breathes every hour. It will calm you down some🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺🌺

Nov 20, 2015 6:15 AM

Prayers being sent for u ....Grace and Mercy! Did hospice care for my Dad a few yrs ago, what a wonderful experience to walk him to the door...I will treasure it always.

Nov 20, 2015 2:29 PM

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I'm so sorry that you are going through this.

Nov 21, 2015 1:26 PM

Sorry I haven't updated yesterday or today, as soon as she was brought home by the ambulance, the hospice nurse showed up and I was busy from there taking care of her my kids and trying to get my never ending flair to calm some if possible and then yesterday I had to be at the kids school to help out with the snowcone, popcorn and cotton candy fundraiser and I got home about 2:30 and have been doing receipts for the school ever since and are still doing so. ( the total money from the recipient totals school gets a portion to buy food for less fortunate kids) 2 Garbage's full em lol! Anyway, my aunt has pretty much given up, she only has enough energy to go to the bathroom and back to her chair. I just wish she wouldn't give up so easily on life. I know she is ready to go, but I'm not ready for her to go! I've had my head in my music to keep me strong for her and my kid's because they will need mom a whole more after she is gone. Learning to "Just be Held" is hard but I'm working on it, Amanda and Flappys.

Nov 21, 2015 2:34 PM

Mopar, I'm still working on "just be held" right now. Struggling emotionally with something myself.

Nov 21, 2015 3:18 PM

Amanda, I'm here for you if you need to talk. No matter what is going on here at my crazy place I am always here for my pain family. Because my house will always be crazy lol. Prayer's and love and soft gentle hugs! πŸ˜˜πŸ’•πŸ™

Nov 21, 2015 3:25 PM

Just struggling with the notion that this thing has increased in size. In June, she told me it's probably not cancer, but I either want it out or they need to do a needle biopsy just to be sure. And was reflecting on stuff tonight.

Nov 21, 2015 6:25 PM

I can fully understand my Aunt found hers in July and didn't say anything and she let hers get out of control but the thing with my aunt is, that she is old and in really poor heart health so they can't treat, but you can and you can fight it which ever the outcome.

Nov 21, 2015 11:04 PM

Molar, I am sad for you that you have it saying on your mind that you have signed away her life. Don't doubt yourself. I think inside you knew you made the right decision. You were willing to stick close to her while she was in the hospital even if it took several weeks. But hospitals are cold and inpersonal. They smell chemically. You get to take her home to her home where she can identify the smell of her home. The house will be cozy and she will be in her bed. She will still have you by her side. You will be able to make a Thanksgiving Dinner if you can instead of enjoying the hospitals efforts with her. You will enjoy that together whether she knows it or not. You will know it. It will give you some peace and I hope it gives her some too. I hope they make her time comfortable. You are in my thoughts. I hope I did not say anything to make you sad. But it looks like you made the best decision you could make.

Nov 21, 2015 11:43 PM

Thank you profiler, it's still hard to process and try an prepare myself for and to be strong for the kids afterwards.

Nov 21, 2015 11:58 PM

Mopar, I know you are worried about everyone else, but please don't forget to take care of yourself. I had to sign the paperwork taking my Mom off dialysis then cared for her around the clock until she was gone. Like you I was worried about her, my kids, her comfort, etc. I was so focused on everything else I didn't take care of me (I think I was afraid if I slowed down I would FEEL and fall apart). After she passed I kept busy right up to when I got sick from not taking care of me. She has been gone 4 years now and I am still dealing with the repercussions of not taking care of myself. So please take care of you too. I am praying for you and your family.

Nov 22, 2015 4:10 PM

I went back and updated my pain drawing and today makes a 70 day flair from stress

Nov 22, 2015 4:26 PM

Mopar, please go do everyone in your house a favor and put on your music, and go have a good cry. Please remember to Just be held. You can do this. Blessings.

Nov 23, 2015 11:48 AM

Today the hospice's Chaplin is coming at the perfect timing, please continue to pray for my Aunt, she is going down hill steadily each day. Thank You Lord for sending the Chaplain today after a rough week.

Nov 23, 2015 2:13 PM

The chaplain remembered us from when my father in law was in hospice care and then past a month later, that was a year ago and half ago, I still haven't had time to catch my breath on that but it was good to be able to to to the chaplain today. He will be making regular visit's every 2 week's. I never thought I would be facing the death of my Dad and my Aunt at the same time.

Life is short, Love your family while you can and cherish each moment you have with them. Love and prayer's to all! πŸ’•πŸ™

Nov 23, 2015 9:11 PM

Moparmom, my heart aches for you. I pray that the chaplain can bring you some much needed peace and comfort. Know that your pain family is here walking beside you through this difficult and distressing time. Feel free to lean on me, I have two shoulders (use the right one, it's not as bad as the left... LOL!!!) two ears to listen, two eyes to weep with you and two hands to hold yours when you need to. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I am sending you gentle and loving {{{{Hugs}}}} and prayers that with our help, you will be able to get through this sorrowful time. You'll be in my thoughts. I pray you are able to have a restful night's sleep and find some peace in your waking hours. πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»

Nov 28, 2015 1:32 PM

Update: Aunt is weaker today and I just have to vent for a minute, I get really tired of other people telling me how I should care for her, I've been taking care of her for 7years now and now when hospice is called in I have a couple people in my family telling me how to do things with her and take care of her! It's driving me nuts! I've said something several times to these people and they still continue to do it! My aunt is still very mobile and has her witz about her, I keep my aunt occupied and don't let the fact that she is on hospice depress her now that I got her out of that stage! It's day in day out! Sorry I had to vent and get it off my chest before I blew up on someone!

Nov 28, 2015 1:58 PM

Hang tough. I know what a difficult roller coaster it is that you are on when you are trying to keep someone else from giving in to their pain while you are fighting your own... Just a guess; but maybe your relatives feel guilty that they aren't doing enough to help and think that they are supporting you by offering helpful suggestions, or maybe they just feel helpless to do anything to ease her suffering or yours. Just a guess because we went through something similar in our family when my dad was sick. Poor Mom was fielding everyone's suggestions and ideas. She had her routine and knew what she was doing, and we all wanted to find ways to make it easier on her.

Nov 29, 2015 11:23 AM

Moparmom, what is really sad about that is you've been taking care of your Aunt for 7 years. You've done well by her this far and since she is Mobil and has her wits about her and you're keeping her active, I'd say you're more than on the right track. It's always the people who are never around all of a sudden have to jump in and give their two cents to make it look like they've been involved in the process all along. I don't know if it's out of guilt or what the motive but it is frustrating. I love upstairs from my Parents and I take them to appointments, drive my Dad 89 miles round trip to the VA for his medical needs and also drive my Mom wherever she needs to go. I pick things up, run errands and do the best I can with what I've got to offer. You listen to my two Sisters (one older and one younger) and you'd think I do absolutely nothing for them and that I just take up space. Meanwhile, they are BOTH cancer survivors (thank God) and guess who was sitting right by their side during doctor visits, ER, surgery and treatments. Yet they treat me like I'm less than the dirt under their feet. It's hurtful but I've gotten used to it. God forbid something happened to one of them, I'd still be the first one running to their aid. So, you do what you've been doing and not worry about them. Since your Aunt had her wits about her, I'm sure she tells you how much she appreciates what you do for her. No worries about venting, that's a lot to carry around with you. Hang in there, we're all here to support you. {{{Hugs}}} and prayers.πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»

Nov 29, 2015 3:00 PM

Alwayz, it breaks my heart that your family treats you so badly. My brother was the same way. He lived about 45 minutes from my parents. Just far enough to not help much but close enough to think he knew what was happening and criticize, demand, and interfere. After they were both gone he raked me over the coals and cut me out of his life (like I wanted in it.) I always kind of hoped some day maybe we would work it out enough to be civil, but I was done being the one trying. He died this past spring in a freak and frankly suspicious accident ( fell off a less than 1 story ladder,and hit his head while home alone). I was his sister and his wife or kids couldn't even call me. A distant cousin did or I would never have known he was gone. He was one of my abusers when I was little, so with everything I didn't even go to his funeral. I knew I wouldn't be welcome there and really didn't want to deal with the fall out and PTSD going would have caused. So now all my family of origin are gone, parents, sister, brother. I'm just grateful I have such awesome kids, and a woman I call my sister because she is in all ways except blood. Families can be such a source of pain when it all goes bad.
Mopar, hang in there. Take comfort in knowing you are giving her what she needs right now. Let the rest just Roll off your back like water. Maybe you could tell them "ya know I thought of that but Hospice seems to think this is what is best. They're the experts so I think I'll try it their way for now." When people try to tell you what to doπŸ™‚

Nov 29, 2015 4:38 PM

Aunt's doing better today, I'm praying she will be here for Christmas. I have probably overdone it today with cleaning and reorganization and putting up the tree and decorations for Christmas. My whole body is killing me, so tonight it will be a hot bath and my rice sock and my meds with an early bedtime.

Alwayz, thank you and I'll be praying for you, it's not easy to take care one one person let alone 2 people when you have to live with chronic pain.

Thank you everyone for letting me vent and for the special words of wisdom you have given me, it means a lot to know I can always count on you guys/gals to be there just to listen. Y'all are in my thought's and prayer's always! πŸ™πŸ’•

Nov 29, 2015 8:52 PM

And you are ever present in my prayers Moparmom! May God give you the strength to get through this. Sometimes, but not always, those who try telling you how and what to do, are doing it because they don't know what else to do or say. I had this happen between the deaths of my grandfather & my mom, three months apart. Just try to ignore them. You don't need the added stress of even responding. (((Hugs))) & prayers for you. Rest when you can. Lean on God. And lean on us.πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Nov 30, 2015 7:40 AM

Thank You Flappys, to be honest I wish they wouldn't say anything, it gets irritating and they have transitioned to telling me how I need to raise my kids! I've raised them by myself for 15 years you mine as well say. I don't need anyone telling me how to raise them now, especially when they don't have kids.

Nov 30, 2015 9:39 AM

Well I will specifically pray they don't! (((Hugs,))) πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Dec 01, 2015 8:01 AM

She is getting harder to wake up, but we wore her out yesterday as she helped the kid's decorate the Christmas tree and I got some wonderful pictures of her and the kids in front of the Christmas tree when it was finished. Praying she makes it Christmas.

I woke up sick this morning feeling nausea so I pulled out my nauzeen tablets to try and get the nausea down, here's praying.

Have a good day everyone! I pray your pain is lite and your day is Blessed! πŸ˜˜πŸ’•πŸ™

Dec 01, 2015 10:00 AM

Moparmom, you and your family are in my prayers. What a blessing that you were able to get those wonderful photos and that she was able to enjoy trimming the tree with the kids. Such treasured memories. I hope that she does make it to celebrate Christmas with you. I'm sorry you woke up feeling sick. There are all sorts of things going around and being run down and having a compromises immune system, it stands to reason that you pick up whatever goes around. I hope that your medicine helped to take it away. I am sending you lots of positive vibes, love, {{{Hugs}}} and prayers for a peaceful and blessed day with less pain. Hang in there, we're all here for you. πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»

Dec 01, 2015 10:10 AM

Moparmom you and your family are in our prayers

Dec 01, 2015 1:51 PM

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Dec 01, 2015 6:54 PM

Moparmom, there's so much going around right now. My daughter works in a daycare and she's been sick for the weeks. Take care of yourself and try to avoid others who are sick. Let them know not to come see your aunt if they are sick. I avoided visiting my uncle when he was dying because my aunt was also worn down and my cousin was fighting cancer. Hopefully others will understand and not exposed you all.

Lord willing, your aunt will be with you all on Christmas. The tree trimming with your children will be treasured memories for each of you. Rest up with saltines, ginger ale or ginger tea. (((Hugs))) & prayers for each of you! πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Dec 03, 2015 6:37 AM

Things around here have been crazy as usual, my poor baby girl has been suffering with a migraine for 3 days today, I hate that her meds are not working and the migraine is causing her mouth and teeth to hurt. I am doing all I can and I'm frustrated that there is nothing I can do to take away her pain! I feel so helpless. 😭

Aunt is hanging in their, she is still hard to wake up in the mornings but praise God she is still here with us!

Praying everyone wakes up with lite to no pain and has a blessed day!

Dec 04, 2015 7:02 AM

Late yesterday my mom called to give the bad news about my sister in law and my brother had lost their baby boy! 😒 I was so excited about being an Aunt again, I am an Aunt to a baby in heaven now, please say a prayer for my brother and my sister in law, the are taking real hard. My sister in law is under a lot of stress with her 10 year having just had open heart surgery.

I did receive some good news about my dad though, my mom took him for a second opinion on the LCDD and he was misdiagnosed! He don't have the incurable blood disorder! Christmas came early for our family on my dad! Pray you all have lite pain and a blessed day!

Dec 04, 2015 12:39 PM

Moparmom, in so very sorry about the loss of your beautiful, baby nephew. It is heartbreaking and I can't imaging the kind of pain you feel. I am sending you gentle {{Hugs}} and prayers to help you get through this time. I wish I could make everything better for you and all of my pain family. Please, if you need me, send me an email and I'll give you my cell phone number πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»

Dec 06, 2015 11:51 AM

So far today is a good day, especially for my Aunt, she is still weak but she is getting around a little better today.

Tonight is our county's Christmas Parade so I am going to take time and take the kids to watch, I love Christmas!

Pain is still having it's way with me, but rest and relax until it's time to go to the parade and maybe I won't hurt as much, or take my meds before I leave. Have a lite pain day all and I'll be praying for everyone! Sending my Love prayers and a gentle hug to all. πŸ˜˜πŸ™‡πŸ’•πŸ’–

Dec 06, 2015 11:55 AM

You enjoy yourself!! I hope that the parade brings you such joy watching it through the children's eyes that you don't feel your pain. I wish you a fabulous day and evening and am sending {{Hugs}} and prayers your way that your Aunt continues to remain stable and you have a blessed Christmas. πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»πŸ˜Š

Dec 07, 2015 9:00 PM

Moparmom, I'm so sorry about your brother & sister in law's baby boy. Having had a miscarriage myself, I understand the devastating pain. I'm sorry for your pain too. But what a wonderful blessing on your dad, and that your aunt was feeling a little better! Praise the Lord for blessing your family! I hope you and the children enjoyed the Christmas parade. Get some rest and sleep well. πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Dec 14, 2015 6:54 AM

Sorry I have been away so long, I have had my hands full and this is the first chance I have to update everyone. My Aunt has gone down hill and it doesn't look like she will make it to Christmas. My son and daughter both have been sick as well so not only was I having to care round the clock for my aunt, I was having to care for my kids sicknesses, the kids are over being sick now and go back to school this morning. I haven't slept in a week and I myself have that flair that hasn't gone away yet, but I am managing. I will try and keep everyone posted as I can. Prayers to all and know I am praying for you all! Love, Gentle hugs and prayers going out to all! πŸ˜˜πŸ™πŸ‘ͺ

Dec 14, 2015 7:59 PM

Today has been a long day, My kids are such blessings to me. They came home, did their homework and went and sat with their Aunt while I got dinner on and let me have a minute to myself so I could rest my back. Hospice nurse came out and listed to her heart and it is beating very slow and she has been sleeping alot during the day. We also had the CNA come out and the Chaplain showed up as well, so it was a very very busy day. Pray everyone is having a lite pain or non at all, Good night and God Bless! πŸ™πŸ’•

Dec 14, 2015 9:37 PM

Prayers are going out for you.

Dec 15, 2015 11:50 AM

Hospice has me stopping all of her medications now, she took another drastic turn last night, it took me 3 hours to try and wake her and when I finally did she couldn't drink anything, or even hold a cup, so they are coming out to give her a Foley cathaider because I can't change her anymore, my back can't handle it, even with the hoist. Love hugs and Prayers. Hope everyone has a great day!

Dec 15, 2015 1:18 PM

Moparmom, my heart is aching for you. I am so sorry that your Aunt is declining so quickly. I can't imagine the sadness you are feeling. With God's grace, she will drift off to sleep and peacefully cross over into His kingdom. My thoughts and prayers are with you, my hand is there for you to hold. You have been so selfless in taking such good care of your Aunt when you suffer with such pain. Sending you much love, gentle {{{Hugs}}} and prayers that you are able to find some peace during this difficult time.πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»

Dec 15, 2015 10:18 PM

Thank You Always, it's been a trying and tiring week for sure and it's gotten even crazier now that my son may have the chicken pox's, will find out for sure tomorrow as I got him an appointment with the doctors office. Well I'm off to bed so I can try and get at least 2 hours of sleep. God Bless you Always and Thank You again. You are in my daily prayer's. Live, hugs and prayer's πŸ˜˜πŸ’•πŸ™

Dec 15, 2015 10:27 PM

Oh moparmom, I am so sorry to hear of this. My heart aches and prayers are going out for you and her. I'm sending big gentle hugs. πŸ’–

Dec 16, 2015 8:03 AM

Thank You Phoenix, Happy Birthday! I hope you have a wonderful day with no pain! πŸŽ‚πŸŽπŸŽ†

Aunt kept me up most the night trying to pull out the cathaider, it's going to be a long day! I will get a short break from it, son has a Dr's appointment today to officially get the Chicken Pocks diagnosis for the school. Have a Blessed day all and lite to no pain!

Dec 16, 2015 8:12 AM

Moparmom, hang in there. I can't even imagine what you're dealing with. Having been catheterized in the hospital after a 9 hour surgery, I know how uncomfortable it is. She's probably not understanding what is making her uncomfortable and is trying to get rid of that feeling. I wish there was something that I could do for you to make it better. All I can do is assure you that I'm here for you and that you're in my thoughts and prayers. {{{Hugs}}} πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»

Dec 16, 2015 12:28 PM

Thank You Alwayz, I am very appreciative of your prayer's, that's all we can really do.

Dec 18, 2015 10:17 PM

Have to vent a little, it's been a long rough day today, to the point I want to strangle the same person trying to tell me how to take care of my aunt, its still a non stop battle, I had to tell that person nicely that I've been taking care of her for 7 years now I know what I am doing and that Hospice seems to think the same thing, so much so that they said I should take up nursing. I haven't slept in over a week or two, I've had to move to sleeping on the couch in the room where my aunt is sleeping so that if she needs anything I can get to her quickly. She is in alot of pain most if the time now, that even the morphine's not working. So now o am currently waiting on the Hospice nurse to come out. Please just continue the prayers for my aunt and for me for strength to keep doing what I am doing. My flair has not gone away and I do believe it is from stress of everything and having over done the physical side of everything, but when it comes to taking care of her its 24/7. Sorry for the long rant and I'm sure I'm not making any sense at the moment, and I am sorry it's sleep deprivation. Have a blessed night all and you will be in my prayers! Sending love and hugs! πŸ˜˜πŸ’•πŸ™ pray that y'all have a lite to no pain.

Dec 19, 2015 2:38 AM

Moparmom, try not to waste any of your precious energy on someone who doesn't know what they are talking about. You've been doing this for 7 years and I'm sure this person has been of no help during this time. (You sure KNOW you're doing well if the hospice people are telling you that you should take up nursing). I'm so sorry to hear that not only are you in a flare, sleep deprived and now sleeping (or trying to) on the couch, that your Aunt is in constant pain. It has to be very hard to deal with. My prayers, as always, are with you and your family daily. Sending you love and gentle {{{Hugs}}} that you can get some rest and that your Aunt's pain can be relieved by Hospice. You're all going through more than your share of pain and stressπŸŒ»πŸ™πŸ»

Dec 20, 2015 9:23 PM

Thank you Alwayz, unfortunately I have to waste my time on this person because they go behind my back and do what I said I didn't want done with my Aunt. I am having to learn to nap when she is napping. The problem with that is when she napps its for 20 minutes at a time, and of course I feel more tired after that. So I am seriously considering putting her in respite care for a couple of days so that my body can catch up with me and maybe try to get my flair under control. Praying for all and that y'all have a lite to no pain! I will also be checking in sometime to check on Jenna update's.

Dec 21, 2015 5:14 PM

Today has proven to be the worst yet, Aunt is totally gone in her mind anyway, She asked for water and I get it to give to her then she flipped a switch and threw it at me and said I was trying to kill her, and then she started bawling and she flipped a switch again and started to throw punches at me, and in the middle of all that I was trying to give her medication for her anxiety! Finally got her talked down an hour later and was able to give her the medication for the anxiety and arranged for my kids to stay at their friends house for the night. Prayers to all and I will check in when I can, gotta get some sleep and try to get rid of the flair.

Dec 21, 2015 6:53 PM

Hey there Momopar wonder woman! You are strong and loving. Ask Hospice if they have respite care they can offer you, or 24 nurses aide assistance. I know you are tired and drained and hurting (physically) ... But what you are doing is so loving , selfless, and very very honorable. You are loving your Aunt all the way thru her transition. I know it feels overwhelming and tiring but you are a true blessing to your entire family. Keep it real simple with as much as you can. You are Phenomenal! Keep on deep breathing and when you can , get off your feet. I say all of this with lots of love. I have experienced this same kind of life situation. Love and blessings, Terri

Dec 22, 2015 8:07 AM

Moparmom, you are in my thoughts and prayers!! What Terri said is all very true. You're such a lovely person and what you're doing for your Aunt is really a selfless and wonderful act of love and compassion. I am sending you love, gentle {{{Hugs}}} and prayers that you have a peaceful and light pain day. πŸ’•πŸ™πŸ»πŸŒ»

Dec 22, 2015 9:50 AM

Thank you both, I did get ahold of Hospice, they have me giving her Lorazapam every couple of hours now that I was finally able to get the first dose in her and it's helping, she is sleeping restfully. Yes, it is tiring but I wouldn't do anything different. She helped the kids and I after her nephew left the kids and I. Love this women and would do everything in my power for her.

Dec 22, 2015 9:53 AM

I'm glad they gave you something to help your Aunt settle down. It warms my heart how very much you love her. I know that she can feel it and I know that even in her decline and confusion, she loves you too. Sending gentle {{Hugs}}πŸ’•

Dec 22, 2015 11:39 AM

Moparmom, I've been catching up on posts for days and just got to yours. I am so sorry you've been struggling through this alone. It's good that you'll be getting help. It's sad to watch our loved ones battle through illness and be unable to stop the changes that happen to them. You are a very strong woman, who unselfishly cares for others. As painful as these last days are for your aunt, you are making a difference for her, and for your children. I'm praying for you all. May God call her home in the quiet of sleep, where she will not suffer pain anymore. (((Hugs))) for you & your children. πŸ™‚πŸ™πŸŒΌ

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