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Mar 26, 2016 7:40 AM

You will grieve, be sad, and be angry. You don't need to pretend like everything is "fine". Express all your emotions because they all are natural and belong in your life. Don't be ashamed by living your life and learning along the way. This world isn't #blackandwhite 🌈

I wrote this because my (24year old) sister constantly tells me that I need to be more positive and if I were positive I would feel better. Which is rather annoying because I've always been the "glass half full" sister while all our family believes my sister to be negative and self centered. I'm not saying that's 100% true but it goes without saying.

I only speak "negatively" when I'm realistically talking to her about my illnesses (CRPS and Lyme disease). I don't know how to talk to her anymore because anytime we talk it's 97% about her and when I try to talk about what I'm doing she always says I'm being negative. Maybe if I could talk for more than 2 Minutes on an hour phone call I would say more things and some would be positive.

Anyways I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend and is enjoying the spring that is coming our way! (I hate cold weather) in so happy to see lots of new usernames posting on here! This is a great place to get real information form people living with chronic pain like you or your family!

Mar 26, 2016 5:02 PM

Megan, I totally understand. My stepmom always told me I'd be cured if I were just positive. I could feel my illness laughing at her. Is there a chance you could not talk to her (at least on the phone) and have her at a distance. My stepmom is now out of my life and I feel so much less stressed.

In my opinion, being realistic is not the same as being negative. Plus, even in your words, you were hopeful and friendly even though it was hard to talk to your sis.

Mar 27, 2016 8:36 AM

I am conflicted Megan and Ferret. I understand that there is power in what you speak. But I also think that you have to be truthful. People tell me that I am not suppose to say that I am sick... But when you pick up my medical record there are a number of medical diagnosis that beg to differ with them. I do not think I am being negative I am being realistic. I am not being in denial. I have these illnesses. I am taking all these medications not because I am being negative but because I need them to function daily and to treat the illnesses that has invaded my body. It is always the healthy individuals who is telling the ill individual to speak positively. Do you notice that?

Mar 27, 2016 12:37 PM

MySister,
I think we are saying the same thing. Yes, I agree about everything.

Mar 27, 2016 6:57 PM

Mysisterskeeper hit the nail on the head! As much as I try to stay positive, just because I'm complaining about a worse day doesn't mean speaking negative is the cause of the worse pain day. Take today's increased pain for instance. Yesterday was a great day until I came home from my granddaughter's b'day party. We'd spent 2 hours there and I'd sat on a hard metal chair. I started hurting before bedtime, and it is still here today; not because I'm voicing the facts, but because of the metal chairs we sat on aggravated my diagnosed issues. I'm realistic, and we just cant live on cloud 9 or in Never-never land. Hugs to all! πŸ™‚πŸ’•πŸ™πŸŒΌ

Mar 27, 2016 8:42 PM

Exactly! I'm glad we can all relate so well, it really helps me feels less crazy and alone!
Thank you to everyone for being to kind and accepting ☺️

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