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May 24, 2019 11:32 AM

Sorry I've been offline lately. Thank you to everyone who has left comments on other posts to me...much appreciated! I've been dealing with some depression from post-op pain. And I've been overwhelmed by the total dependence on my hubby to help me with 90+% of my daily needs; all I can do unassisted is dress my upper body and brush my teeth or physically feed myself. My hubby has to help me with bathing, putting on socks and shoes, styling my hair, cooking and preparing my plate of food for each meal, as well as getting my drinks, getting all my meds for me 3x a day, getting me a pillow or blanket it pretty, etc... You get the picture.

It's been very hard to realize I'll be like this anywhere from 4-6 more weeks, according to my doc at my follow up this week. I'm not allowed to bear weight on my left leg AT ALL for this duration of time (I know why after accidentally standing up and shifting onto that leg for all of 5 seconds if that... neuropathy pain out the whazoo!). This means I can't drive either, so I'm having to reschedule some appts so my hubby won't have to take so much time off to get me to appts for my PT and follow up in June. Because I can't bear any weight on my left leg I'm hopping on my right leg with the walker. And I'm finding out I have very weak muscles in my legs and arms. It takes everything I have to stand on one leg long enough to brush my teeth! All this weakness has occurred since my leg injury in November last year. Who would have thought I'd lose so much strength so fast? Anyway I'm not use to depending on anyone for so much assistance and I'm struggling with it. I'm just very very thankful I'm blessed with a loving, caring, considerate hubby!!πŸ’•

Thankfully my pain has improved a lot. Once again I had an allergic reaction to the pain med, Dilaudid this time, and had to come off on post op day 10 due to severe itching and rash. And I have a lovely red itchy rash from the pre-op wash (orange stuff they bathed me with in the operating room). I've been taking Benadryl and using caladryl lotion for over a week to no avail...itch, itch, itch. Good thing is my pain is rarely above a 5-6 which I can tolerate with Tylenol arthritis. But getting in bed last night I sat down on the bed wrong, and wiggling to adjust myself something popped in the hip causing off-the-chart pain! I did not sleep until after 2am, sporadic sleep-wake episodes, and had to get up at 6 am for my 8am appt. Apparently next time I'll need additional time to get ready, due to my shower & dependent needs though, as we were nearly late for my first PT appointment. I feel exhausted and although the pain is improved this morning, after taking gabapentin multiple times with a muscle relaxer & pain med. That's how it is when my pain ramps up; it takes most of the night to get it under control even though it only takes a few seconds to go off the charts! 😲 I've had multiple episodes since surgery where something pops in the hip and the pain gets out of control suddenly, but thankfully they've not been too frequently. The doc said I must not sleep on either side to prevent strating the internal stitches, so I'm having to sleep flat of my back, which is not good on my lumbar-sacral pain and sciatica.

PT went well enough considering. It takes everything I have to get from my bedroom to my kitchen, so the walk from the waiting room at PT to the area I was taken to took several "stop & go's.". Lol at least my tech was very patient. She gave me at home exercises and told me to do them on both legs. I'll go twice a week for 7 more visits before my next post-op check up. I hope & pray I will be released to drive them and start bearing weight on the leg! Until I build up enough strength to walk the very long hall at my stepmom's nursing home, I can't even go visit her. It's going to be hard enough to get through the halls on my narrow walker, where they place most patients for "easy eyes on observation". There's no way I'd get through in a wheelchair even if I had one, which I don't because it won't fit through my own hall & doorways.

Anyway I hope everyone has a safe and blessed holiday weekend (USA). It's going to be super hot here in the SE states; at least we can stay indoors in the AC (we're going to set record highs). But my thoughts and prayers are for all those in the path of the tornadoes & flooding the past week & upcoming weekend, and those who have been displaced from their homes! Please stay safe!! I remind myself often that no matter how bad things might get for me at times (circumstances &/or pain), there is always someone else in worse shape. Hugs love and prayers for everyone to has as painful a weekend as possible! πŸ™‚β€πŸ™πŸŒΌ

May 24, 2019 11:41 AM

I’ve been keeping you in my prayers Flappy! I understand how frustrating it was after the accident. My hubby still makes jokes about undressing me, washing me and dressing me again. It is very hard but just keep reminding yourself that there is where you are at for the moment....it’s not permanent and it will get better. And it really will. Sleeping on my back drive me crazy but again, it’s not forever.
Keeping you in my prayers!!!!

May 24, 2019 3:53 PM

Gabbylynn, thank you so much for that reminder & your prayers! πŸ™‚β€πŸ™πŸŒΌ

May 24, 2019 5:59 PM

It's good to hear from you Flappy! I'm sorry for your increased pain and the problem you are having getting around. I pray you get stronger and have less pain.

May 24, 2019 6:04 PM

Hi Animal I hope that you are doing fine Hug to everyone πŸ™πŸ™πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸŒˆπŸŒˆ Shore fur now my left leg is pain little not sure why ? But I’m deal with it . Later

May 24, 2019 7:04 PM

Hang in there, following Dr instructions is hard but if you cheat you could do worse. Your hubby sound sweet and capable. Give him extra gold stars.

May 24, 2019 7:43 PM

Oh FlappysLady my heart goes out to you. Can’t you get Home Health aides? I’ve been getting all my Pt,OT, nursing care at home. Have UPMC for health insurance carrier. For 6 weeks my hubby assisted me with all my ADL’s for 6 weeks. What a trooper. It’s times like that you
Really see the β€œKnight in shining Armor.” I’m so sorry you have to suffer so much now. But know as each day passes it will get better. We went to the Oncologist today to find out he’s gonna need surgery and possible chemotherapy. I’m trying hard to recouperate so I can help him. We all struggle with what life gives us at times don’t feel bad about the depression shoot lady you’ve been thru heβ€” and back. Hang in there your doing great. Prayers continue and asking the good lord to Bless both you and your hubby. πŸ¦‹πŸ’•πŸ˜˜πŸ™β€οΈ

May 24, 2019 8:55 PM

Hi pain and Flappy I hope that you both feel better soon some day soon. Rest and relax and take time for yourself is what I hear when they say to me )β€οΈβ€οΈπŸ™πŸ™πŸ™πŸ€—πŸ€—. I’m glad I am still in here chat with you guys thanks so much ... Shore have a nice evening

May 25, 2019 9:19 AM

Thank you AnimalLover for the prayers! I'm sure with time it will get easier and I'll get stronger. After all I didn't get walk overnight, thank goodness because that wouldn't mean anything good!

Zetarlov, I'm doing my best not to cheat. But darned if fibro fog or "sometimers" doesn't slip in several times a day (& night) and make me forget not to use that leg...ugh! I keep telling myself "bend your knee up so your foot's off the floor" to try and have a physical clue, but I forget and next thing I know I get up to move around and put it down. Of course it only touches the floor a few seconds before the pain signals me, "hey stupid!" Lol 😲. And you're right, my hubby does deserve gold stars!

Painwarrior, unfortunately my insurance only recognizes joint replacements or cancer or being bedridden as qualifying for home health; it's got very strict regulations.
My hubby's always been my "knight" and has not complained much over the past 30+ years of my health problems. That not to say he's not tired of having new problems jump onboard. But he often says, "Getting old ain't for wimps!" How true!!! Thank you for your prayers! I'll continue praying for you and your hubby to both get better as quickly as possible! Yeah have been battling increasing health issues for many years too. And as much as we get tired of it all, like you said we just have to deal with it and go on.

Shore thank you & I hope you had a nice evening too!

Hugs love and prayers for all of you! No matter what I'm going through I still remember all of your struggles too. And I'm so glad I have you all to lift me up now and again or remind me of things. πŸ˜‰πŸ™‚β€πŸ™πŸŒΌ

May 25, 2019 3:24 PM

Hi all and Animal also andyo all ., I had a very good day . I even got to go to my old neighbor hood . My fiancΓ© took me there. It was sure nuce seeibg my friends where I used to live and the Grave Sites as well.
I’m glad that I have you to talk with as well. How are you all ?
Flappy Hug ty for the prayers also..
My fiancΓ© thanked me that I was with him to help him , he says its times like that where he misses his legs to do things and I’m there to help him out.
We are there for each other and that means the works to me. I’ll be seeing him later also)))
I asked him do you ever miss your one leg he says yes he does .. So I am glad for what I have now even though they bother me at times ..
He even messasges me and I do him free be πŸ˜‚ Lol. Hug to all Happy Memorial to you all .. Shore πŸ™πŸ™πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸŒˆπŸŒΉ

May 25, 2019 3:25 PM

Nice seeing my friends sorry my type is off today lol Shore

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